re: Do you like your in-laws?

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Love my in-laws as they were my own parents.
You married your sister?

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Haha I thought the same thing at first. Either he meant "as if they were my own parents" or he's a bama fan

very blessed to have a great FIL, MIL passed years ago....and only 1 BIL. get along with them great. sports fans, and the icing on top, my BIL works on cars, so i always have that available when things are needed. now, his wife, she's a mouthful, but he does say 'can you just shut the f up' enough for me.

Yep, love them both. They are both fun, funny and supportive.

They're great.

...in small doses.

FIL is an a-hole who's had multiple long term affairs and just emotionally checked out. MIL is a histrionic narcissist, constantly playing the victim, and the most selfish, self-centered person I've ever met. SIL is bipolar and an addict and a borderline (real diagnoses, not just armchair psychology). They all hate each other, and my wife gets stuck playing mediator or secret keeper.

SIL is a sad case. I have sympathy for her. FIL and MIL are just bad people. They were--and still are--very manipulative and emotionally and verbally abusive toward my wife and her sister. Also lack all capacity for remorse and self-awareness.

They take out the frustrations of their own lives and marriage on their kids, but refuse to get divorced because it's a sin and embarrassing and would mess up their faux-rich lifestyle. They have all the same hobbies but don't do any of them together (except drinking and gambling). SIL is unfortunately repeating some of the same patterns in her own marriage.

MIL told my wife she'd never come visit us again if we named our son after me and not MIL's own abusive father. My wife was like, "Don't threaten me with a good time."

I've gotten along really well with the parents of every other woman I've ever dated. I try not to have any interaction at all with my wife’s parents.

Yes, good people. MIL (RIP) was very social, talked a lot, and was always on the go. FIL is quiet, hard of hearing, doesn’t care to talk much, stays home except for a couple trips a week to get groceries or run an errand, likes to tinker in his basement. He is primarily a loner. So, MIL was always out and about, FIL stayed at home and avoided social activities. Strange pairing to me.

I only have a Mother in Law since her father split when she was less than 1. For the Mother in Law, I can understand why the father didn't want to stay around. My wife's family is one of those that if you do something mildly wrong, they will all disown you. Basically led around an awful grandmother who ran everything unopposed who taught them all to be spiteful bitches.

My wife, now sees her family for what it is. We still have limited contact, but honestly it's never a great time. My Mother In Law is one of the worst passive aggressive people I know. But luckily she lives 800 miles away. Earlier, she could really get my wife going, but lately my wife has started understanding and expecting her behavior and not responding to her. She loves her mother because she's her mother, but doesn't really 'like' her.

FWIW, my Mother in Law has never given me any problem whatsoever. She's scared to death of me and has never said a cross or even passive aggressive word to me. I'm not abusive or anything, but I did let her know the day that we got married that I protect my family and don't believe in bullshite.

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and you married their harris loving daughter. Not the sharpest tool in the shed buddy.

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Shares zero percent of their ideology or I would not have married her. We literally have no contact with them hardly anymore because they are not interested in their family.

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They were--and still are--very manipulative and emotionally abusive toward my wife and her sisters.

They take out the frustrations of their own lives and marriage on their kids, but refuse to get divorced because it's a sin and embarrassing and would mess up their faux-rich lifestyle.

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I've gotten along really well with the parents of every other woman I've ever dated. I try not to have any interaction at all with my wife’s parents.

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A few small changes and my husband could have written this.

My MIL is a small Italian woman. Loves her family but may maybe in a Godfather movie way the more I get to know her. She is tiny and sweet but slightly scary.