re: Do introverts just lack confidence?

Hi ! Elliot Rodger here.

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introvert a shy, reticent person. "I'm an introvert and don't like public speaking"

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Im introverted and do fine with public speaking.
I know extroverts who are shy as hell and hate public speaking.

I dont think you understand what an introvert/extrovert really is.

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Calls someone a midwit. Uses incorrect grammar.

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Oh no, a grammatical mistake! Go frick yourself

Generally speaking, introverts would much rather teach or present to a large class of 200 people rather than talking to or socialize with a group of 5-10 people. It has nothing to do with confidence. Many of the most confident, and even cocky, people in the world are introverts.

Introversion/extroversion is one of the “big five“ personality traits. And introversion/extroversion has a heritability factor somewhere between .50 and .60. Meaning it’s largely determined by genetics. Someone earlier said that we are just “wired differently“. That is absolutely true- “hardwired“ from birth.

I always thought that being introverted is more of those situations are draining on you.

Being shy is what you describe.

Like introverts aren’t shy around friends and family, they just don’t like big group settings. they don’t thrive on that like extroverts.

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But ppl want to speak with me, who am I to deny that if it makes their day?

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I usually give them the look like I’ve got shite to do, leave me alone. You shutting up would make my day.

Especially if I’m somewhere with a specific goal in mind. Like the grocery store. I’m not there to socialize.

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We're just wired differently. I prefer being a wallflower as opposed to a mindless, self absorbed social butterfly who craves attention and social acceptance. There's nothing wrong with just wanting to be left alone.

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THIS

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Being introverted is a birth defect in this society. I've missed out on tons of opportunities because I just did not feel like talking to people.

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I've always been introverted, even as a child.

My youngest kid is the same way. When she was like 3 years old, an age where you'd normally expect a kid to be tearing around the house, you'd hardly know she was there.

I'd go look for her and she'd be playing with blocks in her room. She's a normal teenager now, has good friends, almost a 4.0 GPA but she still likes her alone time a lot and her social time in doses.