re: Do/Did you spank your kids?

I was spanked as a kid. do. Also, the school my 7 1/2 year old goes to in Needville, TX has corporal punishment. He is in 2nd grade. Had 2 trips to the principals office for swats.

They called and offered Saturday detention instead. Hell... that was punishment for me. Take him to school at 8am and pick him up at 12. Told them swats. Next time he got in trouble they called with same question. I told them swats and that he had mentioned "they really didn't hurt last time". The principal laughed. That day he came home and said they kinda did hurt.

Big fan of spankings when really deserved.

Spare the rod, spoil the child. Keep in mind that discipline and punishment are two different things. Both have their place. But if you instill discipline, you will avoid punishment. As far as spanking goes, it’s necessary up until the point where the child can be reasoned with. That point varies greatly from child to child. Discretion and discernment are your most valuable tools- and consistency is key. I think consistency is where most of us (myself included) struggle.

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Done early enough, you essentially never have to do it in elementary school, etc. We called it a "pow-pow." I think I remember actually executing it twice on my son (he's 12) and maybe once on my daughter. The point is to make the threat of it as bad as the pow-pow, so you don't have to actually swat them.

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Pretty much my method. We started spanking around 2 with our oldest, only had to do it 2-3 times before he understood. Now we count to 5 and the threat is enough. Starting to do it with my youngest now, never hit hard but enough to scare them straight.

I don't remember being spanked as a kid, but I do remember being threatened with it. So it probably happened pre-memory.

went down a rabbit hole after i saw a mom spank her son at the park by our house. The kid was acting up so i didn't judge. I was kinda proud of her.

Our toddler is acting up and knows we are soft. Time out doesn't work. So my wife and i debated it for a while. It is still on the table but we've finally found a few toys and books that our daughter cherishes enough that taking them away is punishing enough for the time being.

I live in a constant fear of "is this the moment she develops daddy issues" so i doubt ill ever have the balls to do it with her. Now, my newborn son might have another thing coming if he acts like her in a few years.

I read a ton of anti-spanking studies. Might be my own bias but they seemed like they came to the conclusion before doing the work. All of them will say spanking leads to negative outcomes in aggression, depression and etc later in life. Then you read what they are describing as "spanking" and they are lumping kids who were genuinely abused as children with kids who got a smack on the butt

I don't know what the answer is but i was spanked by my dad and hit with a switch by my grandmom. Never once did I not deserve it and probably needed it more judging by how i ended up.

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yes........and, if they spank my grandkids, i'll pull their fricking hair in front of their kids.

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You’re not their children’s parent. So long as they’re not abusing the kids, no spanking isn’t abuse, you ought to support their decisions and act as a reinforcement to the parents.

Spanked my kid once and she laughed at me. Realized real quick that taking away a few minutes of screen time works better than any threat of violence ever could.

I never spanked my oldest daughter (11). It just wasn't necessary.

My youngest, however, is a completely different child than my oldest. The punishments that worked with my oldest did not phase my youngest (5). Spanking doesn't really work either, but it will at least get her attention.

I still haven't found the punishment that works with her. I worry she doesn't have actual feelings sometimes.

Just kidding.

Maybe.

Yes. Did it a only a couple times tops, and that was all it took for them to get in line. Then a simple look did the trick.

Yes....but I did it in a structured way. 1 - 3 swaps with a paddle. I made it a big production so eventually the idea of the paddling was worse than the actual event.

My son is a good kid

Other than the occasional pop when they were toddlers, no. I haven't had to. They haven't given me any reason to. But this generation does alot less stupid shite regularly than us Genx folks did. I was out every weekend night looking for beer and girls. Gave my mom every excuse possible to be anywhere other than at home. My kids (teenagers) and their friends are just different, from a socialization standpoint.

Honestly, it worries me. But college and some independence can fix that...I hope.

Eta; Had my arse whooped as a kid. Belt, open hand, and fist a few times.