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re: Divorced guys, click here
Posted on 8/26/22 at 6:55 am to northshorebamaman
Posted on 8/26/22 at 6:55 am to northshorebamaman
Get your own shite in order. Go look in a mirror. I mean it.
Sure, she might be bad, mean, liar, etc, but I promise you, that the person who lies to YOU the most is YOU.
You need to be able to be happy with yourself 1st. It takes work.
Remove all degeneracy in your life. All of it. Go work out. Push your body. Read philosophy. Eat well. Become better and the answer will present itself.
Stay hard.
Sure, she might be bad, mean, liar, etc, but I promise you, that the person who lies to YOU the most is YOU.
You need to be able to be happy with yourself 1st. It takes work.
Remove all degeneracy in your life. All of it. Go work out. Push your body. Read philosophy. Eat well. Become better and the answer will present itself.
Stay hard.
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Posted on 8/26/22 at 6:57 am to northshorebamaman
Maybe consider an intervention if she truly has a substance abuse problem. This could be the source of everything. Also consider she is dealing with menopause and/or dealing with the issues of the kids leaving the house for school. You owe it to her and the kids to try something to save the family. Divorces are ugly and very expensive. Best of luck.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:00 am to zippyputt
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Divorces are ugly and very expensive.
Truth - ranks up there with the worst things to ever experience. It really sucks when the government and courts get involved in your relationships. Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:14 am to northshorebamaman
Treat it like a business deal. No emotions or feelings. Prepare yourself for a rough time initially. Easier said than done but it will get better.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:17 am to northshorebamaman
It took a while but I separated myself, got custody of our son (cost a fortune but worth it). Didn’t talk to her for a few years while she got herself together and now we are friends and she wants to get back together but it isn’t happening.
I’ve actually gotten used to being a single dad and I really like it. I fish a ton, play with my son, help him with his school work, etc. if she has any sense this will be rock bottom and she’ll realize she needs to put the bottle down. Prayers for you my man, that divorce shite caused me to lose 40 lbs from stress (gained it all back and some once everything calmed down). Hardest period of my life but things are great now, advice….. don’t stress bc it will work out. Your kids are old enough to recognize what’s happening and it will bother them but don’t be the crazy parent that bends over backwards to make them like you, they will know what’s up.
I’ve actually gotten used to being a single dad and I really like it. I fish a ton, play with my son, help him with his school work, etc. if she has any sense this will be rock bottom and she’ll realize she needs to put the bottle down. Prayers for you my man, that divorce shite caused me to lose 40 lbs from stress (gained it all back and some once everything calmed down). Hardest period of my life but things are great now, advice….. don’t stress bc it will work out. Your kids are old enough to recognize what’s happening and it will bother them but don’t be the crazy parent that bends over backwards to make them like you, they will know what’s up.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:18 am to TchoupitoulasTiger
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6) Reduce/eliminate 401k contributions until judgement of divorce. IRA’s are ok to continue.
Seems like a very good list - but curious as to the “why” of this one -
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:18 am to northshorebamaman
Get out
And don't look back
And don't look back
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:20 am to northshorebamaman
Aren’t you a vegetarian?
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:22 am to northshorebamaman
Treat it like a bandaid and rip it off. You have to decide and stick to it.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:31 am to northshorebamaman
Al-anon seriously it helps. If she's willing to seek help there are some really good programs on the Northshore
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:32 am to northshorebamaman
If memory serves me correct, you are a recovering alcoholic and had been doing very well for a long time. If that is the case then you really need to look out for yourself by removing yourself from that environment, at least temporarily to start, and get yourself right. I would start there then take the next step with a clear head and a plan.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:36 am to northshorebamaman
Say goodbye to half your 401K.
Prayers sent.
Prayers sent.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:37 am to northshorebamaman
I'm twice divorced, married for the third time. After time, they are just a memory.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:38 am to northshorebamaman
same situation for me about twenty years ago. I just replaced her with someone half her age and I was fine.
Oh and we need pics of your bitter alcoholic wife.
Oh and we need pics of your bitter alcoholic wife.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:41 am to Shanegolang
Outside of the Lithettes (no pics) best thing that happened to me. Didn't realize how much she had alienated me from my friends and family. Been divorced for 10 years and only see her at graduations and weddings. Don't miss her at all
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:56 am to northshorebamaman
Was she always a raging alcoholic, or is there some chance she’s drinking to mask/medicate another issue that may need to be addressed?
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:57 am to northshorebamaman
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:58 am to northshorebamaman
Personally I would make sure I’ve exhausted all efforts before leaving. A lot of people give up too early and don’t fight for their marriages. That being said abuse, (physical, substance, gambling, etc) can warrant divorce. Like others have stated she may need you now more than ever and you don’t want to regret not fighting. Divorce is the only 50/50 part of a marriage.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 8:00 am to TideHater
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Oh and we need pics of your bitter alcoholic wife
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I just replaced her with someone half her age and I was fine.
You first, show him how it's done.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 8:01 am to northshorebamaman
Rip the band-aid off
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