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re: Divorced baws, tell me it gets easier...
Posted on 6/8/22 at 9:30 pm to The Scofflaw
Posted on 6/8/22 at 9:30 pm to The Scofflaw
It gets way better! It may take awhile though depending on your situation. I was pretty distraught when I got divorced. I'm way better off now, even though I didn't think I would be at the time.
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Posted on 6/8/22 at 9:31 pm to weagle99
PS - Is your ex now on the market? 
Posted on 6/8/22 at 9:32 pm to Mingo Was His NameO
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Facts only, and if those don't work, get a dog that will lick your taint. According to that same wise man, of course
Posted on 6/8/22 at 9:44 pm to The Scofflaw
It gets easier according to Louis CK
Posted on 6/8/22 at 9:46 pm to The Scofflaw
As my brother in law always says, "my divorce was expensive, and worth every penny!" He's been happily married to my sister for 32 years now.
Posted on 6/8/22 at 10:01 pm to The Scofflaw
Every situation is different, but the day my crazy ex finally said she was done was like getting a commuted death sentence. Best thing that ever happened to me and my life is now better in every possible way.
Get your head straight, be there for your kids, and be the best version of yourself you can be.
Oh, and bang some strange asap.
Get your head straight, be there for your kids, and be the best version of yourself you can be.
Oh, and bang some strange asap.
Posted on 6/8/22 at 10:01 pm to Tyga Woods
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Also, a wise man once told me you should lift, bjj, and have great cardio. My life has never been the same.
Need to include bathtub selfies
Posted on 6/8/22 at 10:04 pm to The Scofflaw
I’m 13 years post divorce. It does get easier, I promise. The first 6 months to a years sucks though. As cliché as it sounds take it one day at a time.
Good luck brother
Good luck brother
Posted on 6/8/22 at 10:07 pm to The Scofflaw
Every situation is unique. When I got divorced, it was never difficult for me at all outside of moving and starting life over. But that was all absolutely worth it because I was completely miserable with her. I was at the point where I was disgusted by her and couldn't stand being at home. So when I finally decided I was done, it was a huge weight off my shoulders.
That said, she and I get along just fine now. Heck, even right when we got divorced we were fine. We just weren't right for each other and grew apart after 14 years.
So yes, it will get easier. Just get your mind right and take care of you. Go get some strange and forget about her.
That said, she and I get along just fine now. Heck, even right when we got divorced we were fine. We just weren't right for each other and grew apart after 14 years.
So yes, it will get easier. Just get your mind right and take care of you. Go get some strange and forget about her.
Posted on 6/8/22 at 10:11 pm to The Scofflaw
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tell me it gets easier..
You truly go through all the stages of grief, and your marriage and relationship died. The key is to not rush through each stage and don’t lie to yourself that you’re okay when you’re not. It’s okay to hurt, to cry, and to feel down. But for every bad day you have, try and string together a few good days.
Keep busy with friends and family. Work on yourself. Do things you couldn’t do before. Take the time to grow and really think about what traits you want in a future partner. And don’t settle for less than that.
And one day you’ll meet the person you didn’t know could mend you, and the hurt starts to disappear and so do the bad memories. And it becomes just a thing that happened in your life and not something that defines your life. And you’ll be happy and you’ll wish you had met this person sooner so you could have always been this happy.
There are two quotes from Neil Gaiman in issues from Sandman that helped me process my feelings when I went through it:
“And at times the fact of her absence will hit you like a blow to the chest, and you will weep. But this will happen less and less as time goes on. She is dead. You are alive. So live.”
And
“Sometimes you wake up. Sometimes the fall kills you. And sometimes, when you fall, you fly.”
Best of luck to you
Posted on 6/8/22 at 10:13 pm to danilo
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Need to include bathtub selfies
While eating cereal
Posted on 6/8/22 at 11:22 pm to The Scofflaw
Always going to be harder on the person who didn't see it coming, but it really does get better. Time is the healer, and after a while you'll be wondering just what you saw in the ex to make you want to marry them in the first place.
Of course this usually works from the exes perspective too.
The worst is if there's kids involved. If not, it's a piece of cake once the property settlement is done and you're free to get on with life.
I'm twice divorced and don't give a rat's arse about either ex at this point in time.
Of course this usually works from the exes perspective too.
The worst is if there's kids involved. If not, it's a piece of cake once the property settlement is done and you're free to get on with life.
I'm twice divorced and don't give a rat's arse about either ex at this point in time.
Posted on 6/8/22 at 11:27 pm to The Scofflaw
Trashy
Posted on 6/8/22 at 11:30 pm to The Scofflaw
It definitely does.
Posted on 6/8/22 at 11:35 pm to The Scofflaw
I’m only talking to you if you have kids. If you don’t have kids stop being a queer and get over it. It’s a break up with contractual obligations that you agreed to.
Now if you do have kids, different story. Hopefully you have 50/50 custody. If not, do that. The days of dad having them every other weekend is long gone if you are a decent person with a decent lawyer.
Now if you do have kids, different story. Hopefully you have 50/50 custody. If not, do that. The days of dad having them every other weekend is long gone if you are a decent person with a decent lawyer.
Posted on 6/8/22 at 11:51 pm to SuperSaint
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SuperSaint
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Trashy
We should do an over/under on how long before you're divorced and back in Louisiana trying to get alimony from your wife and her family to support yourself.
Posted on 6/9/22 at 2:22 am to The Scofflaw
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We just grew distant and constant arguments.
This sounds like a typical relationship. Sorry bro - this is just the way it goes.
Count yourself lucky for the good times and look forward to new ones that are coming - we don't all win the lottery of love
I'd love to share all the crap I've been through - it's extensive - focus on yourself and find something positive to do - if it didn't work, it didn't work. There's not much else to say bro.
This post was edited on 6/9/22 at 2:31 am
Posted on 6/9/22 at 5:22 am to The Scofflaw
It does.
You feel like it won’t, but it takes time. I lost 20 pounds during the process and couldn’t sleep. I was a wreck.
Slowly I began figuring out that my life was actually going to be better than before, and not just a little bit. Our two under age children chose to live with me, so she wound up paying me child support.
I know all divorces are different, but it does get easier and before you know it, you’ll begin to see things more clearly with less emotion.
You feel like it won’t, but it takes time. I lost 20 pounds during the process and couldn’t sleep. I was a wreck.
Slowly I began figuring out that my life was actually going to be better than before, and not just a little bit. Our two under age children chose to live with me, so she wound up paying me child support.
I know all divorces are different, but it does get easier and before you know it, you’ll begin to see things more clearly with less emotion.
Posted on 6/9/22 at 5:25 am to The Scofflaw
It doesnt. Good luck. Drink lots of booze.
Posted on 6/9/22 at 5:36 am to The Scofflaw
Went through it once. Was a rough first 6 months or so. About 2 years later met another and been married almost 25 years. It certainly gets better.
Keep busy to keep your mind busy.
Keep busy to keep your mind busy.
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