re: did you get whipped as a child/teenager? and with what?

My mom would take the belt to me. When i would start laughing she would get even more pissed and get her giant hair brush out, lol. That thing hurt

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What in the frick is a timeout supposed to do except for contribute to fat kids getting fatter? "Go to your room and play with your Xbox 360/watch TV".

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Well obviously that's not a true timeout. Research supports timeouts as a more effective strategy. Corporal punishment is rarely used correctly (e.g., immediate), habituation is common (have to get more intensive to maintain effectiveness), and it often escalates the situation, especially when it's an overly emotional response.

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Not often as a kid, but my 18th birthday present was getting gangster-slapped by my Dad, because HE went off and got drunk, and when he came back, I wasn't at work (he was my ride). He was a boxer when he was young, and he knew how to hit people.


Took me a looong time to forgive him for that shite.

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Well that's just straight abuse.

Dad usually used a little skinny belt (1960's, don'tcha know)

Grandma and Maw Maw used switches.

Mom used the fly swatter if it was handy.

LC

Pops tore my arse up a few times with the belt, but I deserved it. Mom would put me in timeout, but that only works on kids who thrive attention. I didn't care and would stay there all day. Also received a few more arse whoopings from dad when I laughed at mom trying to spank me.

yes

rubber belt [ exercise type ]

of course I deserved it

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Well obviously that's not a true timeout. Research supports timeouts as a more effective strategy. Corporal punishment is rarely used correctly (e.g., immediate), habituation is common (have to get more intensive to maintain effectiveness), and it often escalates the situation, especially when it's an overly emotional response.

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I think that is all logical.......if you raise a shithead of a kid that doesnt respect discipline and his parents/adults/peers in general. If you raise your kid to be respectful, then true discipline (a serious arse-whipping) is only needed perhaps less than 10 times throughout the entirety of childhood. You cant just make a statement about corporal punishment and assume that it's all or nothing. It must be used in conjuction with appropriation for the amount of discipline needed. You cant just whip your kids arse every time they dont listen or when they throw a tantrum, because that would be alot of arse whippings that would have to progressively get worse to maintain maximum effectiveness (which is your point). However, to say that "timeout" is enough discipline to stand on it's own without any type of physical punishment is absurd. How can you justify timeout as a just punishment and condemn spanking for the reason of prolonged ineffectiveness when they can just as easily be conditioned and immune to timeout punishment? They must be used together. If anything, spanking when needed combined with talking would lead to less incidents than timeouts when needed combined with talking. Fear from your father is a very convincing thing on a kids conscience when getting dared to do something mischievous by their friends, no matter how canaille a kid can be.

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can tell you its not effective at all. And studies will show the same thing. I never once in my childhood didnt do something for fear of getting my arse beat. Its not preventive. Its retaliatory.

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Ehhhh, that's kind of BS. I definitely didn't do much to get in serious trouble until I was around 18. Didn't drink much at all or do to many of the other crazy things some of my other high school friends did. And it was mostly due to me being concerned over what my parents would do to me if I acted like that. So to say it's "not effective at all" is bull. And "studies" are of course going to show that corporal punishment isn't effective. Who the hell is going to fund a study that says hitting kids works! . The only people doing these "studies" are doing so to disprove the use of physical punishment.

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If you are a parent who whips their kid you can never honestly say "I would never do anything to hurt you" to your kid.

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And this is a bit ridiculous of a statement. I got spanked. I never had anything done to me that did more than leave my arse red for a little while. That "pain" you are causing the kid is miniscule and temporary compared to the lesson you might be teaching them.

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Yep, with a hand or a belt most of the time. And yep, I deserved it.

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I was defiant and the spanking was the only thing that ever deterred me from bad behavior. I never cared about time out, going to my room, cleaning up stuff, etc... I knew I could just get those things done and then go right back to it.

edit: did not fear my parents in general but would not do certain things for fear of a good whipping when dad got home. We did and do have a great relationship so it clearly did not affect me psychologically long term.

Belt and switch here...deserved everyone of them except for maybe two of them. My sister lied on me with those two spankings; however, I'm still "in the black," because there was a lot more than two things I got away with!