re: Did you ask your girlfriends dad for permission to marry her?

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I ended up calling him.

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We had that conversation long before we got engaged. He offered to call as well.


Told him it wasn't necessary.

Yes i did.


It went well. I told him i would provide for her and protect her for the rest of my life. He told me yes. I then purposed to my wife a few hours later

Yes, both mom and dad. Had to wait for my wife to go to the hospital on a Sunday. Then had to haul it to Connecticut. My wife was calling me the entire time.

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at the very least, both parents should be asked. asking the father, whether intentionally or not, still implies that the mother's opinion matters less. the parents should only be involved in the decision if the daughter/son asks her/his own parents for advice.

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It doesn't?

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at the very least, both parents should be asked. asking the father, whether intentionally or not, still implies that the mother's opinion matters less. the parents should only be involved in the decision if the daughter/son asks her/his own parents for advice.

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I didn't say anything to my mother in law because she can't keep her mouth shut. Well, father in law told mother in law anyway and literally minutes before I was going to ask my now wife to marry me, my mother in law blurted out, "Did you know Color is going to ask you to marry him tonight?!"

WHAT. THE. frick.

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I didn't say anything to my mother in law because she can't keep her mouth shut. Well, father in law told mother in law anyway and literally minutes before I was going to ask my now wife to marry me, my mother in law blurted out, "Did you know Color is going to ask you to marry him?!"

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I would be so pissed. This was another reason we didn't tell my mother in law. She can't keep a secret to save her life.

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You know that probably 90% of the stuff you do day to day is based on some brutal archaic traditions.

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I doubt you could name one thing.

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My girlfriend told me specifically not to when we were discussing it. She was against the whole notion of a female needing permission from her father.



Exactly how I feel. I don't want my daughters to feel like I'm going to control them after they are adults.

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The problem is that it's so ingrained into our society that it's expected of the guy to ask the father, and if he doesnt then it's a slight. It's the same thing with buying a diamond engagement ring. Because of DeBeer's chickenshit propaganda coming out of the Great Depression, you can't not buy your bride to be a diamond engagement ring because you will be considered cheap. This country is too caught up in old fashioned trends and doesnt even know where they originated from. DeBeer's is laughing all the way to the bank. Actually, the entire wedding industry is a frickin joke.

Yes. Asked the entire family actually. Left there smiling and got engaged that night. Pretty cool stuff

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You know that probably 90% of the stuff you do day to day is based on some brutal archaic traditions.

I doubt you could name one thing.

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waving and shaking hands was to show the other person that you were unarmed and not going to murder them.

Silverware has blunted points and rounded edges (for knives) because in the Middle Ages, too many people would get angry during feasts and murder each other with their cutlery.

The best man had to do with raiding and pillaging villages as a bachelor party. I believe the best man got his first choice on which women to rape and had the privilege of leading the attack because the groom was already spoken for.

There's 3.