re: Dating someone who has opposite political/societal beliefs

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She’s a great girl but unfortunately a liberal

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She’s a good girl but also a white supremacist, doesn’t make sense

It simply cannot work these days.

I moved to Philadelphia, met a girl, we dated for almost 2 years. Anytime we argued, she'd bring up some random thing I said or did from months before about feminism shite. Example: Before we dated, we had a group of friends at a bar. I comment how a model at the Victoria Secret Fashion Show was a "dime piece" to another single buddy...she brought that up 15 months later to say I was sexist and don't respect women (mind you these women were literally walking around in lingerie)

When I told her I voted for Trump (she did not vote), she did not speak to me for a week. Still, throughout the relationship, she would just get weird for a few days. I'd ask what's wrong and eventually, literally after 3-4 days of her barely speaking to me, she'd say "I just struggle with the fact you voted for Trump. He's a horrible person and you support that."

They are incapable of separating life and politics. She would tell me she was envious that I was able to have rational discussions and not get extremely angry...she simply could not. Trump is in these people's heads and they don't know how to deal.

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She likely feels the same way about you. Feminism means that men and women should have equal rights. You told her you don't believe that. I'm surprised she didn't dump you on the spot.

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No, that is egalitarianism. If she's a third or 4th wave feminist, then she is insane. They think it's problematic and self hatred if a woman wants to be mother and a housewife above anything else. 1st wave, sure everyone should be one of those, but once you start proposing that marriage was system to keep women in line rather than to effectively raise children, then you've crossed the line. Here's the definition of the insanity of 4th wave feminism:

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the fourth wave continues the push against problematic gendered norms that cause the oppression and marginalization of women in society, the intersectionality[3] of these and other interlocking systems of power, and how these contribute to the stratification of traditionally marginalized groups like women of colour and trans women. Fourth-wave feminists advocate (like earlier feminists) for greater representation of these groups in politics and business, and argue that society would be more equitable if policies and practices incorporated the perspectives of all people.

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Honestly it just depends.

I have coworkers that have significant others that are on the other side. They just said it’s an unspoken topic.

I personally couldn’t. My wife and I are both very conservative and y’all a lot about politics and current societal issues. If we didn’t agree on them I don’t know how it would work.

Doesn’t work even if you really love them. The reasons you both hold your political beliefs go deeper than who you vote for or what stance you have on hot button topics.

I think you’d find that your most important values don’t align. That’s toast

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This is the biggest thing. If sometime takes politicians that seriously then they will never be happy in life, in my opinion. It’s too all-consuming and you never escape

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Some of these Leftists think that red states are controlled by Mongolian Hoardes where women are raped in the streets for their babies and people are lynched regularly.

She sounds like the one. I hope you plan on going to Jared after your chat.

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Believe the woman

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I would have said "You're right. That's why I cannot in good conscience vote for Biden. I believe Tara Reade."

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meat is murder

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Yep. And murder tastes pretty good, doesn't it?

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She likely feels the same way about you. Feminism means that men and women should have equal rights. You told her you don't believe that. I'm surprised she didn't dump you on the spot.

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My sister defines feminism as strengthening women, not as equal rights. We have debated on it, but she's fine with more women than men graduating college right now, and still is fighting for more women in STEM degrees. Ain't nothing equal about that.