re: Been single for a while...cause these women are a pain in the arse

If I ever ditch my 30 yr marriage to my wife, I'll never, I repeat NEVER put a ring on another woman's finger again.

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Maybe in Louisiana. Most everyone I know got married after 26. The south is pretty notorious for young marriage/children out of wedlock, so that makes sense. Also responsible for a shite ton of divorces too.

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Even then, the pool is still significantly reduced.

Also, instead of dealing with a kid/baby daddy, you have to deal with the "career woman" stuff and these days it's getting more and more rare to not deal with exceedingly leftism and social media addiction. They are also victims of the dating apps paradigm which severely limits options for the vast majority of guys. Urban-educated women are exclusionary in their own ways that doesn't make a deep-seeded relationship more likely.

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social media addiction

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384938 posts

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it's hard to find a luh bitch when you hustlin 60 hours a week like i do

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Most of my friends didn't meet their spouse until they and their spouse were 25 or older. There were no kids from failed relationships. Maybe people on here ought to try to cast their lines in a better pond. Educated women tend not to have kids in their early 20s.

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Agrees. There's a ton of people in the world. The difference is in your 20s you have more life events that coincide with other 20s, especially in college. At a certain point you end up with mixed aged people via work or otherwise and so the appearance of slim pickings is real.

Also, people become less aggressive daters the older they get, and by less aggressive I mean they get more serious and aren't dating just for entertainment like they might have when younger. These people aren't going to be seen as much in the social scenes of whatever city you reside because they've just stopped the games they played when younger.

Lastly, the decline in religious attendance has hurt a lot of marital prospects, not just through identifying and matching people with similar cultural beliefs, but also decreases the quantity of good opportunities. People are probably just as likely to have met their spouse through an app hook-up or bar meet than they are to have met them in church.

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Not everyone finds the love of their life in college. People all have different timelines. Glad to hear you're happy with how things have gone for you tho.

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"not everyone gets to be a rich, good looking golfer who falls in love in college and gets married. some of us have issues" - tim dillon

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Women are distractions and a drain on resources. And I don’t mean strictly money. More important resources, like time and peace of mind. If I didn’t need a place to put my erection, I would literally never talk to most women, outside of family and close friends. 

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Maybe you should look in the mirror. I married a wonderful woman who I started dating in 1979. She has been a major reason my life has been so satisfactory. And she isn't a unicorn. I've met dozens of women over the years who I think would have made great wives. Again, maybe you are the one who is incompatible.

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It depends on personality. If you ooze "trashy", sure you have little shot.

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While there are exceptions, this is a pretty hard rule. It's not even about personality. The chances decrease as your city gets bigger, too.

Educated women do not "marry down". It's actually the biggest problem in black communities b/c educated black women have extremely limited opportunities due to this.

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Do people not go to bars anymore or other social events?

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I don't know if those events, especially in big cities, are for finding potential relationships. I imagine even if a one nighter occurs, that automatically dismissed the other person. It's pretty socially ingrained that there is a specified, formalistic progression for potential dating partners. Dating apps made this even more structured.

There are tons of gateways in modern dating with exceedingly smaller population of men allowed past each door.

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Rule #1 on a breakup, never let her have the last laugh.

Sure, she can be in a relationship/married before you. Don't you dare let her marry a guy who is in better shape or has his shite together more than you.

When she marries a simp loser as you see it, you need to laugh, don't post on social media, and move tf on. Start lifting, quit drinking, and become someone better.

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Leonard Cohen

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All I ever learned from love was how to shoot somebody who outdrew you.

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It’s because most of the single women in cities are like this.



And these women are extremely annoying.