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re: Beef with girlfriend. Curious to hear from both genders about who's right/wrong.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:28 pm to Ernest T Bass
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:28 pm to Ernest T Bass
Easy decision. If your buddy is truly in a pickel then you help him move.
But something seems off why you can't manage both.
Tell your bud you'll be there first thing in the morning and you have 6-8 hours. You can get a ton done in that time. Then 2-3'ish roll out to the bday party. Everyone wins.
It sounds like you kind of want to ditch the bday party to pound beers and move w your bro. Which is reasonable, but not at the expense of going home to an angry SO.
But something seems off why you can't manage both.
Tell your bud you'll be there first thing in the morning and you have 6-8 hours. You can get a ton done in that time. Then 2-3'ish roll out to the bday party. Everyone wins.
It sounds like you kind of want to ditch the bday party to pound beers and move w your bro. Which is reasonable, but not at the expense of going home to an angry SO.
This post was edited on 7/29/23 at 4:33 pm
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Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:29 pm to Ernest T Bass
If y’all are over 25, tell your buddy to hire movers.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:29 pm to Ernest T Bass
Full disclosure. I’m a woman. Is there any room for compromise? Like I can make it for an hour to say hello after I’ve had a chance to help my friend and take a shower?
My advice is to not look for winners/losers. Although if in the same situation I would understand my husband wanting to help his friend, if that is the case. My husband used to force me to go to shite all the ducking time. He has a big family and can’t draw distinction between 3rd cousins birthday and dying parent. It is all equally important to him. Makes the “forced” party bitter and resentful.
My advice is to not look for winners/losers. Although if in the same situation I would understand my husband wanting to help his friend, if that is the case. My husband used to force me to go to shite all the ducking time. He has a big family and can’t draw distinction between 3rd cousins birthday and dying parent. It is all equally important to him. Makes the “forced” party bitter and resentful.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:29 pm to 14&Counting
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Have to side with the girlfriend here. You already told her you would attend and it’s her sisters big 21 birthday so a special occasion that you are blowing off to help your buddy move? Not a good enough excuse.
Very much this.
OP is in the wrong here.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:29 pm to Hateradedrink
quote:And then do a double with her sister, or just the sister, or PIIHB.
Suck it up and pull a double.
Girlfriend may not be forever... Don't leave a good friend hanging. If she doesn't get it, then she has no true friends in her life and your life will be miserable with her in the future.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:30 pm to Ernest T Bass
Girlfriend - help your friend move.
Wife/fiance - go to the party.
Wife/fiance - go to the party.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:30 pm to Ernest T Bass
Bros before Hoes
You’re in the right
You’re in the right
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:32 pm to MasterDigger
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Full disclosure. I’m a woman
Then, man up. Sounds like you're halfway there already.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:32 pm to LSU_postman
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you bitch out on a friend you've had for life for your bitch arse girlfriend, just give her your cock and balls in a glass jar now because they ain't yours no more. This is one of those early tone setters..not gonna lie. Married 17yrs a d counting Eta: her doing this has about 10% to do with you not coming and 90% on whose running shite. If you know, you know.
This. Your friend needs you and is in a bind. Tell her if roles were reversed youd be helping her move over your friends party.
Priorities are important and if you help your friend he will be there when you need him
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:33 pm to Ernest T Bass
No idea why you can’t do both.
You have 7 days to help him move. Your friend should be literally packing up all his stuff and then he can get his friends to help with the heavier furniture.
“Hey friend, on this day I might have to duck out early for my gf’s sis’ bday party.”
“Okay friend. I appreciate all your help.”
Y’all make shite way over complicated.
You have 7 days to help him move. Your friend should be literally packing up all his stuff and then he can get his friends to help with the heavier furniture.
“Hey friend, on this day I might have to duck out early for my gf’s sis’ bday party.”
“Okay friend. I appreciate all your help.”
Y’all make shite way over complicated.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:33 pm to WaydownSouth
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What??
You said the party is in a few weeks, plenty of time to line up movers
Let me clarify.
I didn't want to write a novel by getting too deep in the weeds.
I told her that based on the closing date, and terms of contract, that he needs to move the same weekend as the party.
I told her that he's not had luck finding a mover that isn't already booked.
Told her that I will try to make the party if possible, but bottom line is if he needs my help I will be there.
You know how moving is, I have no idea how many trips it will take, exactly how long it will take.
To me it's just a friggin birthday party.
It's not ever her party, it's her sisters.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:34 pm to Ernest T Bass
Was this supposed to be an extra special birthday party or something?
Tbh I would do the same. Write your name on the card, and say sorry you couldn't make the party, hope she enjoys her birthday.
Help your buddy.
Tbh I would do the same. Write your name on the card, and say sorry you couldn't make the party, hope she enjoys her birthday.
Help your buddy.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:35 pm to Ernest T Bass
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I don't know if she is just shite testing me, trying to prove she can control me, or what. But I'm about to show her the door if she doesn't let it go.
Well you might as well since you aren’t mature enough to find an amicable solution.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:35 pm to Ernest T Bass
Help your friend. Especially if he's a best friend and helped you move before.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:38 pm to Ernest T Bass
quote:
No idea why you can’t do both.
You have 7 days to help him move. Your friend should be literally packing up all his stuff and then he can get his friends to help with the heavier furniture.
“Hey friend, on this day I might have to duck out early for my gf’s sis’ bday party.”
“Okay friend. I appreciate all your help.”
Y’all make shite way over complicated.
This
Tell your friend to get his shite together and prioritize your helping time, i.e., yall move all the heavy shite when you're there.
He should be able to do the rest in 7 days easy.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:39 pm to Ernest T Bass
You told a woman you would do something and you’re not following through?
Brother, it’s over for you. She already has Jody on speed dial
Brother, it’s over for you. She already has Jody on speed dial
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:40 pm to Ernest T Bass
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Her sister is turning 21
Her sister has been sucking shots and slurping cox for a long time. Her birthday don’t mean nothing.
Date your girlfriend’s sister instead. Or both. It don’t matter. You got her, you can get another just like her.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:40 pm to Bubb
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How long have yall been together? Were you supposed to meet her family for the first time, or this is one of those bring your s.o. or everyone is going to ask her why she's single
Almost a year.
I've met her parents & sister.
It's not like this was some big event out of state where I was supposed to meet her family etc, that would be different.
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:43 pm to Ernest T Bass
Realistic expectations.
You’ve been given a clear sign of coming attractions. Remember this thread if you choose to tolerate her unreasonable expectations.
Your girlfriend or her sister really don’t care if you make the birthday party. The true motive is to use you as protector/driver/bar tab while she gets obnoxious and drunk with her sister.
At your age, you likely don’t realize how rare it is to have and keep a true friend in your life. You’ll see in time. Go help your friend and consider her ultimatum a gift. Don’t blow this.
Your move.
You’ve been given a clear sign of coming attractions. Remember this thread if you choose to tolerate her unreasonable expectations.
Your girlfriend or her sister really don’t care if you make the birthday party. The true motive is to use you as protector/driver/bar tab while she gets obnoxious and drunk with her sister.
At your age, you likely don’t realize how rare it is to have and keep a true friend in your life. You’ll see in time. Go help your friend and consider her ultimatum a gift. Don’t blow this.
Your move.
This post was edited on 7/29/23 at 4:44 pm
Posted on 7/29/23 at 4:43 pm to Smelder
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Moving guys costs like $600. Give him $300 and go to the party . Your back is worth more then $300 anyway
I am a little pissed at my friend about one thing.
He should've stipulated that the move out date was contingent on being able to book a mover.
I think he was so geeked about getting a full price cash offer that he was willing to agree to anything.
Damn, now y'all have me thinking I should just go to the party !
This post was edited on 7/29/23 at 4:44 pm
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