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Anyone here that doesn't live in their hometown...
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:17 pm
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:17 pm
...feel extremely guilty when leaving it after a visit?
I live about 12 hours from where I grew up, primarily due to a job that I took out of college that led to a much better job.
I feel guilty and all around shitty leaving my parents and friends for days every time after visiting...I want my parents to have their own lives but I don't know that they ever really recovered from empty nesting and they basically look forward to my visit(s) all year...my friends I grew up with, two of whom are probably still my best friends, aren't young anymore and I'm starting to feel like I'm missing out on their lives.
I know this isn't the place to come for posts like this...just wanted to see if anyone can relate because I feel like maybe I should just try to think about it differently.
I live about 12 hours from where I grew up, primarily due to a job that I took out of college that led to a much better job.
I feel guilty and all around shitty leaving my parents and friends for days every time after visiting...I want my parents to have their own lives but I don't know that they ever really recovered from empty nesting and they basically look forward to my visit(s) all year...my friends I grew up with, two of whom are probably still my best friends, aren't young anymore and I'm starting to feel like I'm missing out on their lives.
I know this isn't the place to come for posts like this...just wanted to see if anyone can relate because I feel like maybe I should just try to think about it differently.
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Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:19 pm to zacata88
Dude don’t do that to yourself. You have to
Live your own life. Love your folks and hometown friends but always be true to yourself.
If you wanted to live in your hometown you would.
Live your own life. Love your folks and hometown friends but always be true to yourself.
If you wanted to live in your hometown you would.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:22 pm to tigerinthebueche
You’ll always be from there, and it’s where you call home, and a part of you will always miss it, but life goes on...
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:22 pm to zacata88
Congrats on the ghey
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:23 pm to zacata88
Not really. It's changed so much since I left, it's no longer the place I left. Was talking about it with my mama the last time I was there, I'm not sure I would want to move back at this point.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:23 pm to zacata88
Not guilty at all. I always tell people that Natchez is a great place to be from...but no chance in hell I would have the career I do now if I had stayed anywhere close to SW Mississippi
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:23 pm to zacata88
I have no family left there so no
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:26 pm to zacata88
No friends stayed
Parents situation sounds similar
Parents situation sounds similar
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:27 pm to zacata88
Hell no. My hometowns GDP is meth.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:27 pm to zacata88
I lived in my "hometown" for 16 years because that's where my folks chose to live. I've lived 27 years in the town I live in now because I chose to, and my folks and the rest of family followed me. So, nope, don't feel anything when I go back to see the extended family.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:28 pm to zacata88
It takes me 10 hours to drive back to my hometown for the holidays. After 2 or 3 days I can't wait to leave.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:29 pm to zacata88
Every single time. Friends ask when I’m moving back, parents talk non stop about how much they miss having me here. It’s heartbreaking.
But I can’t live my life for them.
But I can’t live my life for them.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:29 pm to zacata88
frick no. I love visiting my parents and all, but I cannot wait to get home to BATON ROUGE after a couple of days. Let that sink in for a moment.
I left that shithole for a reason.
I left that shithole for a reason.
This post was edited on 12/30/18 at 9:33 pm
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:30 pm to zacata88
I live 15 miles from where I grew up. I've lived in other places but it was just easier for me to be near family when I had kids. I can understand either perspective.
We will probably leave when my daughter is done with school. I don't hate it here but I belong in a place like Montana.
We will probably leave when my daughter is done with school. I don't hate it here but I belong in a place like Montana.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:30 pm to zacata88
I'm from Slidell. Haven't really gone back since we lost everything in the storm. I know it's changed, but I wouldn't know the extent because I don't even want to go back, honestly
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:31 pm to AbitaFan08
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Friends ask when I’m moving back, parents talk non stop about how much they miss having me here.
This is exactly the situation I'm in. Glad someone could relate, but also glad that this doesn't seem to be the common experience.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:32 pm to zacata88
I currently live 17 hrs away from where I grew up. I feel no remorse at all because I fit in down South way better than I did up North.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:33 pm to zacata88
It got really awkward the other night. I was asked when I’d move back, and I have the polite answer of “we don’t know, no plans to but you never know.”
They kept pressing, with things like “you’ll change your mind when you have kids, etc.”
I finally had to tell my good friends, who have chosen to live in BR, that I hated the idea of ever moving back. It was the only way I could get them to quit the inquisition.
Still feel bad about it though. I’m sure they took it personally to some degree, and that’s not how I meant it.
They kept pressing, with things like “you’ll change your mind when you have kids, etc.”
I finally had to tell my good friends, who have chosen to live in BR, that I hated the idea of ever moving back. It was the only way I could get them to quit the inquisition.
Still feel bad about it though. I’m sure they took it personally to some degree, and that’s not how I meant it.
Posted on 12/30/18 at 9:33 pm to zacata88
Not an issue. I don't visit BR
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