re: Anyone have loved ones in nursing homes?

Yep, my Dad has been in one since June.

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,I’m thinking most have got their taxes in along with this virus and just quit.

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Tax time & end of year there is no staff to be seen
As it is there isn’t enough staff on the weekends because no one wants to work

Like I said before, they didn’t get breakfast until 10 am yesterday & didn’t get a shower until after lunch (it’s usually 6 am)

Administrator here hoping to put some of this in perspective for those of you having an understandably difficult time with visitor restrictions.

Every precaution is in the best interest of your loved ones and others around them. Most of these restrictions are out of our control and have been made requirement by our licensing agencies and/or companies. We are encountering debilitating staff shortages due to virus fears, school cancellations, and exponentially increased workload to an already challenging demographic of caregiver. Supplies are unavailable. Limitations to dining capacity paired with social distancing requirements are forcing multiple dining times in various community commons to accomplish meal service, each with its own periods for disinfecting surfaces, utensils, equipment, etc.

We must screen each and every individual entering, and in most cases, leaving the facility. Most people have no idea the foot traffic we usually see and still see with the involvement of third party agencies as part of collaborative care. Normally scheduled activities involving external facilitators are having to be conducted by internal staff to retain social programming needs.

The amount of family contact we are experiencing is staggering. All of this is on top of an already extremely fast-paced and demanding day-to-day which we have to continue fulfilling. We understand how incredibly hard this is on you. I only ask that you remain patient with us, as this is also incredibly hard on us.

You’ve entrusted the care of your family to us. We understand the gravity of that and the pressure now cannot be understated. We are on the same side. Keep trusting us.

My husbands 102 year old grandmother. We have not visited with her in a few weeks. Thankful for that, but kind of sad too. She is of very sound mind and , but I am sure it’s hard for her to understand how panicked people are. I really hope we see her again. Never thought I’d type something like that, but despite her great health it’s a really possibility we don’t. She actually lives in a residential retirement community, but that have shut the doors to the public.

Get someone in the nursing home to let you FaceTime her. Some facilities have ordered iPads for this purpose.

I have a G-father in a home and they have been on no visitor protocol since last Thursday and room lockdown since Sunday. He is doing OK but he "gets" it. He is mainly missing the two rounds of golf we play every week.


Some advice to those with love ones in nursing homes... bribes. I got to know his day and night nurses his PA and the CNAs and other workers that have direct contact with him. They all get flowers delivered on their birthdays, Christmas cards with gift cards donuts or other goodies for the nursing station on a regular basis. The extra money I spend on this is well worth it. They treat him and our family like gold.

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That’s fine if I can’t go in, but staff needs to be quarantined.
There is no difference in me visiting & the trailer park queens that work there going in & out & bringing in their to go food.

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My wife is the nurse making these decisions at her Nursing Home. I promise you that they are incredibly hard and painful decisions for her to make. She loves many of her patients and their families like her own.

This has to be done in this situation. For the patients safety and the employees.

They have to be there. You dont. They also have families and and children to take care of.

At her nursing home they tried allowing visitors for a few days and having them wash hands, take temp, and answer questioners. Between CDC, lawyer, the owner recs, and the ability to make sure that no one infected came in it became clear quickly allowing no visitors was the only the way.

All employees are having to take temps at night and before they come in. They have more time to clean and disinfect without visitors there and they are still having trouble keeping up.

I promise you your family is in their best interest.

We arent even letting our kids go to church or visit friends to try to make sure they dont get it and give it to my wife.

Whoever downvoted me can frick off.

If you dont want your family there and can take better care of them yourself then go pick them up and take them home.

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My wife is the nurse making these decisions at her Nursing Home. I promise you that they are incredibly hard and painful decisions for her to make. She loves many of her patients and their families like her own.

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It sounds like your wife works at a nice facility & your family seems to be going above & beyond for her residents.
Unfortunately that is not the norm in Louisiana.

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If you dont want your family there and can take better care of them yourself then go pick them up and take them home.

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Unfortunately I am outvoted with the rest of my family

Again, they are not protecting anyone from anything if they are taking in new residents or moving them around into different wings