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re: Anyone ever had someone send you a suicide note?
Posted on 2/6/17 at 3:17 pm to Gris Gris
Posted on 2/6/17 at 3:17 pm to Gris Gris
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I'm glad to know the family is going to handle the funeral/burial arrangements. I was afraid that might fall on your shoulders as well since they were estranged from him. If they loved him, they are going through a living hell right now.
If there are services, will you be attending? I know you mentioned the distance, but not where that might take place.
It was something I was worried about, as well, but prepared to take on. I will be attending the services. I haven't directly spoken to the family, yet. In a way I'm scared to. I have a feeling I will be "blamed" for this, even though, in my honest opinion, this was started by them exiling him.
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Posted on 2/6/17 at 4:03 pm to darnol91
I'm struggling to understand how the weight of a grown man wouldn't rip the ceiling fan out of the sheetrock
Posted on 2/6/17 at 4:08 pm to Tiger Ryno
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I'm struggling to understand how the weight of a grown man wouldn't rip the ceiling fan out of the sheetrock
If it was anchored in to a ceiling joist like it should be.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 4:18 pm to darnol91
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I have a feeling I will be "blamed" for this, even though, in my honest opinion, this was started by them exiling him.
Don't even think that way. It honestly doesn't matter what they think about you and any blame on you would be terribly misplaced. It wouldn't help anyone to play the blame game at this point. I would hope they would thank you for calling the police and offer some condolences to you for having gone through receiving such an awful text message, but even if they don't, placing blame on anyone isn't the right thing.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 5:07 pm to Cole Beer
Yeah, I guess so.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 5:49 pm to Tiger Ryno
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I'm struggling to understand how the weight of a grown man wouldn't rip the ceiling fan out of the sheetrock
Because they are usually pretty well anchored. They're not just hanging on sheetrock.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 5:53 pm to darnol91
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Anyone ever had someone send you a suicide note?
No, but i had my best friends GF show up at my door with her wrist partially slit.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 6:03 pm to darnol91
Man, I couldn't imagine experiencing something like this. I am sorry you have to deal with this.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 6:04 pm to darnol91
Yeah. Thankfully, it was just a regular whore being an attention whore.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 6:07 pm to darnol91
did you establish that he is actually dead?
your OP says you got an email.
no. I have not experienced that.
You ask forgiveness. You say I am sorry. I am truly sorry. feel it.
your OP says you got an email.
no. I have not experienced that.
You ask forgiveness. You say I am sorry. I am truly sorry. feel it.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 6:10 pm to darnol91
I'm sorry for your loss.
When I was 7, I found my dad after he committed suicide. My mom found the letter a few days later. This was in 83 so it was before Internet and email.
I spent years hating him, but then I realized he was just sick, and things must have really been bad in his head for him to take that drastic of a step. Back then, depression or mental illness wasn't something that was talked about. You were just supposed to man up and deal with things.
When I was 7, I found my dad after he committed suicide. My mom found the letter a few days later. This was in 83 so it was before Internet and email.
I spent years hating him, but then I realized he was just sick, and things must have really been bad in his head for him to take that drastic of a step. Back then, depression or mental illness wasn't something that was talked about. You were just supposed to man up and deal with things.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 6:14 pm to Gris Gris
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I have a feeling I will be "blamed" for this, even though, in my honest opinion, this was started by them exiling him.
That's when you make your exit. He was your friend and u did what you could. You know that. You owe his family nothing. Especially if they are going to get nasty. It's really a no win situation. Do you want to get in a shouting match with parents who lost their son? No matter how you feel it will not be satisfying. You did what you could he was alive and you'll have paid your respects. That would be where you close that chapter of your life.
Remember, it's just a chapter for you. Their life is essentially ruined. Unless they are sociopathic in their feeling toward their son.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 6:44 pm to darnol91
I personally talked one brother of a friend out of killing himself more than several times. This occurred over the span of 10 or so years. We weren't even really close but I was close with his brother who wasn't around on the occasions I got involved.
It's over, he eventually did the deed, at the front door of the person who he blamed for the injury caused by his own youthful stupidity.
I still struggle with it because I didn't answer his call the night before because I just was mentally exhausted that night. frick him for doing that and owning so much of my thoughts since then. We weren't close so this wasn't a life changing event for me and my wife helped know it was the farthest thing from my fault. Regardless, I still have the sad when I think about it.
It's over, he eventually did the deed, at the front door of the person who he blamed for the injury caused by his own youthful stupidity.
I still struggle with it because I didn't answer his call the night before because I just was mentally exhausted that night. frick him for doing that and owning so much of my thoughts since then. We weren't close so this wasn't a life changing event for me and my wife helped know it was the farthest thing from my fault. Regardless, I still have the sad when I think about it.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 7:36 pm to Tiger Ryno
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I'm struggling to understand how the weight of a grown man wouldn't rip the ceiling fan out of the sheetrock
Well mostly because a ceiling fan is not attach to sheet rock...
Posted on 2/6/17 at 7:45 pm to darnol91
Sorry to hear for your loss.
May your friend RIP.
The only thing I can say is time will take care of your pain.
I hope you can find peace for yourself. If you let it, this will eat you up. Mourn your friend and remember him by talking about him when a story allows it.
Eventually you'll smile when you think about him remembering only good times.
May your friend RIP.
The only thing I can say is time will take care of your pain.
I hope you can find peace for yourself. If you let it, this will eat you up. Mourn your friend and remember him by talking about him when a story allows it.
Eventually you'll smile when you think about him remembering only good times.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 7:58 pm to darnol91
I've been exactly where you are. My dad committed suicide in 2010. He was 66 yrs old and had obviously been planning that for awhile. He was a Vietnam veteran and carried a lot of demons that I didn't know anything about. He killed himself at our camp with my wife, kids and my mom in the house. I've come to realize that he was so far gone at that point that nobody could get through to him. He'd made up his mind and he was going to follow through. Honor your friend and remember him for being your friend.....not the way he died.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 8:03 pm to darnol91
I am going to try to give you a different perspective on this.
You look at it as "What did I do wrong". "Why did I miss the signs?".
You were probably the only friend he had in this world. He trusted you enough to take care of his most valuable possession, his dog. You gave him comfort that his most loved possession will be properly cared for.
Some people get into destructive patterns of thought and that is not your fault. Do not let that drain your energy. Every time you see the dog, remember that you gave comfort to your friend in his time of need.
You look at it as "What did I do wrong". "Why did I miss the signs?".
You were probably the only friend he had in this world. He trusted you enough to take care of his most valuable possession, his dog. You gave him comfort that his most loved possession will be properly cared for.
Some people get into destructive patterns of thought and that is not your fault. Do not let that drain your energy. Every time you see the dog, remember that you gave comfort to your friend in his time of need.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 8:13 pm to darnol91
Yes. I came home one day in 8th grade and there was a note from my mom in Word when I turned on the computer.
I had come home and thought she was sleeping, turns out she ate a shite ton of pills.
She was unsuccessful in her attempt and has been good since then. This was in 1998. Scared the shite out of me.
I had come home and thought she was sleeping, turns out she ate a shite ton of pills.
She was unsuccessful in her attempt and has been good since then. This was in 1998. Scared the shite out of me.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 8:22 pm to Impotent Waffle
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Well mostly because a ceiling fan is not attach to sheet rock...
Well I know it's hooked into the boards above the hmsheetrock but I couldn't reach up and grab the fan and just swing from it without ripping it out.
Posted on 2/6/17 at 8:45 pm to Tiger Ryno
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Well I know it's hooked into the boards above the hmsheetrock but I couldn't reach up and grab the fan and just swing from it without ripping it out.
K.....
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