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Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:08 pm to rpg37
Exercise and get outside in nature.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:08 pm to shutterspeed
quote:sure but not for this, Metallica and push ups till u can’t any more, then maybe some
I'm sure weed will be suggested soon too.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:08 pm to rpg37
Lexapro and counseling.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:09 pm to summersausage
quote:Simply mask the true underlying issues that cause anger, fear and resentment
Brownies and gummies
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:20 pm to Crow Pie
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Anger is a subset of fear.
Ok yoda
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:23 pm to rpg37
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My dad was a 100% disciplinarian who would beat my arse if I talked back. Mom was mom, softer, but never overrode dad.
Why were you talking back?
It wasn't right of your dad to beat you, but you should respect your parents.
That being said, I know what you're going through. The worst is when rage makes you do/say things that you'll regret. It will haunt you until the day you die if you don't get a grip on it. My advice is to recognize the triggers and immediately remove yourself from the situation. I don't care if it's your favorite past time activity. When you can see the first inkling of rage starting to form, just turn it off, walk away, etc. Whatever it is, just STOP.
The last thing you want is to flare up at your family. They don't deserve that. You know it, and that's why you're coming here for advice.
If you're unable to manage the triggers, then you should probably seek counseling. It will help. Search online for anger management classes/therapy.
The last thing you want to do is freak out on your kid(s) and scar them for life. Break the cycle.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:25 pm to rpg37
Mediation helps
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:26 pm to TutHillTiger
My buddy got mad one time and punched wall. Hit a stud square and broke his hand. He didn’t get angry anymore after that
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:27 pm to NOSTRODAMUS
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NOSTRODAMUS
quote:Ask yourself this.
yoda
Why do people get angry? Generally speaking, because they dont get what they want or people dont do what you say, or your expectations are unrealistic and you have no coping mechanism to deal with those 3 items other than to get "mad" and many then use "foreign substances" to ease the pain you feel.
You are AFRAID you wont get you way because you are self-centered and selfish to the extreme. All you care about is yourself.
This post was edited on 9/29/24 at 7:29 pm
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:28 pm to rpg37
Quit watching the Saints.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:32 pm to Crow Pie
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You are AFRAID you wont get you way because you are self-centered and selfish to the extreme. All you care about is yourself.
You're correct, but people can become irrational. People can create worst case scenarios in their mind, that justify their rage. It's a form of narcissism. Teaching people to give the benefit of a doubt is easier said than done. The narcissist doesn't always choose their mental short circuit. It's a flaw in the program that a psychiatrist might help with, but I doubt that we're going to get to a resolution on a forum.
It's an illness, but at least the OP has the wherewithal to see his flaw and is asking for help.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:32 pm to rpg37
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I struggle with anger. I have a very public image job so I always have to internalize everything publically, but I just take it home with me and struggle with anger non-stop. Not to the point of violence, but to the point of breaking things, punching the wall, snapping off at people, road rage, etc. Just do not know how to let things not bother me - even things I have no control over. I recognize the problem and want to fix it, but don't know where to start.
You don’t view controlling your own emotions as being your responsibility; it’s the responsibility of those “doing things to you that make you angry”. When you “internalize everything publicly”, you believe that losing control is justified; you simply don’t do it because you don’t want to deal with the repercussions, which you would consider unjustified but unavoidable.
You need to change your perspective on a fundamental level. Things don’t happen to you; they just happen. Sometimes that affects you, sometimes it doesn’t. You have very little, if any, control over what happens, how people react to you, etc, etc.
There’s one thing in the entire universe that you have complete, unfettered control over: how you react to all of the above. You aren’t a child; your brain, including your frontal cortex, is fully developed. Once you shift out of the mindset that the world and everyone in it is wronging you personally, it’s just a matter of creating a habit out of not losing control, to the point that anything short of true life or death scenarios become trivial as it pertains to continuing on the path.
If you really want to “do” something, consider reading classical stoic literature, like Meditations by Marcus Aurelius.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:38 pm to rpg37
I controlled mine with self awareness. I stopped letting unimportant things set me off.
I was going off on my wife and kids. I just realized they were more important than anything they did that set me off.
At work if you have to get mad and show anger then you are not a very good manager.
Now I still have my moments but it has to be pretty bad for me to show it.
I was going off on my wife and kids. I just realized they were more important than anything they did that set me off.
At work if you have to get mad and show anger then you are not a very good manager.
Now I still have my moments but it has to be pretty bad for me to show it.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:39 pm to rpg37
If you meet an a-hole in the morning and then somewhere around lunch. Then meet one more a-hole in the afternoon. Then friend it just might be you.
No one performs like you want them to and you think they will. The faster you realize that the faster you won't cut people off in a road rage accident coming home.
No one performs like you want them to and you think they will. The faster you realize that the faster you won't cut people off in a road rage accident coming home.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:41 pm to rpg37
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very public image job
Subtle “I just married a rich female pop singer and now I better get my shite together” brag.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:42 pm to rpg37
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:48 pm to rpg37
Stoicism.
Ryan Holiday’s “Stillness is the Key”
Or classic stuff like “Meditations” by Marcus Aurelius.
Ryan Holiday’s “Stillness is the Key”
Or classic stuff like “Meditations” by Marcus Aurelius.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:50 pm to rpg37
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I struggle with anger.
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Anybody else deal with anger management and found coping mechanisms?
Exercise. Exercise. Exercise. And practice stillness for at least 10 to 15 minutes daily, without any electronics or interruptions. You'll be amazed at how much better you'll be able to think things through clearly, and be able to process information logically, instead of emotionally.
Posted on 9/29/24 at 7:53 pm to rpg37
2 cc's a week of Tren usually eases the nerves
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