ADHD and clutter

Here to take any notes as well. My wife is a flat surface queen, I can clear all the kitchen counters after dinner and those frickers will be cluttered right back up before morning.

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My husbands method for “remembering” things is to leave stuff on counters, desks, surfaces, etc.

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We're moving my parents into a new house and trying to break my mom out of this. Here for this thread.

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My husbands

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You know the rules. Pics of you.

The problem is that they can only wrap their mind around the “now“, as opposed to the future. As a result, everything they think about you relates to now. Best way to handle it is create a pattern that has to be followed every single time. For example, all documents have to be reviewed and dealt with now. Same with mail. Same with dirty clothes. Same with clean clothes. If you allow them to put off the action until the future, it either won’t get done or the “actions“ will pile up until it seems overwhelming.

Adult ADHD. Oh what a timeline.

frick his wife

ADHD isn’t real


If you have to take drugs to sit at a desk or whatever that’s a sign from God that you were meant to do manual labor

We downsized to move into our current house/property. There's not as much flat surface to put stuff except my office. Everything ends up on my desk.

The fridge is the worst though, no matter the object, open fridge and first place it fits it goes right there.

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You know the rules. Pics of you.

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Not gonna happen, but I hold my own.

The disorganization is attributable to ADHD. The behavior is attributable to being an a-hole. He has to be willing to improve. He should also be medicated, if he is not.

There is a real psychological phenomenon called horizontal surface clutter theory. Basically, when we see horizontal surfaces, we see available space for organization. Poor organizational methods lead to clutter. The only way to deal with this is to embrace better organizational methods, reduce horizontal surfaces by using vertical storage (my office desk has several pegboards with labeled bins and hooks), and to actively address clutter before it happens by having scheduled "micro de-cluttering". (I follow the 2-minute rule. If you can take care of it in two minutes or less, do not delay, do it right away. An example would be to not just set your mail down. Look at it, put it in the right place, toss the junk. Takes less than two minutes.)