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3yo melt downs over everything… Dads of the OT
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:13 pm
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:13 pm
Just had a new baby and while my son loves the new baby he is having absolute melt downs over everything. Not the show he wanted, mom has to go to the store, not the dinner he wanted, have to take a bath, not right now, time for bed, etc…
I’m having a hard time letting him have these melt downs because it’s teaching that it’s acceptable behavior but wife (no pics), is saying to excuse it and Tata him because it’s because of the new baby and he’s having a hard time adjusting.
Another melt down will have me losing my effing mind. We spank for disobedience and not listening, time outs for less serious offenses. So there is discipline but not in the area of meltdowns.
I’m having a hard time letting him have these melt downs because it’s teaching that it’s acceptable behavior but wife (no pics), is saying to excuse it and Tata him because it’s because of the new baby and he’s having a hard time adjusting.
Another melt down will have me losing my effing mind. We spank for disobedience and not listening, time outs for less serious offenses. So there is discipline but not in the area of meltdowns.
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Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:15 pm to BayouBengal23
He's having trouble adjusting to not being the center of attention. Make some time to take him to the park just the two of you. It'll give your wife a break and play with him until he's worn out. Then take him to get ice cream or an icee before bringing him home.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:15 pm to BayouBengal23
Just slip him half a Benadryl and call it a day
This post was edited on 4/9/25 at 7:16 pm
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:16 pm to BayouBengal23
The only advice I have is time will rectify his attitude. I would put him in his room when he does this and let him throw his tantrum.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:16 pm to BayouBengal23
Sometimes it’s the terrible 2s and sometimes it’s the 3s. Hold the line it will pass.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:17 pm to BayouBengal23
You just dangle him upside down like a fish and he'll get over the tantrum pretty quick
This post was edited on 4/9/25 at 7:25 pm
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:17 pm to BayouBengal23
Typical for that age. A new sibling to share attention with is a big change. Make time for 3yo, stay consistent with expectations.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:17 pm to BayouBengal23
Have you tried hitting him?
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:22 pm to BayouBengal23
Just slap the taste out of his mouth once. You won’t have to do it again
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:24 pm to BayouBengal23
It will get to a point where she says:
Her. ——“Honey, he’s freaking out again. Will you do something about it?”
You ——“when you decide that we are on the same team, same page and act as one, I will curtail the behavior….with you on my side . Until then, you wanted this, you deal with it.”
Her. ——“Honey, he’s freaking out again. Will you do something about it?”
You ——“when you decide that we are on the same team, same page and act as one, I will curtail the behavior….with you on my side . Until then, you wanted this, you deal with it.”
Posted on 4/9/25 at 7:55 pm to BayouBengal23
Terrible 2s weren’t a thing for us, but the damn 3s were. Oldest got out of that stage around 4 years old and as soon as she did the next one got into it within weeks. Structure and discipline is the only thing I can say. Easier for me than the wife but it is night and day difference when they are with us individually.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:00 pm to dstone12
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It will get to a point where she says:
Her. ——“Honey, he’s freaking out again. Will you do something about it?”
You ——“when you decide that we are on the same team, same page and act as one, I will curtail the behavior….with you on my side . Until then, you wanted this, you deal with it.”
Or be the leader of family and address the issue how you see fit. We don't need the wife/mother to approve on how to be an assertive father.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:03 pm to BayouBengal23
That's just the 3s....let him melt and don't pay him any attention. When he calms down praise him for getting over it and do something fun with him. It will pass.
These are the good old days.
These are the good old days.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:12 pm to BayouBengal23
This post was edited on 4/9/25 at 8:22 pm
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:15 pm to broadhead
quote:This is the way.
Or be the leader of family and address the issue how you see fit. We don't need the wife/mother to approve on how to be an assertive father.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:22 pm to CarRamrod
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That's just the 3s....let him melt and don't pay him any attention. When he calms down praise him for getting over it and do something fun with him. It will pass. These are the good old days.
My 6 year old is great now according to his teachers, coaches, friends and parents.
My just turned 5 is getting over the worst year and a half as parents since my oldest was 3 or so.
My 2 year old is an angel from God and is slowly slipping into darkness.
It's cliche, but it's a phase. None of this macho man rah rah bullshite these idiots on here talk about works. When a kid is in this stage, you can slap em in the mouth, beat their arse till it's blue, stomp and shout; you'll do nothing but lose em. Time and patience. That's all you have. It gets better.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:29 pm to BayouBengal23
He's jealous over the new baby. That and the 3's are awful.
Sometimes it's really that simple. He'll get over it.
Also be sure to give him some attention when warranted.
Sometimes it's really that simple. He'll get over it.
Also be sure to give him some attention when warranted.
This post was edited on 4/9/25 at 8:37 pm
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:29 pm to Jaydeaux
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Just slap the taste out of his mouth once. You won’t have to do it again
I spanked my oldest son the most. I was very hard on him. My youngest son I almost never had to do anything. I think I realized as I aged being more consistent was better than anything. I was raising my oldest the way I was raised and the better I got at parenting the less I had to use punishment or spanking.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:31 pm to Aguga
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Sometimes it’s the terrible 2s and sometimes it’s the 3s. Hold the line it will pass.
And sometimes it's the 2s and 3s. It took #1 a few years to work out the kinks for me.
Posted on 4/9/25 at 8:31 pm to O
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He's having trouble adjusting to not being the center of attention. Make some time to take him to the park just the two of you. It'll give your wife a break and play with him until he's worn out. Then take him to get ice cream or an icee before bringing him home.
This. Just give him some attention and wait for him to adjust. Remind yourself that this stage won’t last forever.
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