Woman Says She’s Allowed to Cheat on Her Husband as “Reparations” for Gender Inequality

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My best friend insists on cheating on her husband. I’ve told her that she should stop, because she admits that he’s been a really good husband who dotes on her and tries to make her happy. She basically just likes sleeping with hotter men, which to me can’t be a justification for infidelity because, well, isn’t the point of monogamous commitment supposed to mean you DON’T do that?

Her husband knows about it, and he wants her to stop because he’s heartbroken, but he’s too scared to leave because he’s scared he won’t get over her and so this is the best situation he’ll get in life. And he’s scared of custody difficulties, too, if they were to divorce. I’m having a really hard time not shutting this friend out of my life for good, because it feels like her moral compass is just backward? I really feel sorry for him and have a hard time supporting her. She keeps insisting that women should be allowed to cheat, almost as “reparations” for the history of gender politics in the world, and I just can’t bring myself to agree. I feel like it should depend on the individual relationship, and that cheating is wrong unless the other person has done something to deserve it. Her husband hasn’t. She even likes their sex life, she just feels like she “deserves” to be with other men.

I’m just really lost on what to do when I can’t change her mind. Should I just rip off the bandaid and shut her out of my life for good? Am I missing something—does she have a point in her argument?

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