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Staying with family or hotel when visiting

Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:15 pm
Posted by Masterag
'Round Dallas
Member since Sep 2014
19951 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:15 pm
bro and SIL just had a baby and gf and I are planning a trip. we've stayed with them before and they don't meet her standard of cleanliness. doesn't bother me much, tub and toilet could use some work, but we had fresh linens and towels and while a little unorganized it's not like they live in a dump.

personally, i was raised to stay with family when visiting and want to spend as much time as possible with bro and sis and baby so unless it's totally unbearable that would be my choice, but she wants to stay in a hotel.

who's right here?
Posted by Fusaichi Pegasus
Meh He Co
Member since Oct 2010
14684 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:16 pm to
new baby
hotel it
Posted by RummelTiger
Official TD Sauces Club Member
Member since Aug 2004
92832 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:17 pm to
We get a house when we visit family. It’s the only way I don’t windup in jail.
Posted by LSUJML
Central
Member since May 2008
51896 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:17 pm to
quote:

just had a baby


Hotel
Posted by soccerfüt
Location: A Series of Tubes
Member since May 2013
72704 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:18 pm to
quote:

gf
You misspelled “Yell Leader”.
Posted by Geauxtiga
No man's land
Member since Jan 2008
34400 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:18 pm to
Dude, hotels = frickie frickie.
Posted by GreatLakesTiger24
Member since May 2012
58868 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:19 pm to
she's right

I'll sleep at my parents' house but anywhere else and i'm getting a hotel

Posted by IonaTiger
The Commonwealth Of Virginia
Member since Mar 2006
33227 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:19 pm to
It's not a "right" or "wrong" issue.

I am the oldest of 5 siblings. When I go to their homes (all very nice) for a visit I prefer to stay in a hotel. I spend time with the family, but prefer to have my own time while there, too.
Posted by GRTiger
On a roof eating alligator pie
Member since Dec 2008
68926 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:19 pm to
Stay with family, help with the baby.

Assuming they want you there. It's your family. Stay in a hotel when visiting your gf's family if that's her thing.
Posted by Kashmir
Member since Dec 2014
9572 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:21 pm to
for a short stay, like thursday-sunday, family stay is what i do.
if i want to spend a couple of weeks, i take my travel trailer to an rv park.
Posted by Kafka
I am the moral conscience of TD
Member since Jul 2007
153911 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:21 pm to
A real man would sleep in the car
Posted by deeprig9
Unincorporated Ozora
Member since Sep 2012
72922 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:21 pm to
Your girlfriend is a controlling bitch, but she's right about this particular situation.
Posted by aTmTexas Dillo
East Texas Lake
Member since Sep 2018
22378 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:22 pm to
quote:

who's right here?


She is. You have lower standards than her. It's time to work to improve those standards. Before you get mad, you did ask for our thoughts.
Posted by Booyow
Member since Mar 2010
4177 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:22 pm to
quote:

she wants to stay in a hotel.


How dense are you, bro? She’s trying to frick and not worry about muffling her screams
Posted by Fat Man
Gotta Luv Cov ... ington
Member since Jan 2006
7128 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:23 pm to
Cousin Eddie Rule.

Kids stay with relatives while you and the misses have quality time in the RV parked out front.

Easy peasy.
Posted by East Coast Band
Member since Nov 2010
66950 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:24 pm to
Is there a hotel nearby? It's certainly the best way to visit without imposing. If you visit, they'd have to do extra housework for you.
I'd only stay at a new parents' home if I did a LARGE portion of the house chores to lighten the load for them.
Posted by BabyTac
Austin, TX
Member since Jun 2008
15705 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:25 pm to
Hotel only because I like my comfort time and I don’t feel comfortable walking around in my pajamas (or naked in my case) and having to get fully clothed just to walk outside of the bedroom.

I go see my family every year for holidays and always get a hotel. I’m sure they appreciate it as much as I do. My siblings think I’m weird, but I’m a grown man and need my alone time.
This post was edited on 9/25/19 at 9:29 pm
Posted by Masterag
'Round Dallas
Member since Sep 2014
19951 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:29 pm to
quote:

Your girlfriend is a controlling bitch


nah she's really not, just irrational imho about certain particular things, but we all are to some degree.
Posted by Spankum
Miss-sippi
Member since Jan 2007
60368 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:33 pm to
I almost always stay with family when visiting. However, since they have a new baby, I would probably opt for a hotel this time....no point in your bros family having to entertain you 24/7....
Posted by Celee04
Dallas, Texas
Member since Apr 2018
22 posts
Posted on 9/25/19 at 9:34 pm to
If all you want to do is have brief visits with the baby then stay in a hotel. If you really want to help, then stay with them... offer to cook meals and clean (maybe start with what your gf finds unacceptable) while you’re there.

As someone who’s been a new mom, I can’t tell you the number of people who offered to come stay with us and “help.” Turns out, for most of them, what they meant by “help” was that they wanted to sit on the couch and hold the baby while I cleaned made meals for them, and did dishes, in addition to all the “gross” stuff like changing diapers, doing spit up laundry, and BF every 2 hours, the entire duration of their stay. That sucks and is not help.
This post was edited on 9/25/19 at 9:52 pm
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