re: My girlfriend tried to kill herself

So sorry. Prayers to you, your girlfriend, and her family.

Even though some people here are being a little tough, I do agree with the statement not to have children with this person. I think that could possibly be a big mistake.

If you haven't already done so, I hope you seek out therapy for yourself Find a good therapist. If you don't like one, try another until you find one that you feel comfortable with and you think can help.

1. It is not your fault. You can't force her to get better.
2. Make a conviction that you will not be romantically involved with her ever again. You can be a close friend but an intimate relationship is now out of the question.
3. She has a LONG road ahead to healing. It will involve medication and long term therapy. She will have many family relationships to heal.
4. She does not have time to be in a romantic relationship.

Love her and leave her NOW. She needs friends and professional intervention all the time.

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Does anyone know how to deal with this?

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It's deciding if she is worth the emotional roller coaster. And committing to her to always be supportive and there for her.

To come up with fun things to do when she is in a funk in order to break the cycle.

To be willing to drop anything and everything at the drop of a hat just to give her a shoulder to lean against.

And be willing to accept that in spite of all that effort, it still won't be enough. Her own internal battles will still wear her thin, and push her to the edge. To prevent that from happening, your job is to lighten that load from her, every. Single. Day.

It's a lot of work, and not everyone is worth it. Hence the first question. But you have to be sure, and have infinite patience. If she doesn't have 100% confidence in her being the center of your world, it's a lot harder to be her bedrock.

So make sure she is worth the cost.

Hint: The cost is going to come in form of things like lying in bed, trembling and terrified because you are not sure if this last text conversation is going to be it, if the slightest mispeak will push her towards death.

If it will be your fault that she did it.

And then the stomach churning gets worse when you say your good nights, knowing she is still in a bad place, and are treated to phantom fears from your scumbag imagination all night.

It's entirely possible the process may leave you scarred depending on the type of person you are. Only reason why I spell it out so bluntly is because I know first hand how badly half measures can harm both parties, even with the best of intentions.

And yes, she still left a mark on me, and I still miss her, even though it's been years.


Stay tough, and best of luck.

"These violent delights have violent ends
And in their triumph die, like fire and powder,
Which as they kiss consume."









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I am praying for her, and for you. You are a good man for being supportive... but you are NOT responsible for her past tragedies or decisions to harm herself.

You both have a difficult path ahead. This attempt may not be the first or last time she wants to die. There are resources for you both and people that want to help.

Email me if you need more info wellkellsbells@gmail.com

Depression comes from deep within. Often times, there is no surface cause and we are left clueless to the genesis of the emotional strife.

Having said that, you obviously are unable to provide her happiness. Ask yourself 'what can I do to matter more in this society, whether it includes education, looks, or money'. What can you do to improve your status in life, which will then matriculate to your girlfriend's life through osmosis.

Your biography says your interests include 'girls, cars, and money'. From this I venture to say you are no older than 19, which also means you very likely have no real money of your own, or an education that makes you matter in this world. Also I dare guess the mental capacity of someone who lists those three interests is on the low-end of the arc.

It's not necessarily your fault (yet), but you aren't exactly setting the world on fire. Before you plead for advice on your girlfriend's behalf, ask the OT what you can do to get out of the slump your life is in, and hopefully salvage your relationship.

I give you this advice for free.

I'd suggest a Christian Counselor for you to see for the rest of the time she is there.

It will give you a chance to talk things through with a professional, and they will have some perspective to share if you would like it.

Yes it costs money, and I know some people attach a stigma to it, but it's really not any different than going to a medical doctor for something that's bothering you. Let them help.

My ex wife had tried it three times before we were married. I never knew any of that until she disclosed it after the divorce. However, I have at least 10 suicidal texts from her that I sent to my lawyer.

The thing is, there is nothing you could have done. If you were there, it would have been a different time and place. Or she may have decided to take a long bath and do it then. You have no control over her actions, and while you may feel bad none of it is your fault in any form. They will always find a way if they are determined.

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Never looked at Ketamine that way, but Ketamine is the wonder drug that is becoming more and more popular for pre emergency and emergency treatment. Being an analgesic with sedative properties that also

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Ketamine clinics are popping up everywhere. Sadly some look no more legit than "hangover vans". Just a pricey cash grab. But I've read a few good things about responsible controlled use. Sort of like ECT(shock therapy). Just reboots your brain. You leave high as balls and no longer suicidal.

OP I don't know if diagnosis has been mentioned? Is she just profoundly depressed or bipolar or borderline personality disorder. No mater, the key is her continued compliance with meds and counseling. If she stops either you have to leave. Unless you want your entire life to remain this way.

Many people in the situation you are in are just unlucky. Some are "birds of a feather" type people. You have to be honest with yourself on which you are. I guess you are in your 20's. 20-29 years old is frickING AWESOME!! Don't waste them with somebody who is non compliant and crazy. If you leave she may blame you for everything, but you are the tip of an iceberg of crazy. Only you can decide on how much shite you will eat.