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re: Friend thinking about divorce
Posted on 2/14/17 at 7:42 am to PRarroT
Posted on 2/14/17 at 7:42 am to PRarroT
Rule 1, if you have to think about it, you probably don't need a divorce...you need balls
Rule 2, if you think you will get custody, you are wrong. Unless she is such a bad mom that you are dumb for sticking around cause the kids are in danger
Rule 3, being a 100% parent half the time is harder than 50% all the time
Rule 2, if you think you will get custody, you are wrong. Unless she is such a bad mom that you are dumb for sticking around cause the kids are in danger
Rule 3, being a 100% parent half the time is harder than 50% all the time
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Posted on 2/14/17 at 7:43 am to PRarroT
I have no idea what's more fricked up in this country drug laws or divorce laws but they're both ignorantly outdated and they will both frick you and your life into the ground without logic.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 7:57 am to Breesus
Way to update and be engaged in your thread, OP!
Posted on 2/14/17 at 8:56 am to PRarroT
Keep the wife and get a mistress.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 8:57 am to PRarroT
I need pics of wife to properly evaluate. You KNOW how this works. Lets see what this bitch looks like.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:00 am to little billy
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be great. He'll even get to see his kids every once in a while.
This. He's fricked. If he's prepared to do this he needs to accept not seeing his kids and never living for himself. If I were to ever go through the big D I'm totall fine with moving to the woods and living in a trailer. Giving my kids all of my money would be just fine and I accept that. He's not going to win trust that.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:04 am to Mir
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Okay let me paint a picture of how it will go First picture the biggest shovel you can Now picture your friend getting fricked within an inch of his life by it But he's not allowed to die because he has to support her while she fricks a new guy who raises his kids
Whew doggie. Ain't that the truth.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:04 am to PRarroT
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How's this going to turn out for him? Will he have any money left to live on after child support and alimony?
Before I say this, I only believe divorce is a last resort. If she hasn't been cheating or abusive to him, there is no good reason to get a divorce.
With that said, let me give you my experience:
1. He'll be living like he was in college again for a while (broke as a mf joke)
2. His credit will be fricked for a few years
3. She'll be going out and partying her arse off while he is her glorified babysitter on the weekends
4. The kids will blame him, because she will bash him and he will keep his mouth shut about why he left, because the kids are too young to understand
5. She will probably end up with a pos that he will hate, and he'll more than likely have to beat the guys arse or threaten his life for being abusive to his children
6. He will have a hard time moving on, because even though his ex is remarried, she'll do everything in her power to cock block him
7. It will get better over time, and he'll start to see a light at the end of the tunnel
8. If he ever gets down and start to feel lonely and miss her, remind him of the things that she did to him and how he made the right choice
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:05 am to PRarroT
In LA the court uses the child support guidelines. They will take the combined gross income of the parties and plug it into the table according to how many kids there are.
If the wife is voluntarily unemployed the court will determine what her earning capacity is and assign her income at that amount.
So, say they set her earning potential at 35k, combined with his income at three kids the amount would be about $2600 a month. However, this amount is offset according to how much physical custody each party maintains. If they retain 50/50 physical custody the amount will basically be cut in half that he has to pay.
It gets way more complicated than that, but that's a basic overview.
If the wife is voluntarily unemployed the court will determine what her earning capacity is and assign her income at that amount.
So, say they set her earning potential at 35k, combined with his income at three kids the amount would be about $2600 a month. However, this amount is offset according to how much physical custody each party maintains. If they retain 50/50 physical custody the amount will basically be cut in half that he has to pay.
It gets way more complicated than that, but that's a basic overview.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:07 am to PRarroT
What does his wife look like?
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:09 am to PRarroT
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ow's this going to turn out for him? Will he have any money left to live on after child support and alimony?
It will frick his life up...but not nearly as much as it will frick up his kid's lives. His relationship with them will never be the same. Kids want the security of their parents being together.
Tell your "friend" not to be such a self-serving narcissist and step up for his family.
Impact of Divorce on Children
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:16 am to Bard
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Please explain why divorce is being considered.
I'm told the marriage has been "bad" for many years. But recently my friend has really made an effort to get his act together. He is trying to be a leader, do more than his share, be ahead of everything he can be responsible for, being positive and kind to his wife. I think thier sex life is terrible (he says they havent had sex in months) and she is really mean to him. She does not reciprocate any of his positivity or affection. He says she has withdrawn completely from any effort at their relationship. Classic story in many ways, I assume.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:45 am to PRarroT
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I'm told the marriage has been "bad" for many years.
You can drop the "friend" gamut. Yourpost history tells the story.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:48 am to PRarroT
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I'm told the marriage has been "bad" for many years. But recently my friend has really made an effort to get his act together. He is trying to be a leader, do more than his share, be ahead of everything he can be responsible for, being positive and kind to his wife. I think thier sex life is terrible (he says they havent had sex in months) and she is really mean to him. She does not reciprocate any of his positivity or affection. He says she has withdrawn completely from any effort at their relationship. Classic story in many ways, I assume.
You clearly aren't pushing the right buttons needed to spread her legs, and from your post you were a douche prior to trying to get your shite together. Also pretty horrible in bed considering women want the D a lot.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:57 am to PRarroT
He only makes 45-50k after the wife takes him to the cleaners. Tell him to seek counseling. Maybe he can hang on til the kids are 18
This post was edited on 2/14/17 at 10:03 am
Posted on 2/14/17 at 9:59 am to PRarroT
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I think thier sex life is terrible (he says they havent had sex in months)
They haven't had sex, but she has.
This post was edited on 2/14/17 at 10:07 am
Posted on 2/14/17 at 10:08 am to TigernMS12
TigernMS12, are you a lawyer in Mississippi? Just sounds like you might be with some of your posts. If you are, is there anyway I might could email you and ask a few questions. I have custody court coming up and have all kinds of proof that my lawyer believes I will have no problem getting my daughter but I would rather ask someone else just to be safe. Have two opinions instead of one. I'm not worried about money, my daughter is my world and I can't lose her.
So I think I have enough evidence to do so. Anyway would appreciate it if I could talk with you. Thanks
So I think I have enough evidence to do so. Anyway would appreciate it if I could talk with you. Thanks
Posted on 2/14/17 at 10:13 am to PRarroT
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I have a friend, of course, who is thinking about divorce. He has 3 kids, all pretty young, and his wife is a stay at home mom. He makes over $100k, I believe. We'll say $135k.
Let me guess, "he's not happy?"
Freaking narcissist, unless this is a toxic situation involving physical abuse or drugs, he needs to be a man and stick it out.
Posted on 2/14/17 at 10:15 am to PRarroT
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I think thier sex life is terrible (he says they havent had sex in months) and she is really mean to him. She does not reciprocate any of his positivity or affection. He says she has withdrawn completely from any effort at their relationship.
Sounds like he just needs some strange on the side
Posted on 2/14/17 at 10:16 am to Goldrush25
I'd spend 5k on a nice vacation to work on the relationship before I initiated something that can't be undone.
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