re: Not finding a relationship? Advice

What area of the city do you live? I'll set you straight.

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Is it impossible to find the right person specially if you can't change ur personality?

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make it your job to be the best person you can be.


make it your job to learn about women and psychology and sex.
there are lots of books. read them.

practice.

go to group therapy. i.e. have a support group you can learn from while you endure the learning curve.

be patient.

never stop learning. always forgive your mistakes.

Disregard females; acquire currency.

As someone ten years older than you and in the same place you were at that time, and as a guy with a weakness for women... relax. The older you get, the easier it gets. I've been in a rush. Now I'm divorced and just re-discovering single life. Enjoy yourself, go out, get online... there are a lot of unfound treasures out there. I've got a second date tomorrow with a beautiful doctor... there's so much potential. Don't settle.

Alot of people here have given you good advice. Don't doubt it, or yourself. Now is the time to act on that advice and put yourself out there if you are looking for someone.

I know from experience that you don't want to look back in life and wish that you did something different when you were younger because of regrets. Regrets can really haunt you if you dwell on them.

Time passes by so fast, you will be in your thirty's before you realize it.

Weird shite happens, man. I was single for the last two years just to the point of completely giving up on trying and out of the blue I bumped into an ex that divorced her husband last year. Now we are dating again after 14 years and it's probably the best times we've ever had together, and we were together for years before.

Don't quit looking. If you care about yourself then you'll find what you're looking for.

OP, I was in a similar spot when I was 19/20. I hit the gym, bought new clothes, and grabbed some self help books. Not everyone is raised in a family that helps them grow in these areas. There is no quick fix and there is no end point. This is just life--work on yourself, don't be hard on yourself, and focus on growing.

I went from not being able to talk to girls to slaying more poon than I could have ever imagined. Current SO made an NFL cheerleading squad. Is my life perfect? No. There are still many areas I fall short in life.

The grass isn't always greener, btw. Don't think that finding a girlfriend will change your life. Find some stuff you enjoy to do, do it well, improve yourself, and be kind to yourself.

/rambling

and a couple other things, OP...

do online dating. everyone else is. find out what the most effective one in your area is.

until you're in a committed relationship, always...ALWAYS...have another girl lined up to go out beyond the one currently in front of you. this will take the pressure off.

you can be a suave motherfricker and handle your business with women perfectly, and they WILL still flake on you. know now that it is going to happen.

time is on your side. a mid-30-yo man is desirable to a lot of mid-20-yo women. most mid-30-yo women can not say the same about mid-20-yo men.