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Renegging on Accepted Job Offer
Posted on 5/13/15 at 11:35 pm
Posted on 5/13/15 at 11:35 pm
The General rule of thumb I know is that you do not reneg on a job offer but after thinking about a position I was offered & accepted, I really do not think I can do the job. All my career I have traveled anywhere from 50% to 100% of the time with most weekends home but I have missed a lot of time with my family. My wife & kids came to me today and said they do not want me traveling anymore. We had a frank discussion about responsibilities and what it would mean if I backed out but none the less the family wants me home. The new job I accepted is about 75% travel.
It really affected me and made me reassess what I want in life after hearing their thoughts.
I do not know what to do. Any advice? I am worried this would blacklist me if I reneg. I'm in IT btw and that community is small.
It really affected me and made me reassess what I want in life after hearing their thoughts.
I do not know what to do. Any advice? I am worried this would blacklist me if I reneg. I'm in IT btw and that community is small.
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Posted on 5/13/15 at 11:43 pm to lsufanintexas
I once took a position when I had another interview with a better company later that week. I took the job because I was tired of the job searching/interviewing process. Every time when something bad happened on the job, I thought "what if". Don't be a "what if" guy.
Posted on 5/13/15 at 11:52 pm to MrSweets
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I took the job because I was tired of the job searching/interviewing process
Well I took this job because I was laid off a month ago and while I had a lot of offers, the money for this job is outrageous. Only problem is the travel now which has never been an issue in the past, at least I did not think it was. It isn't like my family doesn't know I travel for work but they came to me today and said they do not want me traveling so much anymore. We had a very long conversation.
I have another offer still outstanding that is less pay but better work-life balance.
I guess I'm old school. I worry about my reputation in the industry if I reneg.
This post was edited on 5/14/15 at 12:58 am
Posted on 5/14/15 at 5:13 am to lsufanintexas
Be honest with yourself and everyone else.
Tell them "After discussing this job with my spouse, the amount of travel expected is not a good fit for our family dynamic. Thank you for your time and I wish you the best."
Or something along those lines. These things happen. People have second thoughts.
Tell them "After discussing this job with my spouse, the amount of travel expected is not a good fit for our family dynamic. Thank you for your time and I wish you the best."
Or something along those lines. These things happen. People have second thoughts.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 5:39 am to lsufanintexas
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Well I took this job because I was laid off a month ago and while I had a lot of offers, the money for this job is outrageous
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I have another offer still outstanding that is less pay but better work-life balance.
You take the job if you don't have one... If the other job comes through, you quit and take the work life balance one.
What are you going to do if you turn down this one and then the other one doesn't come through?
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I guess I'm old school. I worry about my reputation in the industry if I reneg.
Very true, but you're screwed either way now. Whether you decline now or a few weeks from now, its going to effect your reputation the same way.
At least you'll have a job
Posted on 5/14/15 at 6:21 am to lsufanintexas
Tell them about your family and the decision you made after talking with them. Jobs come and go but you dont want the same to happen with your family.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 6:46 am to StinkBait72
I would be shocked if you told them that when your wife/family found out about the travel they voiced complains and suggested turning them down they would feel bad.
People who have families that don't support their jobs at home aren't good employees and you are saving the company .
People who have families that don't support their jobs at home aren't good employees and you are saving the company .
Posted on 5/14/15 at 6:56 am to lsufanintexas
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I do not know what to do. Any advice? I am worried this would blacklist me if I reneg. I'm in IT btw and that community is small.
You have to do what YOU need to do. It sucks for them and they may be angry, but at the end of the day don't trade your happiness or that of your family just to not look bad to a potential employer.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 7:48 am to lsufanintexas
Is there any possibility that if you go to new company and voice your concerns that they could reduce the travel?
Posted on 5/14/15 at 8:32 am to lsufanintexas
I would say it is better to tell them now, than for them to invest months of training in you for you to have a change or heart. That would certainly blacklist you. All you are costing them now is a little more time searching for a candidate. They may have even had a #2 lined up.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 8:41 am to HeadyMurphey
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You take the job if you don't have one... If the other job comes through, you quit and take the work life balance one.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 8:56 am to lsufanintexas
At the end of the day, a satisfied employee is much more productive and profitable than a dissatisfied one.
You tell them the truth, and explain the situation. IF they are good people, they'll understand. Being willing to show them that you are taking a lower paying option to improve the life balance will give you credibility and not just hopping on a higher paying offer.
You tell them the truth, and explain the situation. IF they are good people, they'll understand. Being willing to show them that you are taking a lower paying option to improve the life balance will give you credibility and not just hopping on a higher paying offer.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 9:10 am to lsufanintexas
Shouldn't you have discussed this with your family before you accepted the job? 
Posted on 5/14/15 at 9:18 am to lsufanintexas
Is blacklisting even realistic? It's not like they're going to start cold calling other companies and saying 'don't hire lsufanintexas.'
Posted on 5/14/15 at 9:31 am to Cold Cous Cous
It's not THAT big of a deal....they'll respect you having included your family in the discussion. If they don't, then you probably shouldn't have worked for that co anyway.
Another approach to this: go back and say, I'd love to work here, but I simply can't do 75% travel. If they countered with a restructured position w/only 1/2 travel, would you accept? Think about this/discuss it. Is ANY travel now acceptable to you?
Another approach to this: go back and say, I'd love to work here, but I simply can't do 75% travel. If they countered with a restructured position w/only 1/2 travel, would you accept? Think about this/discuss it. Is ANY travel now acceptable to you?
Posted on 5/14/15 at 9:36 am to lsufanintexas
I'm in IT and I hire a lot of people.
I've had several people back out on jobs in the past. The only ones I was pissed about were those who would:
1.) flip flop on the decision and drag it out for no apparent reason.
2.) Who weren't honest with me about their reasons and I found out later. If you're in Baton Rouge then you know it's a small community.
Look you have to do what's best for you and your family. If your family asked you not to take the job then tell them that. If they get angry at you for not taking the job then it's a poor reflection on their culture and you don't want to be there anyway.
I've had people back out for what their family wants in the past. It was never a big deal.
I've had several people back out on jobs in the past. The only ones I was pissed about were those who would:
1.) flip flop on the decision and drag it out for no apparent reason.
2.) Who weren't honest with me about their reasons and I found out later. If you're in Baton Rouge then you know it's a small community.
Look you have to do what's best for you and your family. If your family asked you not to take the job then tell them that. If they get angry at you for not taking the job then it's a poor reflection on their culture and you don't want to be there anyway.
I've had people back out for what their family wants in the past. It was never a big deal.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 9:37 am to BACONisMEATcandy
I'm guessing he did discuss it with them but they came back on him when he actually accepted the job. Happens all the time.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 10:00 am to lsufanintexas
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I do not know what to do. Any advice?
Life happens. Always do what is best for you and your family.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 10:02 am to lsufanintexas
Not a big deal but make sure you have a job lined up before backing out.
I'm impressed your family was honest with you. That says a lot about them and you they felt comfortable enough to do that. I don't think anyone will ever regret choosing family over money.
I'm impressed your family was honest with you. That says a lot about them and you they felt comfortable enough to do that. I don't think anyone will ever regret choosing family over money.
Posted on 5/14/15 at 10:07 am to lsufanintexas
Our new COO fired our Maintenance Director for the entire company two weeks ago, but has allowed him to stay on through month end. What a nice guy. Turns out our new COO had someone in his back pocket to replace our Maintenance Director.
Or so he thought. Fast forward to yesterday. The new hire backed out of accepting the new position after reading an endless amount of negative reviews on our company from Glassdoor. The COO then asked our fired Maintenance Director to stay on a bit longer and he told him to go fly a kite.
Funny how things work out at times.
Or so he thought. Fast forward to yesterday. The new hire backed out of accepting the new position after reading an endless amount of negative reviews on our company from Glassdoor. The COO then asked our fired Maintenance Director to stay on a bit longer and he told him to go fly a kite.
Funny how things work out at times.
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