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Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:34 am
Posted by HollywoodCourt
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Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:34 am
This seems to be the place for this.

Background: My wife has two children from a previous marriage, and we have one together. In the past +12 years there has been times when she has asked me to accompany her, if I was unavailable, she immediately tells me she's going to take our son. He's +21 years but under 25.

Most recently, she asked me to go out of town with her during a time that I cannot take off. Immediately after saying I couldn't go, she said "ok, I'll just take [her son]." This has happened a few times before when I was unable to accompany her.

I have expressed that it feels like she is replacing me and that she is too quick to find an alternate to take my spot, but she just says that she doesn't want to not go just because I can't.

It doesn't bother me that he goes with her, it bothers me that she’s quick to dismiss my absence and find an alternative. It’s almost like this gif:



What would you do in this situation that I haven’t already done?
Posted by MyRockstarComplex
The airport
Member since Nov 2009
4859 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:35 am to
quote:

ok, I'll just take [her son]


That’s code for Jody
Posted by sonoma8
Member since Oct 2006
8060 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:35 am to
Ive definitely seen this episode
Posted by clamdip
Rocky Mountain High
Member since Sep 2004
20206 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:36 am to
At least she's still asking you first.
Posted by facher08
Baton Rouge
Member since Aug 2011
5580 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:37 am to
quote:

It doesn't bother me that he goes with her, it bothers me that she’s quick to dismiss my absence and find an alternative.


A woman who instead of pouting and complaining formulates her own alternative and is happy with it? And you're not ok with this?
Posted by Ghost of Colby
Alberta, overlooking B.C.
Member since Jan 2009
14802 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:38 am to
It seems you have a built in escort that alleviates any fears or uncomfortableness your wife has about traveling alone.

Instead of complaining, maybe you should be more thankful of your situation. It takes some of the burdens and responsibilities off of you.
Posted by SallysHuman
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Member since Jan 2025
12788 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:38 am to
I had a hard time following your post...

I think I'm reading that if your wife wants to go out and about she wants someone to go with. If you aren't available, she takes her own son so as to have a companion.

Your feelings are hurt because she doesn’t skip a beat in finding someone, her son, to go out with.

You mention his age as being over 21... are we to infer she's going out bar hopping or clubbing?

What would you have her do? Go alone? Nix her plans? Find a more appropriate sidekick like a woman her own age?
Posted by TexasTiger08
Member since Oct 2006
28934 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:38 am to
quote:

In the past +12 years there has been times when she has asked me to accompany her


Accompany her where? I feel like that’s an important piece to this puzzle. Are we talking about running some errands, or an out of town trip?
Posted by MSTiger33
Member since Oct 2007
21403 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:40 am to
My wife and I have three children 10 and under. I quit being a priority a long time ago. I am an option at best. The quicker you accept that the better you will feel.
Posted by kywildcatfanone
Wildcat Country!
Member since Oct 2012
135137 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:42 am to
You are too insecure
Posted by cornerstore
Member since Jul 2024
1510 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:42 am to
Your wife is fricking her son?
This post was edited on 8/26/25 at 11:44 am
Posted by Tornado Alley
Member since Mar 2012
28276 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:43 am to
quote:

Background: My wife has two children from a previous marriage, and we have one together. In the past +12 years there has been times when she has asked me to accompany her, if I was unavailable, she immediately tells me she's going to take our son. He's +21 years but under 25.

Most recently, she asked me to go out of town with her during a time that I cannot take off. Immediately after saying I couldn't go, she said "ok, I'll just take [her son]." This has happened a few times before when I was unable to accompany her.

I have expressed that it feels like she is replacing me and that she is too quick to find an alternate to take my spot, but she just says that she doesn't want to not go just because I can't.


A little context into what she is asking you to do and where she is asking you to go would be nice.
Posted by HollywoodCourt
Underground
Member since Aug 2017
138 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:43 am to
quote:

Accompany her where? I feel like that’s an important piece to this puzzle. Are we talking about running some errands, or an out of town trip?


Read this part again:
quote:

Most recently, she asked me to go out of town with her during a time that I cannot take off.
Posted by scott8811
Ratchet City, LA
Member since Oct 2014
13027 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:43 am to
so you're wife let's you do your own thing when there is a conflict and you have a problem with this why? Just to be clear would you rather have a wife who gives you hell and guilt trips you when you can't make it?

My wife is great in that she knows Im gonna wanna got o some LSU games... if she doesnt wanna go I just go..I travel for business..no big. I went to the texas bowl on a whim last year... ok babe that sounds fun for you.

I've also been in relationships with narcissists who if I didn't drop my schedule for theirs I was being inconsiderate... you're on the right side of this baw... leave it be
Posted by RazorBroncs
Possesses the largest
Member since Sep 2013
15748 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:43 am to

If there's not some pertinent info missing here, this thread is a sad example of extreme insecurity

OP essentially wants his wife to beg him to go with her for X amount of time (however long he deems appropriate), before settling on taking her son instead. She's not begging him for long enough, dammit!
Posted by Packer
IE, California
Member since May 2017
8682 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:43 am to
quote:

Ive definitely seen this episode



Need to know if OP's wife has a habit of getting stuck under beds, in washing machines, etc?
Posted by SingleMalt1973
Member since Feb 2022
21798 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:43 am to
Gonna need pics to determine the appropriate response
Posted by Tornado Alley
Member since Mar 2012
28276 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:44 am to
quote:

I had a hard time following your post...

I think I'm reading that if your wife wants to go out and about she wants someone to go with. If you aren't available, she takes her own son so as to have a companion.

Your feelings are hurt because she doesn’t skip a beat in finding someone, her son, to go out with.

You mention his age as being over 21... are we to infer she's going out bar hopping or clubbing?

What would you have her do? Go alone? Nix her plans? Find a more appropriate sidekick like a woman her own age?


Step 1: Refuse to do things with wife
Step 2: Wife asks son to go
Step 3: ????
Step 4: Jealousy
Posted by SallysHuman
Lady Palmetto Bug
Member since Jan 2025
12788 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:44 am to
quote:

HollywoodCourt


Your OP was not clear at all... no need to get snarky when people are trying to figure out what the frick you're talking about.

Posted by cgrand
HAMMOND
Member since Oct 2009
46167 posts
Posted on 8/26/25 at 11:44 am to
quote:

What would you do in this situation that I haven’t already done?
euthanasia?
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