How can you cope with the loss of a parent?

Honestly, and this is not meant to be snarky, I would seek counseling. Helped my wife tremendously when she lost her parents.

The hole in your heart is always there but remember all the good things they did for you and others and try your best to carry on in that spirit.

Lost my father in 2018. You’ll never quit missing him, but it does get better. This may sound corny, but I never feel like he’s really gone. Something always happens and my internal thoughts seem like an actual conversation with him. Hope you find similar comfort at some point.

I've lost both. You dont get over it, but the pain does become less over time.

The weirdest part is knowing youre now at the top of the family, and the one people will come to.

One of the more effective ways I cope with losing my young wife last year is to look around and come to the realization that about half the people walking around this world have gone through this and many have even experienced much worse and they’re still walking around functioning so therefore I can do it too.
That’s just one way. I do all sorts of mental gymnastics to cope.
The best revenge is to live well.

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How can you cope with the loss of a parent?

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I lost my dad five years ago. He was only 67 and the worst part was/is my mom’s grief. They didn’t have much time to enjoy retired life together.

My dad told me he didn’t want anyone to carry on upset. Just remember him as a good man who tried his best, and move on with our lives. Bc what else can you do? His words helped.

My grief was also made easier by my understanding that this is simply what happens in life. Parents are supposed to pass away before their children. My oldest daughter suffered severe brain injury when she was 18 months old. She has a shortened life span now. My wife and I try to never think about it, but we know we’ll have to bury our daughter one day. It hurts to even type that out. That’s not the natural order of things and I can’t accept it so readily. The prospect of burying my child is so dreadful that I’m almost numb to the death of my parents.

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You know what else is weird? Realizing you’re closer to the end as well. It hit harder for me after my dad died.

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Yes. You’re sort of “next in line”

My dad has been dead a year and I still pick up the phone to call or text him about certain things just out of reflex. It’s not easy but know that it will get easier.

Everybody going to tell you to get therapy, I dont think thats a bad idea. I wish I would have.

I lost my Dad on August 22, 2003. He was my Dad, but also my Podna. All the things we did together I can no longer do. No hunting, no fishing, can't do it. Too many memories. Its terrible. I had to take up other hobbies because I didnt have my Podna anymore, and without my Podna, I just lost interest.

Lost my Mom 12/25/18...she was Mom...you won't get another.

I wish I would have talked to someone when I had the chance. Too much water under the bridge now, what's done is done, and there is no fixing it. Just have to learn to live with it, which is a daily battle.