How many of us are products of a divorced family?

Well, since you’re one of them, why don’t you tell us if you were influenced to divorce your wife due to thoughts or feelings about your parents?

My parents are still together. My ex wife’s parents are still together. But we aren’t.

Each couple’s story is different. I will say, I got married believing I was committed for life. I think she felt the same way. But we grew apart, we took each other for granted, we saw different paths in life.

Breaking the news to our parents really sucked. We disappointed two families.

Well living in an unhappy marriage isn’t all its cracked up to be either.

It's actually wild the difference between people that come from broken homes and parents who are still together, generally speaking.

I say that as someone from a broken home as well.

Broken homes and IQ rates are the real underlying reason the black community can't find any sort of success and progress.

Compare them to the Asian community which has a low divorce rate and high IQ level.

My parents will be married 52 years come September.

However, I went through a divorce and have two daughters from first marriage.

Wife 1 met in bar. Disaster of a marriage and of course she cheated

Met my current wife at church through friends. Married 13+ years and happy

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How many of us are products of a divorced family?

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If you've never read it, Fight Club is an incredible book and speaks very well to the Gen X male. There's a passage in it where Tyler says "We're a generation of men raised by women", and in alot of ways that's true. Boomer Dads weren't always much for sticking around.

I read this half joking theory once that said the proliferation of Jiffy Lubes and 5 minute oil change places took hold because us Gen X'ers didn't have Dads around to teach us to do shite like that ourselves.

Just something to sit with.

I think yes, but there are lots of other factors at play.


Think about fatherlessness, it can be overcome if you live in a community of fathers even if you dont have one, but if you look at some predominantly black communities that are majority fatherless households that causes lots of issues.

There is no check on the children, or the women.

As a child of divorced parents, one of the silent promises to my children is that I wouldn’t do the same to them.

Between my husband and I, our parents racked up 4 divorces; there were a lot of life lessons there. I think it impacted me a lot when we were first married-I kept waiting for the fall. That disappeared after we figured out how to navigate our own way regarding fights etc. Honestly, it helped that we lived at least 5 hours away from our parents so we couldn’t run home when we were mad. Had to stay and work it out. We were married 40 years when he passed away; it went by incredibly fast.

Yes and yes

In most cases, divorce is devestating to children. I'm reminded of a sad incident on a early Saturday morning about 30 years ago (It was so disturbing the incident is etched in my mind) I'd gone to this local place of business to pick up some items. There were two ladies behind the counter and one of them was on the phone. Right there in front of everyone the mother was trashing her ex for forgetting to pick up their son that morning. It was his weekend to have their son and he simply didn't pick him up. . So she was forced to bring him to work. I could only imagine the foul language in that car as the woman (she was no lady - for sure) drove to work. The mother was clearly distraught.

But what was most disturbing about that incident - as I rummaged through the aisles looking for my item, I spotted the young man (maybe 13) hiding behind some shelving in the corner of the store. I could read the pain and embarassment in his face. I smiled at him as he glanced away from me. How do you console a hurt like that?

Divorced families with children is a great tragedy. I'll describe it that way.