re: My daughter passed away...

So sorry for your loss Praying for you

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I am so sorry, Hurricane. Praying for you and your wife.

Having gone through virtually the same thing about 20 years ago myself, I would like to offer some advice:

1. It will take you months before you can make it through a day without crying

2. It will take you years before you can make it through a week without crying.

3. I will let you know how long it takes to get thru a month without crying when I find out.

4. Don't let the grief drive a distance between your wife & yourself. Share, talk, hug, cry together. I read somewhere that the divorce rate for parents who go through something like this is shockingly high because it is a huge stress.

5. Get grief counseling. I probably wouldn't be here if I didn't see a psychiatrist to help with the overwhelming pain and grief. Get someone who specializes in grief counseling. Seek out support groups. There are many of us out here (I didn't realize the number of acquaintances that I had that had similar losses until I suffered mine).

6. it will get better because it sure as hell can't get worse...what you went through is probably the worst thing that could happen to a person

I'm glad you got to hold your daughter. I got to hold mine. That's why the worst day of my life is also the best day.

Hang in there brother.

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This is me in my office right now:



I can't imagine that kind of pain, and hope I never have to. My wife and I's baby was in the NICU for a few weeks, but we are forever thankful that he was a pretty healthy baby. I can't fathom the pain of having a child and losing it shortly thereafter. It makes me want to cry my eyes out even thinking about it, let alone living through it.

And that feels like great advice in what I quoted above. Fantastic advice (and heartbreaking at the same time). I wish nothing but peace and comfort for all of you that went through something like this.

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My daughter passed away...

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frick man, I don't know what to say. I read your post this morning and didn't know how to respond so I didn't try. Those sorts of posts are always rough but for some reason it just hit me differently. I could viscerally feel the conflict you were in and the further conflict that was causing in your mind.

My thoughts are with you as you and your wife and family start to heal. The words are hollow but my thoughts are sincere.

May God bless your daughter, yourself, & all your friends/family. RIP. I'm truly sorry.

Thank you for sharing with us. If anything, it gave me a reason to be thankful for so much. I only wish I could give you a feeling pf peace to embrace you both.

I’m sorry man.

I don't even know what to say but just know that you, your family, and your daughter will be added to our nightly prayers.stay strong

I don't have the words...
the older I get the more families are in my prayers every day...

God Bless you and your wife...

God Bless you and your daughter

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Hurricane2020

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I read your previous post in the middle of the night. I couldn't sleep for some reason. I know you mentioned that you believe in God, but are not religious. Frankly, right now, I wouldn't expect you to be overly religious. I can't fathom the pain you and your family are left to endure.

We aren't made to live on this world eternally. I wholeheartedly believe that you, your wife, and your family will be reconnected with your daughter sooner than later. Unlike this world, that reconnection will be for eternity.

This prayer has gotten me through many tough times - all of which pale in comparison to yours. I hope you find the time, when appropriate, to read and pray it.

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My Lord God,
I have no idea where I am going.
I do not see the road ahead of me.
I cannot know for certain where it will end.
nor do I really know myself,
and the fact that I think I am following your will
does not mean that I am actually doing so.
But I believe that the desire to please you
does in fact please you.
And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing.
I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire.

And I know that if I do this you will lead me by the right road,

though I may know nothing about it.
Therefore will I trust you always though
I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death.

I will not fear, for you are ever with me,
and you will never leave me to face my perils alone.

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