Big Scrub TX

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How much time is appropriate to wait to start dating again after a spouse dies?
Uga Alum
My wife’s relative starting dating again after her spouse died within 6 months of his death. Several people in my wife’s family really thought that was inappropriate. My opinion is you have to wait at least a year.

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It's very misguided to judge anyone in any situation like this.

I Got My Mind Set On You

I know this is an epic bump, but I only just saw the finale of this season for the first time last night!

What a weird fricking season:

--the entire Dan thing was inscrutable. As of last year, sounds like his career has completely collapsed after other accusations against him (including "bullying")

--the whole "durag" thing was insufferable. Poor 20 year old Jack - "thank you for ALLOWING me to apologize". GTFO

--Jamal works at some kind of fancy al-girls boarding school I think. I shudder at how woke that must have become...even from the starting point we saw in the show PRE-covid

--Loved Elaine, but wanted to point out the obvious double standard. When she asked one time to hug Jeff, she "snuck in" a kiss too. Reverse the sexes and 100% that turns into a "no consent" situation. Just highlighted how stupid the Dan stuff was despite the fact that I do think he was a creep

--Elizabeth and Jack did not attend the finale - they were an item and are now married. Gemini says she was likely advised by her media team to "go dark" so as not to jeopardize her Olympics broadcasting career, and Jack didn't appear out of solidarity. Supposedly, their wedding press literally did not mention meeting on Survivor

--Missy and Elizabeth, IMO, were true villains. They absolutely 100% sold out Janet in a moment where Janet clearly decided to pause the game. Missy claimed in front of several people that her breasts had been groped. I think they got lit up on social media after airing, and they deserved it all. I was annoyed Jeff didn't go after Missy at the reunion show

--lame that the reunion show was not live

--I actually enjoyed the Rob and Sandra bits for what they were. The idea mostly fell flat, but it was fun seeing the sheer joy and surprise when people walked up on the beach and saw them every time

--Dean - what a fricking weirdo

--Noura - I ended up sort of pulling for her in the end, if only because she was obviously 100% authentic

--curious what Karishma's husband thought after seeing her bitching about wanting more than her arranged marriage. Man, I'll be she's toxic and dangerous in real life. You can see the first second she got any power, she was immediately virtually evil

--even with unwanted touching, I still think they act like the Dan stuff is too severe. I'd rather see him called out and voted out than kicked off. I also don't think it should be against the rules to put your arm on someone when they're sleeping. However, they SHOULD suffer tribal consequences for it if the tribe so assesses

In a weird way, it ended up being a noteworthy season, if not actually enjoyable.

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but did not see a mention that Transgender Males would be banned from competing in Men's sports or testing requirements. Why would that be? It's like someone realized that women pretending to be men and competing against men have lots of empty trophy cases.

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The Olympics are actually an exception in competitive sports in these matters. I think all the major American sports leagues do not have men-only rules. Rather, it is "open" - in obvious recognition of the differences.

No love on my Poison one? It's like a study in the effect you are highlighting.

What about this one? It seems designed specifically to invoke conversation in this thread. :lol:

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Someone who ran on Orange is bad.

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It's worth pointing out that not a single one of the 12 parties had a pro-Trump position on Greenland. Thus, it was largely a non-issue, as there was nothing for them to debate on it.

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Outside of being long established in the history of the courts there is no explanation needed unless one is looking for an answer to a question which simply doesn't exist.

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What are you talking about? The census counts illegals too. Do you dispute that?

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The Indian Mounds on campus are already recognised as the oldest known man-made structures in the Americas

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I don't think this is true. It's highly disputed.

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Guidance counselor did him wrong

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Another meaningless disagreement over quantum physics results in tragedy.

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There are several BDCs I own that are currently at a relatively steep discount

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My problem with BDCs vs ECC:

--yields 20%, even after cutting the dividend more than 50%

--the discounts at present are way lower than they have been in past times of true stress

--BDCs basically mark the loans at par unless something really bad has happened. Similar to credit cards, the best month of all time usually precedes the worst month of all time, as all of a sudden, things are clarified

--BDCs aren't required to reserve for losses

--BDSc have very limited upside above theoretical NAV

ECC - where the collateral is broadly syndicated loans and not private credit:

--marks underlying positions to market - and the marks have been utterly brutal, even in the absence of any defaults or credit events. That is to say, you are buying something that has already been marked way down - not something waiting to be marked down

--trades at a much bigger discount to NAV (again, an NAV that represents brutal down marks)

--is required to carry "OC cushion" as a defense against losses. Essentially, this is a reserve bucket that BDCs don't have. Presently, the OC cushion is about the biggest it's ever been

--at least has the potential for upside beyond NAV, as it can and will attempt to buy loans at a discount to par and the ride them up. All of the capital gains in that scenario (beyond the ordinary income gains) accrue to the equity positions held


CLO equity had an extremely harsh February (on top of several months of under-performance). However, that is all market sentiment and mark-to-market. There have been no actual credit events of note, no defaults and certainly no stopped payments from the CLOs themselves. That is why I say there is a very real chance of a "melt up" as well as for a special dividend or two later in the year, as this thing is gushing cash that must be paid out

I downloaded the spreadsheet with the data. I don't understand why there are so many "nulls" - like, they didn't put a race label on those?

Hilariously, there are a lot that are "white hispanic". I'm still not 100% sure I know what that is.