re: Why do women post about having still borns on social media

It's one thing to post about it but it's another level when they post a bunch of pics of them holding the still born baby. That fukks my day up quick.

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I have a FB friend who recently posted a photo of a gravestone and balloons with the caption "Happy Heavenly 10th Birthday...." Clearly it was the grave of her child that died shortly after birth.

Obviously that had to be an unimaginable crushingly sad experience. And there is no doubt she loved the child even though it only lived for a few hours. But I will never understand the need to post something like that on FB other than to garner sympathy and attention. The deceased child is obviously never going to see the post and can't personally be wished Happy Birthday by well-wishers.

Perhaps it is just my nature as an introvert, but I can't imagine needing, or desiring attention for what would be one of the saddest moments of my life.

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Not trying to be an a-hole (although I will sound like one in this post), but this is one of those cases where unless you've experienced it, you really can't understand it. As others have said, everyone grieves and copes differently.

We had twins that were stillborn at 33 weeks, and even after nearly 4 years that pain is still incredibly sharp, and probably will be until the day I die.

We didn't say anything on social media in the immediate aftermath, we went dark in pretty much all phases of life, but in the intervening time we have posted on social media about things to fund-raise for the organizations (national and local) that provided grief counseling and support for us.

We also include their names on our Christmas cards, and we celebrate their birthday, and we do typically post something on social media then. Why? Because they were and are our children, and they matter. Even though we have a happy, healthy, living one year old, we are still the parents of three children. We won't have the first day of school pictures, or the first steps videos of them, but they are still our children, and they matter.

Our thought is, if we don't remember them, and include them, then they basically disappear and be invisible and feel like they didn't exist or matter...and that's not fair to them, or to us, or to any parent or any child.

because you have no idea what its like to carry a child for 9 months then it be dead on the way out. women's hormones realyl get fricked by pregnancy and child birth. so they have to find ways to deal with it.

stop being a c*nt

Liberals love dead children

Both joy and pain are part of this life experience.

Why do people post photos about every hour of their pregnancy and/or their kids lives? Also put yourself in their shoes on social media, how would you feel if you lost a child, but 99% of the post you see are people celebrating newborns.

I would rather occasionally posts that remind us of the fragility of life and how fortunate some of us are.

maybe they need an alternative way to release their feelings that they may not receive at their home.

you could demonstrate a bit more empathy

Women post about stillborn: "attention whores"

3,000th OT thread about the death of a dog: "we feel ya bro"

Guessing that is on Facebook, which is what Facebook is partially for, attention. You could be smart and just not have Facebook.

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good this is what you should want. They didn’t really exist, and honestly idk why you’d want to keep remembering them by creating artificial memories You shouldn’t write their name on birthday or Christmas because they aren’t wishing anyone happy birthday or merry Christmas, they’re dead and they never really truly lived.

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Isn't this the argument hardcore abortion rights people make for having no restrictions on abortions? I strongly disagree, but didn't know you one of those...