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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?

Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:20 am to
Posted by Redbone
my castle
Member since Sep 2012
18899 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:20 am to
quote:

she tells you a couple days before the wedding she wants to keep her own last name?
Prolly can't make a sammich either.
Posted by 3deadtrolls
lafayette
Member since Jan 2014
5759 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:26 am to
When I was younger and marrying to start a family it would absolutely be a dealbreaker.

Now that I'm older and not interested in having more children, I don't really care. I also don't really see the point in getting a government marriage again either though. Have a ceremony, call each other husband/wife if we want, but no need to get the courthouse and IRS involved.
Posted by Sun God
Member since Jul 2009
44874 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:30 am to
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My wife is doing it now, and processing all the applications with SS office, DMV, bank, etc. is supposed to take 2-3 months.

Where are y’all getting 2-3 months from? We live in LA the home of the biggest retard bureaucrats in the US and it took my wife two days to get her stuff changed
Posted by The Great Hambino
Madison, MS
Member since Dec 2014
101 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:44 am to
Waiting until the last minute to have that discussion is the bigger issue. If the desire to keep your last name is important, than that discussion should be had shortly after the engagement not right before the wedding where it would seem like a strong arm tactic to get what you want. This seems a pretty big indicator of how the person will handle tough situations.
Posted by Crowknowsbest
Member since May 2012
25891 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:49 am to
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Where are y’all getting 2-3 months from? We live in LA the home of the biggest retard bureaucrats in the US and it took my wife two days to get her stuff changed

It’s mostly because you have to go to each place in sequence and they have to mail you the verifications etc. in sequence before you go to the next place.
Posted by Wraytex
San Antonio - Gonzales
Member since Jun 2020
2024 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:51 am to
Skimmed the thread pretty quick, but reserving judgement. Your last name isn’t Hogs is it?
Posted by Crowknowsbest
Member since May 2012
25891 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:53 am to
Negative. I’m also hearing all this second hand, so could for sure be mistaken.
Posted by REB BEER
Laffy Yet
Member since Dec 2010
16272 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:55 am to
Bunch of soy boys up in here.

She’s taking my last name or she doesn’t get the stud that comes along with it.
Posted by jchamil
Member since Nov 2009
16596 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:55 am to
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The days of an easy name change are over. The red tape and hoops you have to jump through at government agencies to change a name is unbelievable.


If my wife could do it, it’s not that fricking hard
Posted by momentoftruth87
Member since Oct 2013
72391 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:57 am to
No I wouldn’t. I got married to make something MINE by putting my last name on it.
Posted by chinhoyang
Member since Jun 2011
23715 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 9:57 am to
There's an Indian doctor in town who married an Irish guy. Her name was "Patel" and his was "McGriff" (I changed the names to protect privacy but the result is the same).

So, they blended their names into a new last name, "McPatel."
Posted by LSUfan4444
Member since Mar 2004
54073 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 10:18 am to
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Let’s say she tells you a couple days before the wedding she wants to keep her own last name? Would you still marry her? And no, this isn’t a personal story…



In a vacuum that is not enough for me to call off a wedding but there is likely more there and underlying issues that anyone who is somewhat perceptive and not just burying their head in the sand should be able to see.
Posted by moneyg
Member since Jun 2006
56865 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 10:42 am to
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The days of an easy name change are over. The red tape and hoops you have to jump through at government agencies to change a name is unbelievable.
Posted by geauxpurple
New Orleans
Member since Jul 2014
12652 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 10:42 am to
That alone would not be a deal breaker. I have several friends who did that for professional and business purposes. No problem with that.
Posted by billjamin
Houston
Member since Jun 2019
12742 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 10:52 am to
Second wife didn’t take my last name. We’re not having kids so idgaf.
Posted by 777Tiger
Member since Mar 2011
73856 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 10:57 am to
all it takes is a notary public
Posted by American Mariner
Great Lakes
Member since May 2022
43 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 11:02 am to
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Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?


Posted by BK Lounge
Member since Nov 2021
3660 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 11:06 am to
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I also don't really see the point in getting a government marriage again either though. Have a ceremony, call each other husband/wife if we want, but no need to get the courthouse and IRS involved.




My feelings exactly .


Im not a fan of religion, and im DEFINITELY not a fan of involving the government in my relationships.. all a legal marriage is, is a religious government contract.. It’s very possible to have a great committed relationship without that religious government contract, matter of fact id say if you look at the divorce rate, it kinda proves that point .
Posted by TCO
Member since Jul 2022
2546 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 11:10 am to
Woke SIL did not take her husbands last name. She’s not famous, a doctor, lawyer, or business owner. Just believes in female superiority.

Posted by Jumpinjack
Member since Oct 2021
6485 posts
Posted on 11/25/22 at 11:15 am to
Not a problem in Louisiana.

Hope,I beat y'all to the punch.
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