re: When You Feel Like You're Lost In Life

Trust me, I know how you feel. As some may know. I found my wife dead on the floor in our bathroom. Believe me I know and feel the loneliness at times. You have to stay busy. Get into something you are interested in. Keep your mind occupied and I know it’s cliché to say but just focus on one day at a time. Never be afraid to ask God for help. I have not given up on hope. As tough as things are right now and I know the road I am on will get even tougher, I still have hope. As long as we are still breathing we have hope.

Play Mega Millions. You might win.

No offense man but life is what you make of it. If you don't like your life, then change it. Change jobs. Maybe take a job on a boat or something that moves like the R/R.

Or better yet.... Take a vacation over to Thailand with a few thousand dollars in cash and wrap your willie tight. Have fun. Again, it's all what you make of it.

Or if you want to go the vegan route, then go volunteer in soup kitchens or handing out stuff. Go help volunteer to help others. That's the only real advice I have. You have the ability to change your circumstances.

I just visit buffets when Ive hit this point. Hasnt produced any positive results behind instant gratification.

I suggest you find a different coping mechaism.

I have been looking to living abroad. Somewhere cheaper. But that is a hill that will take some time.

38 is young. You are NOT near the end, it just feels that way because you are suffering from loneliness and depression. Start by contacting your doctor. Make an appointment and if they offer therapy and/or antidepressants, do it. Next, get out of your own head. I agree with the posters who said to volunteer, join a group, or get a hobby. You may have some “misses”, in that every endeavor may not be a success, but make it a point to try or do something different at least every week. Apply for new jobs. You won’t get all of them but you will find a different job than you have now. If it also sucks, keep trying. Basically, keep trying. Don’t give up. Low points don’t last forever. ETA and get a pet.

Have you tried going downtown? When you're alone and life is making you lonely, You can always go Downtown. When you've got worries all the noise and the hurry seems to help I know Downtown.

So go downtown
Things will be great when you're
Downtown
No finer place for sure
Downtown
Everything's waiting for you

I've been there right after my first marriage broke up. It will get better. Find friends of similar situation and keep yourself busy.

The girl thing is what dating is like once you get older. I am in my 39s and never married myself. Dating is much much harder and men dumping over women just make it so much harder for everyone else. Not everyone who ghosts you is because of you. I’ve literally had women flake on me then tell me later they thought I’d have negative reaction to meeting them. Most women aren’t half as hot as what you see thru a filter. God will send you one when the time is right. Your time will be best spent improving yourself for when the right one comes along. I’ve been stood up by girls that I was dating down to because I was bored. Hope this helps and makes sense. I tried to finish this post in the car