Depression

What’s going on, man? This is an anonymous board - talk through it here. You’d be surprised how many people have gone through similar situations.

You’d be surprised how many people in your life that truly love you. Friends/family whose world would be completely turned upside down if you did this. Think about them and reach out to the ones you think would be effected the most. I wish everyday my loved one would’ve just talked to me first.

Sit them down and talk with them. I promise they will do anything to help you. Consider seeking professional help. Talking to some kind of counselor once or twice a month

I don’t know your family situation but if you’re single, sell everything you own and join a church mission to go overseas and help a community. You don’t need to be a believer, just go and find your self worth through helping others. The biggest thing you need is finding your purpose in life. Once you find that purpose and start living for others, fulfilling that purpose, you will see life in a different way. At this point you have nothing to lose.

I struggled with depression for a long time. I tried medication, self medication and you name it. About 5 years ago, I got in a bad place with my marriage and life and at times felt it was hard to even breathe. I went to church and they were starting a 21 days of prayer and fasting. I wasn’t big in to church and didn’t have much faith in it but I felt I had nothing to lose so why not. I began fasting and praying. At first it was miserable but by day 5 I started feeling better. By day 7 I felt great. My body and mind felt like a huge weight had been lifted. By the end of it, I felt so much better. I got involved with some groups and within a year my marriage was saved. I still have some lows but nothing like I did. My marriage is in a good place and I know why.
When you’re desperate and have nothing to lose, take drastic steps in your life to make fundamental changes. It’s hard to function in that state of mind but you’re fighting for your life so act like it. I’d recommend finding your purpose. Reset your mind, body and spirit by some sort of fast with prayer/meditation and serving others. One of the best days of your life will be when you find your purpose or why in life.

I’m a first responder and my job is basically saving animals from natural disasters and foreign animal diseases.

I’ll check out the church thing. My abuse happened in the church, so it’s been a struggle the times I’ve forced myself to go to mass. Thanks for the advice.

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I’ll check out the church thing. My abuse happened in the church, so it’s been a struggle the times I’ve forced myself to go to mass. Thanks for the advice.

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I can not relate to that but maybe find another church. I was raised Catholic and my wife was was Episcopalian. The thought of doing anything different was foreign to us but we went with some friends to a church that we used to joke about. That church changed our lives and marriage. I’d never in a million years thought we would attend a church like that but I'm glad we tried something new. We are currently looking for a smaller church but at that time of our life, it was what we needed. If you aren’t getting anything from your current church or aren’t comfortable there, ask around and maybe go with some friends to another church. Somebody will speak in a way or tell a message that will make an impact.

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No purpose and nothing to look forward to. Thanks for listening

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When you’re down in the middle of it you have no perspective. If you could look 10 years into your future you might see a guy loving life and appreciating every moment. Just try to push through for that guy. Definitely do therapy and take it seriously. You can come out the other side.

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The biggest thing you need is finding your purpose in life. Once you find that purpose and start living for others, fulfilling that purpose, you will see life in a different way. At this point you have nothing to lose.

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This x1000

I know a pastor I can call that will put you in touch with some help if you are in LA. He has some connections around the country too. I will be checking in on this thread.

I’m in San Diego. I do exercise. I also do transcendental meditation, I journal, I do breathing exercises, you know I’m trying.

I do have problems sleeping, but it has nothing to do with exercise or being tired. More anxiety that sometimes leads to a physiological problem like my legs and feet shaking or hurting.

Thanks everyone who responded.

The only advice I can give you is "Never give up". I know its easy for someone to come into this thread and tell you that you have to be strong, etc. And I also know its much more difficult for someone dealing with anxiety and depression to actually do that. I lost a good friend a few years back who gave up and gave in to the depression. She had two young sons, and a loving husband who tried everything in his power to help her climb out of it, but in the end, it was too much for her. We were all devastated, and to this day we still hurt from that loss.

Not giving up might be the hardest thing you ever have to do, but you have got to keep going. Every day. Keep going.

This too, shall pass.