White Woman Lists The Microaggressions She & Black Husband Encounter

Racism or just the same “ micro – aggressions “ we all experience in our daily lives?

My thoughts are in bold. What say this board?

Pamela Chandler felt compelled to vent to her husband, Walter.The couple live in the small town of West Carrollton, Ohio, with their toddler, Jasmine. Scrolling through Facebook that evening, Pamela, who’s white and whose husband is Black, was disheartened to see so many people misinterpreting the protests and what the Black Lives Matter movement is really about.

“I jumped offline and started complaining to Walter that I was frustrated that so many people just didn’t get it,” she told HuffPost. “I grew up in a small town that leans conservative. They are wonderful people but not always well informed on issues that plague minorities.”

BBROAD BRUSH DESCRIPTION OF THE COMMUNITY

Walter and Pamela, who’ve been together seven years, wondered if there was a way to change that.
“We ended up sitting down together and came up with a quick list of just some of the everyday things we encounter that a lot of people just aren’t aware of,” Pamela said.

I have to drive basically anytime we are leaving the Dayton area. We don’t talk about it each time, we just both know that if we are leaving our general “safe” area and heading to smaller town Ohio roads I’m the one driving.

BULLSHIT. BLACK MEN DO NOT JUST GET RANDOMLY PULLED OVER WHEN DRIVING SAFELY

I have to handle store clerks, returns, getting documents signed, anything with any federal building or administrative work, I get further with any type of “paperwork” thing that needs handled, people listen to me and are much more agreeable than with him.

bullshite. YOU HAVE TO NAVIGATE THE SAME ISSUES WE ALL DO WHEN DEALING WITH GOVERNMENT BUREAUCRACY OR HAVING TO PROVIDE PROOF OF PURCHASE ON RETURNS

-The chances that we find a Black or Interracial couple on a greeting card are SLIM. Unless you want to give the same Black Couple card every year, which we have . There are hundreds of white couples to choose from though!

INTERRACIAL COUPLES ARE A SMALL PERCENTAGE OF COUPLE. BET THERE ARE MORE CARDS AVAILABLE THAN SHE CLAIMS. CARD COMPANIES PRODUCE TO MEET THE DEMAND.

-My husband goes out of his way to be nice and talk to EVERYONE. Not because he’s a people person, but because he has learned that a 6’5 Black man intimidates people and so he overcompensates by being overly friendly so people won’t be afraid of him.

ANOTHER bullshite SUBJECTIVE PERCEPTION. ANYONE ACTING APPROPRIATELY RECEIVES A FAVORABLE RESPONSE FROM OTHERS

- If Walter is pushing the cart I always have to have my receipt ready when leaving the store.

bullshite. THE WALMART RECEIPT POLICE TREAT ALL CUSTOMERS LIKE THIS.

-None of our neighbors thought we owned our home, multiple neighbors stopped my father and asked him if he was the new landlord for us. Because of course, the old white man must have purchased the home. Not only do we own our home, it’s fully paid off, we have no mortgage and we paid for it BY OURSELVES.

bullshite. WHO WORRIES ABOUT THIS KIND OF GARBAGE. DON’T YOU INTRODUCE YOUR FATHER TO OTHERS?

-It took us YEARS to find a church without racist undertones and low key racist members, YEARS!

bullshite. ONE MORE SUBJECTIVE PERCEPTION

-When doll shopping our daughter gets 25 white options and 1-2 black or mixed race doll options.

TOY MAKERS PRODUCE TO MEET DEMAND

The same people who stop us daily to say how adorable our daughter is, are the same people who would cross the street if Walter was walking alone.

MORE bullshite.

-We avoid all places with confederate flags.

NO DOUBT CONFEDERATE FLAGS PROLIFERATE IN OHIO
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-If we go to Bob Evans (or any restaurant that caters to “seniors”) too early we are met with a lot of stares, the old racists eat between 4-5pm.

OLD PEOPLE STARE AT EVERYONE YOU RACE BAITING IDIOT.

-When Walter goes to a playground with our daughter he constantly stays by her side, if not he gets stares and people wonder what the “big black man” is doing on the park bench.

SURE THEY DO. ESPECIALLY WHEN DAUGHTER IS JUMPING ON HUBBY AND CALLING HIM DADDY

-Walter is concerned our Black Lives Matter sign by the door will make us a target when he is not home so he asked me to remove it

KIND OF LIKE PEOPLE WHO DISPLAY MAGA SIGNS, RIGHT?

I’m tired of having to find a different gas station when the one we drive by has two trucks with confederate flags and 6 white boys in sleeveless shirts standing around outside.

OH, THOSE CONFEDERATE FLAGS IN OHIO AGAIN

I’m tired of my husband having to talk to everyone and never complain even when they mess up his order 10,000 times,

THAT NEVER HAPPENS TO US WHITE FOLKS WITH PRIVELEGE , DOES IT?

I’m tired of having to worry anytime my husband has to work OT and leaves in the middle of the night, I’m tired and I’ve only been on this ride 7 years, imagine a lifetime of this!

YOUR HUSBAND IS 100 TIMES AT MORE PERIL FROM THUGS THAN POLICE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT