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Schools Attempt to Ban Kids from Having ‘Best Friends’ because It’s Not Inclusive
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:14 am
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:14 am
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According to Greenberg, “there is something dreadfully exclusionary occurring when a middle schooler tells the girl sitting next to her that she is best friends with the girl sitting in front of them.”
“Child after child comes to my therapy office distressed when their best friend has now given someone else this coveted title,” she continues.
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I am a huge fan of social inclusion. The phrase best friend is inherently exclusionary. Among children and even teens, best friends shift rapidly. These shifts lead to emotional distress and would be significantly less likely if our kids spoke of close or even good friends rather than best friends. . . . There’s an unspoken ranking system; and where there is a ranking system, there are problems. I see kids who are never labeled best friends, and sadly, they sit alone at lunch tables and often in their homes while others are with their best friends.
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Is a best friend an “exclusionary” thing? Sure. Do kids without best friends feel like garbage sometimes? Absolutely. But the truth is, Greenberg is making the same incorrect assumption that so many people make when they advocate for banning language: that changing the language will change a single damn thing about the reality.
It won’t.
Instructing children, as Greenberg suggests, to talk about “close friends” instead of “best friends” isn’t going to change those friendships any more than suddenly referring to your ex as “my boyfriend” is going to mean that you’re back together.
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Think about it: Even if a school forbids children from using the phrase “best friend,” some kids will still have one person with whom they really connect, and it will be obvious to everyone that that two are closer to each other than to anyone else. Kids who don’t have best friends will still be aware of it when they, say, have to pick a partner for a project (if that’s even still allowed) and they keep getting the shaft from their “close friend” in favor of one of that “close friend’s” “close friends” —- the best friend.
It’s tough to be in grade school without a best friend. I know; I did a few stints in that hellhole myself, and I spent a lot of gym classes having to partner up with a girl who bullied me (and smelled like cigarettes) — because I didn’t have a “best” friend, just “close” friends who were actually “best” friends with someone else. But would my school’s banning “best friends” have made any of that easier for me? No, because even though I was a kid, I was not a complete f***ing idiot. I could still easily tell you who were best friends, and that I did not have a best friend, because of these things called social cues.
It would be nice to create a world without pain, and without exclusion, but that’s going to be a tough thing to do. For one thing, humans are by nature exclusionary. We’re all different, and we’ll all connect (or not connect) with one another in different ways. Every single person who has ever existed knows some people whom they like more than they like other people. It’s normal, and it’s not going to change — especially not by something so simple as refusing to call things what they are.
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Send people with best friends to shitholes!
This post was edited on 1/12/18 at 10:20 am
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:16 am to Bourre
Isanity...
Why not ban the concept of friends? Being friends with some people means you are excluding others who aren't your friends.
Why not ban the concept of friends? Being friends with some people means you are excluding others who aren't your friends.
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:17 am to Bourre
Well that article title seems dishonest. Unless I missed something, it’s not about schools actually trying to ban it, it’s about some hack psychologist trying to promote the asinine idea.
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:18 am to Bourre
I wonder whats happens to rational thinking school staff members when they say this shite is absurd during staff meetings.
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:18 am to Bourre
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According to Greenberg, “there is something dreadfully exclusionary occurring when a middle schooler tells the girl sitting next to her that she is best friends with the girl sitting in front of them.”
“Child after child comes to my therapy office distressed when their best friend has now given someone else this coveted title,” she continues.
This is what passes for "educated" these days.
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:20 am to Bourre
So we gonna get rid of bffs now?
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:20 am to Bourre
The psychologist or therapist is a wingnut. But there is absolutely nothing in the article about any school really attempting to ban best friends. There are no examples. This is just one example of a leftists views. And although there are probably many more who share her views. I am not seeing anything about a school attempting to ban best friends.
The Psychologist is a hack. But let’s be real; whoever published the title of the article is a jack too. It is misleading at best .
The Psychologist is a hack. But let’s be real; whoever published the title of the article is a jack too. It is misleading at best .
This post was edited on 1/12/18 at 10:23 am
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:21 am to StraightCashHomey21
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I wonder whats happens to rational thinking school staff members when they say this shite is absurd during staff meetings.
It depends on your boss. If they like the idea and are a vindictive twat, you just keep your mouth shut, close your door, and teach.
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:22 am to Bourre
This is an attempt to deny human nature and it won't work.
Also an attempt to shield children from a lesson that they'll need later in life.
Also an attempt to shield children from a lesson that they'll need later in life.
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:25 am to buckeye_vol
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Well that article title seems dishonest
Copied and pasted the title. If you don’t like it take it up with Kat
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:25 am to Bourre
Liberalism is a mental illness
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:26 am to Bourre
Girls and boys socialize differently at that age. For example, 3 boys in HS can be close friends. No problem. 3 girls = 2 of them talking shite about the 3rd.
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:26 am to Bourre
quote:I know. I wasn’t attributing the dishonesty to you.
Copied and pasted the title.
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:26 am to Bourre
Why do liberals believe that changing words will change behaviors? If I hit you with a bat and call it a loaf of bread, will it be less painful?
This post was edited on 1/12/18 at 10:27 am
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:30 am to Bourre
Fake news. You guys always falling for this shite
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:30 am to buckeye_vol
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I wasn’t attributing the dishonesty to you
I know. I just want to post a picture of Kat
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:31 am to FooManChoo
what is next? to register a child for school parents must show their voting records? and or trans first graders will be the only ones allowed to register, if they can prove their parents are fluid or trans and like beastiality?
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:45 am to buckeye_vol
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It took about 5 minutes to find these. Not great articles and in the huff post one they weren’t banning best friends but separating kids that know each other, but I wouldn’t call the article fake news, there appears to be a push for it in England.
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It took about 5 minutes to find these. Not great articles and in the huff post one they weren’t banning best friends but separating kids that know each other, but I wouldn’t call the article fake news, there appears to be a push for it in England.
This post was edited on 1/12/18 at 10:49 am
Posted on 1/12/18 at 10:47 am to Bourre
This chick sounds like she had one too many meltdowns after not being placed 1st on any MySpace "top friends" list.
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