- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Coaching Changes
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: Would you take your wife back if she had a one night stand on a business trip?
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:18 pm to SabiDojo
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:18 pm to SabiDojo
quote:get you a side chick and roll with it.
It sucks, and that's why I would probably choose to stay with my wife. I'm not rolling the dice that my kids will be okay. The statistics alone are enough for me to want to stay.
1
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:19 pm to terriblegreen
quote:
Divorce ain't that big a deal. People keep talking about kids... people who resent each other and stay married do way more damage to kids than people who part ways.
I disagree. I've seen it too many times. Divorce brings out the worst in parents. Their money and their kids are at stake. They lie, cheat, steal, do whatever it takes to get the upper hand. They hire lawyers who are "dogs in the courtroom" and all they do is light a bomb and leave the family to pick up the pieces. It's terrible.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:20 pm to MontyFranklyn
quote:
get you a side chick and roll with it.
This dude gets it. Just don't bring that shite to the house.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:25 pm to SabiDojo
quote:
Who said it would be loveless? I'd still love my wife. I wouldn't stop loving her just like that. It doesn't work that way. I would feel betrayed, sure. I'd probably have my own personal sidepieces to keep me happy, but then return home so I can be good father
frick that, and everything you've been posting in here. Nothing against you, I just couldn't disagree with you more. So you would continue to love someone
quote:that you put your faith, trust, and commitment to that has deeply betrayed all of that
I wouldn't stop loving her just like that
quote:? How could you want to continue to be with a person and PRETEND when you were FORCED into a position to have to make that decision because of the selfishness of that bitch? She makes a mockery out of you and everything that your relationship stands for and you would just accept it? Would you want your daughter to grow up and take after her whore of a mother that has no loyalty?
would feel betrayed
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:28 pm to RedRifle
quote:You have waaaaaaaaay too many specific answers.
Important Questions:
Kids or no kids?
Let's say kids. If no kids then this isn't an issue. You dump her.
How'd I find out?
She got depressed and confessed.
Was she completely wasted?
Drunk. But not passed out drunk.
Does she have to continue to travel to make money?
Up to her.
How's my professional career going? Have y'all accumulated significant wealth together?
You make significantly more, but she has a career in her own right. Wealth is on track. And inheritance etc.
Sorry she cheated on you.
For real I'd probably try to keep the nuclear family together and forgive her.
I wouldn't admit that now to her though.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:29 pm to SabiDojo
quote:
SabiDojo
Not always. If you can be adults about it, it's not so bad. My ex and I get along great. We put our child first. But, neither of us cheated so we weren't hateful about it.
But, I've seen enough horrible divorces to know you have a point.
I'm never ever getting married again. Ever.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:31 pm to SabiDojo
(no message)
This post was edited on 6/6/20 at 1:29 pm
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:32 pm to RedRifle
An affair is a symptom of an already volatile and unhappy marriage. People content with their relationships don't cheat on the other.
So if it were me, a lot of factors would have to come into play before I could answer. What is the current status of the marriage? Have they had problems like this before? Is it going both ways? Are their children involved?
In a perfect world, the wife has a one-night stand and just doesn't say a word and life goes on.
So if it were me, a lot of factors would have to come into play before I could answer. What is the current status of the marriage? Have they had problems like this before? Is it going both ways? Are their children involved?
In a perfect world, the wife has a one-night stand and just doesn't say a word and life goes on.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:33 pm to RedRifle
No way. Once tainted, always tainted.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:34 pm to LeonPhelps
quote:
I've never really understood why cheating out of lust rather than love is a big deal.
While I'm not going to be so passive to understand how it's "not a big deal;" I would imagine it is possible to get over an affair that was out of lust as opposed to one where the person fell in love with the person they cheated with and continued on a relationship.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:38 pm to RedRifle
No. Because then I'll go frick something and she'll get mad and round and round we go. Might as well divorce.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 12:53 pm to Salmon
quote:
the idea of my wife cheating then having to pay her child support while only seeing my daughter a few times a month is absolutely horrifying to me
It was mine too, and then it came true. And I tried to work it out for almost two years. I tried to excuse it, because she was doing it to get drugs and she had gotten sober. I went to marriage counseling alone. I did everything I could to shake the feeling of devastation I had inside of me. I really tried for my two boys. Eventually, I asked her to do a separation for a while. She refused and told me we were staying together or getting a divorce. So I said ok if I have no other choice, I want a divorce.
Now she's remarried to a guy she knew for all of 5 months, the only guy she dated after we split (her rebound). He's a douche that I've already had to threaten for yelling and putting his hands on my oldest. It kills me every time I have to drop my boys off for a week. I would never wish on my worst enemy to be cheated on by their spouse. It tears you apart inside, and you never completely recover from it.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 1:21 pm to jvilletiger25
quote:
Now she's remarried to a guy she knew for all of 5 months, the only guy she dated after we split (her rebound). He's a douche that I've already had to threaten for yelling and putting his hands on my oldest. It kills me every time I have to drop my boys off for a week.
Yep. frick. That.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 1:31 pm to RedRifle
Nope. Once you cheat or intend on cheating, the relationship is done. Trust can never be won back in that situation.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 1:34 pm to RedRifle
Was it a bartender on a cruise?
Posted on 3/24/16 at 1:44 pm to RedRifle
I wouldn't want to know about it. But I don't think I would divorce her for getting some strange.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 1:44 pm to RedRifle
No fricking way
Posted on 3/24/16 at 1:47 pm to dnm3305
quote:
frick that, and everything you've been posting in here. Nothing against you, I just couldn't disagree with you more. So you would continue to love someone
quote:
I wouldn't stop loving her just like that
that you put your faith, trust, and commitment to that has deeply betrayed all of that
quote:
would feel betrayed
? How could you want to continue to be with a person and PRETEND when you were FORCED into a position to have to make that decision because of the selfishness of that bitch? She makes a mockery out of you and everything that your relationship stands for and you would just accept it? Would you want your daughter to grow up and take after her whore of a mother that has no loyalty?
We're talking about a one night stand here. But I sometimes forget I'm on the OT where everyone is perfect and never does anything wrong ever. I just hope you don't ever eyeball other women or ever think about other women.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 1:53 pm to BigDawg0420
The answers to these questions are always so bold until the person has something like this happen to them.
Posted on 3/24/16 at 1:53 pm to LNCHBOX
quote:
We're talking about a one night stand here. But I sometimes forget I'm on the OT where everyone is perfect and never does anything wrong ever. I just hope you don't ever eyeball other women or ever think about other women.
Are you equating looking at someone other than your spouse to fricking someone other than your spouse?
Page 6 of 9
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News