re: Wife has decided to close up shop

Posted by VolsOut4Harambe

Atlanta, GA

Member since Sep 2017

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:26 am to Badman

I'm 29... what does "close up shop" mean?

Posted by hometownhero89

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:27 am to jchamil

quote:
BJ's still on the table?

Ooooooo, good catch. Most cougars will only give the BJ in negotiations, once you are in the gentials contract, they just disappear normally.

Posted by fallguy_1978

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:28 am to VolsOut4Harambe

quote:
I'm 29... what does "close up shop" mean?

Wife doesn't want to have sex anymore. Probably going through menopause.

This post was edited on 11/15/21 at 8:29 am

Posted by CocomoLSU

Inside your dome.

Member since Feb 2004

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:29 am to UpToPar

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Serious answer: have her consult with her doctor. There’s something going on medically or she’s lying to you. Don’t let her convince you that this is “normal.”

This.

It seems odd for someone to all of a sudden (willingly) choose to never have sex again, or claim to not want to. And that seems awfully unfair to her partner.

I'm glad OP is devoted to his wife, as he should be, but something like this seems like it can potentially lead to some huge issues down the road. And sooner rather than later if his libido is like he says it is.

Posted by NotoriousFSU

Atlanta, GA

Member since Oct 2008

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:30 am to fallguy_1978

quote:
Probably going through menopause.

Oh she’s definitely giving men a pause.

Posted by CocomoLSU

Inside your dome.

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:30 am to NotoriousFSU

:rimshot2:

This post was edited on 11/15/21 at 8:31 am

Posted by tigerinexile

NYC

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:30 am to Badman

Lucky you made it this far mine shut down in her 40s.

Posted by RougeDawg

Member since Jul 2016

5838 posts

Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:31 am to Badman

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in our early 50's now...She has told me that she just doesn't feel like she wants sex any more.

You had a good run!

Posted by 777Tiger

Member since Mar 2011

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:31 am to Badman

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She has told me that she just doesn't feel like she wants sex any more.

deal breaker right there

Posted by tide06

Member since Oct 2011

11165 posts

Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:31 am to CocomoLSU

They don’t talk about it much but a significant percentage of women basically become a-sexual later in life due to changes in their hormones.

Sexless marriages ensue leading to a myriad of problems for both sides.

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Posted by danilo

Member since Nov 2008

20098 posts

Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:32 am to Badman

It’s either medical or emotional/psychological. Either way seek professional help

Or bang her arse and mouth

Posted by Tigerbait357

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:33 am to Badman

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How do I cope with this?

Posted by 777Tiger

Member since Mar 2011

73856 posts

Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:34 am to tide06

quote:
a significant percentage of women basically become a-sexual later in life

not mine, she's as horny as a goat, I'm the one struggling to keep up these days

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Posted by Meauxjeaux

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:35 am to Badman

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We are both in our early 50's now. I find her still as sexy as ever. She has told me that she just doesn't feel like she wants sex any more. No shes not cheating on me. She has had some "woman" problems the last couple of years. My libido is as strong as it was as a teenager.

How do I cope with this?

PS, I would never cheat on her.

In all seriousness, sex is as much a duty for a wife as is anything else. All marriages go through times where there is no "desire" so to speak, but couples have to be mature about it and still go through the motions until the desire returns.

Now how to communicate that to a wife - hell I have no idea.

Posted by fallguy_1978

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Member since Feb 2018

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Posted on 11/15/21 at 8:38 am to 777Tiger

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not mine, she's as horny as a goat, I'm the one struggling to keep up these days

My wife is 48 and we still have a good sex life. I'd be lying if I said it was the same as when were newlyweds or dating but if this board is any indication we are doing a lot better than most after being together nearly 20 years.

This post was edited on 11/15/21 at 8:50 am