Widowed Mother Dating Again

Let her be happy... unless you want her living full time with you in the future.

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My parents were married for 40yrs and a few days later my dad died in his sleep of natural causes

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This is a challenging sentence.

Doesn’t stress me much. Really the only concern is she’s a bit naive and I worry about her handling her finances well and being able to screen guys intentions... otherwise, go have fun and be happy

Wtf your mom is cheating on me?

I’m sure your dad would probably want her to be happy.

Say goodbye to your inheritance when your mom starts dating a guy your age.

I haven't been in this situation, but no people who have. It's definitely odd and can be uneasy at first or until you get to know that new person, hopefully who is a good person.

One of my friends told me that it's a sign of having had a good life with the deceased mate and wanting that again. I thought that was a good way to see it. My friend also said that the love for the first spouse is always there and that love allows the person to love again.

I hope it works out for you and your mom.

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My parents were married for 40yrs and a few days later my dad died in his sleep of natural causes. This was 5yrs ago. A few days ago my mother informed me she has a bf. Did any of yall in a similiar situation feel weird when either your mom or dad had a different S.O for the first time? I know she shouldn’t live in grief though.

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Yep. My dad passed unexpectedly five years ago this week. My mom spent the first couple of years in a pretty dark place. She started dating again two years ago and recently remarried. My siblings and I all felt pretty weird about it at first and I'm sure that's normal. We talked about it and decided it was selfish of us to expect our mom to spend the rest of her life alone (she was only 52 at the time) just to make us feel better.

She just remarried a few months ago and we're all just trying to figure this new family out but my mom is happier than she's been in a long time and that's what's most important to me.

My grandmother on my mother’s side lost her husband to cancer way back when my Mother was still high school aged. She (grandmother) went to her mother (my late great grandmother) and asked her after awhile if she should feel guilty about feeling like she wanted to date again.

My great grandmother had a great perspective on it in my opinion. She told her that there was no greater tribute to her husband’s memory and her love for him than feeling so lonely and as if there was such a hole in her life that she wanted to seek out companionship to fill it.

As others have said, your Mom is a grown woman and her choices are hers and hers alone. You may not see things the exact way she does, but you can still support her and love her. Just like she’s always done for you.