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kingbob
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Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
51154 posts

Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
It seems strange to me that it is uncouth and taboo to eat in a restaurant or go to a movie by yourself, but totally normal to have said food/movie delivered to you by a driver.

Is it not a little bit weird that we have a society that constantly berates us for not being social, lamenting the loss of face-to-face contact and conversation, yet also punishes us for going out in public alone? It seems like fewer and fewer places are becoming acceptable places to talk to strangers and meet new people, and fewer and fewer places are acceptable to go alone? It's like the only places it is acceptable to be alone are places where social interaction is 100% discouraged (library) or where intoxication is expected (bar).

Is it just me or does any of this seem a little weird to anyone else?


The Mick
LSU Fan
Member since Oct 2010
39492 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
You got issues kid


kingbob
LSU Fan
Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
51154 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
I really do.


RummelTiger
TCU Fan
I'm A Lover, Not A Fighter...
Member since Aug 2004
79638 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
Learn to be comfortable in your own skin, and you will be fine.

It also helps if you have traveled for work a good bit - you get used to it.


LSUTigersVCURams
LSU Fan
Member since Jul 2014
20691 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
Real answer is because you’re exposed. We evolved to travel in groups. You *probably* aren’t going to get killed just being by yourself in a large group of strange people, but the odds are better that you will be than if you have a group around you to protect you. And over the millennia, that instinct of feeling uncomfortable being alone in public spaces was naturally selected for.


GreatLakesTiger24
UCLA Fan
Member since May 2012
37312 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
Is going to a movie alone really taboo? I don’t think it is.


kingbob
LSU Fan
Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
51154 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
I don't feel uncomfortable doing so when I'm on the road, but I definitely feel anxiety in my home town for whatever reason.


soccerfüt
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re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
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Is it just me or does any of this seem a little weird to anyone else?
If you have to ask, it’s prolly you.

And it’s not just prolly you, it’s you.


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jimlsu1
LSU Fan
Ellicott City, Md
Member since Oct 2008
863 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
I travel a good bit. Heading out to a Sports Bar for some wings and a couple of beers is great. From time to time talk to some people at the bar and shot the sh-t.
I am in my 50s and enjoy it. Would I rather be home? Yes. Make the best of it.
People need to get a grip.


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tigerinthebueche
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Erwinville, LA.
Member since Oct 2010
22778 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
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Is it just me or does any of this seem a little weird to anyon



It’s just you. You reek of insecurity and self consciousness. Find some confidence and comfort with who you are and you can do anything alone or with someone else


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OweO
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Plaquemine, La
Member since Sep 2009
82908 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
WTF? Sometimes I like to be alone in public. Kind of feels like I am more free to interact with others than pay attention to the person with me.

I went to the movies by myself once.. It was during the day, not that full..

What I don't like is when I am eating alone and someone I know comes in and we talk and they just come sit with me then I have to engage when I just want to be in my own mind..


Joshjrn
LSU Fan
Baton Rouge
Member since Dec 2008
14542 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
It’s not taboo, at all. It just makes you feel uncomfortable.
This post was edited on 11/11 at 9:23 pm


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p0845330
LSU Fan
Member since Aug 2013
3436 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
I’m perfectly comfortable doing things alone. I usually do. I don’t like humans.

I roll with my kitties and I’m hard as frick. And possibly drinking.


LouisianaLady
USA Fan
Baton Rouge, LA
Member since Mar 2009
71223 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
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it is uncouth and taboo to eat in a restaurant or go to a movie by yourself,


I think people think that others find it a lot weirder than they actually do. I've never actually seen anyone say its weird, but I often see posts complaining about others finding it weird.


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kingbob
LSU Fan
Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
51154 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
I’ve gone to the movies by myself a few times, and I always hate it. Half the fun is discussing the movie afterwards with the person you go with. Same thing for sporting events. It’s still kinda fun by yourself in a sea of strangers, but nowhere near as meaningful as sharing that experience with friends and/family. It just feels isolating and hollow. Like what’s the point of the experience if you can’t share it?
Eating alone in a restaurant is boring. I do so from time to time at lunch or while traveling, but it just feels empty. The whole process is geared towards creating space for conversation. Without someone to converse with, i don’t know. It’s like a waste of everyone’s time.
I go out by myself to bars and concerts all the time even if it’s not my preference. I do it to meet new people because it’s one of the few places where interactions between strangers are encouraged somewhat.
This post was edited on 11/11 at 8:26 pm


Sao
SMU Fan
University Park, TX
Member since Jun 2009
41639 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?

The older you get the more glorious dinner alone can be. And day naps.


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ragincajun77
Member since Jul 2019
898 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
Damn that's some legit knowledge right there


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STLDawg
Mississippi St. Fan
The Lou
Member since Apr 2015
2035 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
Got a rare weekday off, and I went to get lunch by myself then saw a movie. It was awesome.


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Nephropidae
LSU Fan
Brentwood
Member since Nov 2018
442 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
I prefer to eat alone unless it’s with family. Hate small business talk. Been on both sides, hate wasting energy in small talk. I’m an old man though.


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BRgetthenet
USA Fan
Member since Oct 2011
112117 posts

re: Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
You gotta lay off the weed.

Sometimes for more than a month. It warps your perception of reality.


But, eating out alone is for losers. Never do that shite. You just look sad, and lonely. Get Popeyes or Sonic.


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