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Why does it feel so wrong to be alone in public places?
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:09 pm
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:09 pm
It seems strange to me that it is uncouth and taboo to eat in a restaurant or go to a movie by yourself, but totally normal to have said food/movie delivered to you by a driver.
Is it not a little bit weird that we have a society that constantly berates us for not being social, lamenting the loss of face-to-face contact and conversation, yet also punishes us for going out in public alone? It seems like fewer and fewer places are becoming acceptable places to talk to strangers and meet new people, and fewer and fewer places are acceptable to go alone? It's like the only places it is acceptable to be alone are places where social interaction is 100% discouraged (library) or where intoxication is expected (bar).
Is it just me or does any of this seem a little weird to anyone else?
Is it not a little bit weird that we have a society that constantly berates us for not being social, lamenting the loss of face-to-face contact and conversation, yet also punishes us for going out in public alone? It seems like fewer and fewer places are becoming acceptable places to talk to strangers and meet new people, and fewer and fewer places are acceptable to go alone? It's like the only places it is acceptable to be alone are places where social interaction is 100% discouraged (library) or where intoxication is expected (bar).
Is it just me or does any of this seem a little weird to anyone else?
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Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:09 pm to kingbob
You got issues kid
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:10 pm to The Mick
I really do.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:10 pm to kingbob
Learn to be comfortable in your own skin, and you will be fine.
It also helps if you have traveled for work a good bit - you get used to it.
It also helps if you have traveled for work a good bit - you get used to it.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:11 pm to kingbob
Real answer is because you’re exposed. We evolved to travel in groups. You *probably* aren’t going to get killed just being by yourself in a large group of strange people, but the odds are better that you will be than if you have a group around you to protect you. And over the millennia, that instinct of feeling uncomfortable being alone in public spaces was naturally selected for.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:12 pm to kingbob
Is going to a movie alone really taboo? I don’t think it is.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:12 pm to RummelTiger
I don't feel uncomfortable doing so when I'm on the road, but I definitely feel anxiety in my home town for whatever reason.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:13 pm to kingbob
quote:If you have to ask, it’s prolly you.
Is it just me or does any of this seem a little weird to anyone else?
And it’s not just prolly you, it’s you.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:14 pm to kingbob
I travel a good bit. Heading out to a Sports Bar for some wings and a couple of beers is great. From time to time talk to some people at the bar and shot the sh-t.
I am in my 50s and enjoy it. Would I rather be home? Yes. Make the best of it.
People need to get a grip.
I am in my 50s and enjoy it. Would I rather be home? Yes. Make the best of it.
People need to get a grip.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:16 pm to kingbob
quote:
Is it just me or does any of this seem a little weird to anyon
It’s just you. You reek of insecurity and self consciousness. Find some confidence and comfort with who you are and you can do anything alone or with someone else
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:18 pm to kingbob
WTF? Sometimes I like to be alone in public. Kind of feels like I am more free to interact with others than pay attention to the person with me.
I went to the movies by myself once.. It was during the day, not that full..
What I don't like is when I am eating alone and someone I know comes in and we talk and they just come sit with me then I have to engage when I just want to be in my own mind..
I went to the movies by myself once.. It was during the day, not that full..
What I don't like is when I am eating alone and someone I know comes in and we talk and they just come sit with me then I have to engage when I just want to be in my own mind..
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:21 pm to kingbob
It’s not taboo, at all. It just makes you feel uncomfortable.
This post was edited on 11/11/19 at 9:23 pm
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:21 pm to kingbob
I’m perfectly comfortable doing things alone. I usually do. I don’t like humans.
I roll with my kitties and I’m hard as frick. And possibly drinking.
I roll with my kitties and I’m hard as frick. And possibly drinking.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:23 pm to kingbob
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it is uncouth and taboo to eat in a restaurant or go to a movie by yourself,
I think people think that others find it a lot weirder than they actually do. I've never actually seen anyone say its weird, but I often see posts complaining about others finding it weird.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:24 pm to OweO
I’ve gone to the movies by myself a few times, and I always hate it. Half the fun is discussing the movie afterwards with the person you go with. Same thing for sporting events. It’s still kinda fun by yourself in a sea of strangers, but nowhere near as meaningful as sharing that experience with friends and/family. It just feels isolating and hollow. Like what’s the point of the experience if you can’t share it?
Eating alone in a restaurant is boring. I do so from time to time at lunch or while traveling, but it just feels empty. The whole process is geared towards creating space for conversation. Without someone to converse with, i don’t know. It’s like a waste of everyone’s time.
I go out by myself to bars and concerts all the time even if it’s not my preference. I do it to meet new people because it’s one of the few places where interactions between strangers are encouraged somewhat.
Eating alone in a restaurant is boring. I do so from time to time at lunch or while traveling, but it just feels empty. The whole process is geared towards creating space for conversation. Without someone to converse with, i don’t know. It’s like a waste of everyone’s time.
I go out by myself to bars and concerts all the time even if it’s not my preference. I do it to meet new people because it’s one of the few places where interactions between strangers are encouraged somewhat.
This post was edited on 11/11/19 at 8:26 pm
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:26 pm to kingbob
The older you get the more glorious dinner alone can be. And day naps.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:31 pm to LSUTigersVCURams
Damn that's some legit knowledge right there
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:32 pm to kingbob
Got a rare weekday off, and I went to get lunch by myself then saw a movie. It was awesome.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:36 pm to kingbob
I prefer to eat alone unless it’s with family. Hate small business talk. Been on both sides, hate wasting energy in small talk. I’m an old man though.
Posted on 11/11/19 at 8:36 pm to kingbob
You gotta lay off the weed.
Sometimes for more than a month. It warps your perception of reality.
But, eating out alone is for losers. Never do that shite. You just look sad, and lonely. Get Popeyes or Sonic.
Sometimes for more than a month. It warps your perception of reality.
But, eating out alone is for losers. Never do that shite. You just look sad, and lonely. Get Popeyes or Sonic.
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