re: Why do you think dads love their daughters more than sons and vice versa with moms?

In my gang, 2 of each, the only difference I perceive, is the girls open up more. They will call with more emotional issues and want to delve deeper into the issues. The guys keep that inside a lot longer and want to know the solution. Have a great love & pride for all. I was very aware & tried then & continue to this day, to parent all the same without favoritisms, not a easy task I have to admit. All have driven me up the wall at some point, but the deep love is I feel is equal. This would have been a different journey without any of them.

Because my baby girl loves me with something I can’t even describe.
Those “I love you daddy”s. “Daddy Sing me my lullabies.”


You can’t buy that, at any price. and I know it isn’t gonna last. I’ve got 3, maybe 4 good years left before the change hits. And I’m doing my best to show her that daddy loves her no matter what. That daddy is always gonna be there, even if she hates me. That daddy is never going to hurt her, and she needs to know that she is strong enough and good enough to get through this life.

And I’m trying to raise a sweet, sweet little girl into a woman that respects herself enough That she works to build her value and knows her value.

And doing that Doesn’t mean I love my son any less.

Only different. Because I have to teach him how to be a man. How life is gonna be harder on him because he’s a man. How he’s gonna have to scratch and claw for everything in this life. And the only way to do it is the hard road.

I didn’t understand the hard road until I Became a father. And then, eventually, I began to understand how the old man was hard on me.

TL;DR. Because it takes a hammer to forge a sword, and a gentle hand to raise A flower.

A father wants to show his girl what love is and to know their worth. He has many jobs, the most important is keeping them off the stripper pole.

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From what I've experience, observed and read/heard, dads tend to dote on their daughters more and mothers on their sons more, what do you think the reason is for this?

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I don't know, but my dad rode me and my brothers much harder than the girls. Even during the times I spent 3+ months in the hospital, he still expected me to do things. The only time he relented was after the car wreck, where I spent 8 months in ICU and some additional time in a regular hospital room and rehab. I had to learn everything again (I was seven). But, it made me much tougher, and I thank him for it, and our relationship now is as good as ever.

I'm also adopted (along with several others); we always alleged that the birth (biological) kids had it easier. My parent loved us all the same, but definitely did not parent us the same.

Because men know that little boys are assholes and women know that little girls are going to become women....

I see it as they love each other the same. But dads/sons tend to clash more and mom/daughter as well. Dads also tend to be more protective over their daughters than a son who they feel could protect themselves better. And sons tend to be more protective over their moms & mom's natural instincts which creates a more tighter bond but the love is still the same all the way around

I don't think Dads love their daughters any more than their sons. I think love is the wrong word. Dads are more protective of their daughters, for sure.

Moms tend to love their daughters and sons equally, until they become teenagers, then they absolutely love their sons more until they reach their mid 20s, then they love whatever child is living closest to them most

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And doing that Doesn’t mean I love my son any less.

Only different. Because I have to teach him how to be a man. How life is gonna be harder on him because he’s a man. How he’s gonna have to scratch and claw for everything in this life. And the only way to do it is the hard road.

I didn’t understand the hard road until I Became a father. And then, eventually, I began to understand how the old man was hard on me.

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So much this. And it's so much more important to teach them the hard road now than at any point in human history. The way the world views the male gender today is totally different than it was 30, 40, 50 years ago.

Men have been systematically discriminated against in parenting rights, child custody, criminal sentencing, military conscription, education, domestic and sexual violence laws that neglect male victims and support false accusations, reproductive rights, genital integrity laws, international forced labor laws, public benefits and more, while men and boys face societal misandry and male bashing. Men make 80-99% of homeless adults, job deaths and injuries, incercarated persons, combat deaths, dropouts and suicide deaths (“attempted” suicide rates are unreliable because it is unlikely men report failed suicides as often as women do). Men also die younger than women and have higher mortality rates for 13 of the 15 leading causes of death.

AND NOBODY CARES we're still expected to be men, regardless of having the deck stacked against us.

It's better they learn this now and learn how to overcome it, because it ain't changing.

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Tell me they still love daddy at least some during the teenage years. I am dreading them. Mine are 7 and 9 right now

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Can't speak for all, but mine does. I am the calm voice when her Mom is flying off the handle over petty shite.