re: Why do so many women have issues with their husbands/boyfriends watching porn?

One can read this thread and really tell which posters have wives that know and follow their posting habits.

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Sure but from a male perspective whether it’s medical or mental the outcome is the same.

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Maybe from a male that uses porn as a crutch's perspective. Healthy relationships involve communication about such things.

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Correct, but what about the poor married men whose wives absolutely refuse to satisfy them sexually?

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Bye bitch.

If you ain't giving it up, we'll just get it somewhere else.

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5'3'' 155 is more fit than most normal women

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Might want to up that those measurements can be a pretty delicious woman

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This all seems pretty unknowable.

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The exact details of everything that happens in a relationship behind closed doors is unknowable. We do know that there are millions of women that have personality disorders, or are sociopaths, or are bipolar, etc. So while unknowable, it is assumable that it happens. The question is what should one do in that case? Unless the wife is not emotionally abusive and honestly doesn't want sex because of a hormone, or another medical issue, the answer is therapy and, if that doesn't work, divorce. In case of a medical issue, I think you seek medical treatment and go from there.

Staying with a mean, crazy bitch because you jerk off a couple times a week doesn't seem healthy for anyone involved.

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I don’t think young men are just going to turn down sex because they watched porn. I could watch porn all day and still be down for sex anytime

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The problem is young men are just whacking it in their parents' basement instead of going out and meeting real girls. They also get jaded and get into weirder and weirder stuff or just burn out altogether and lose interest in sex. It's a subset of the online/social media pathology that's affecting nearly everyone under age 30.

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And men absolutely are never anything but completely honest during courtship. It's unsurprising that yall keep leaving that part out.

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I’m happy to address negative male behaviors in a thread related to that. This thread is related to porn and I responded to a post related to women who just decide to opt out of sex in a marriage. You seem to be very sensitive about that which is interesting.

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Doesn't even make sense in this scenario as teh girl has everything she wants and doesn't have to frick the guy. If that's not a win win for her, not sure what is.

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It’s not a win for many women because they still use sex when they want to get their partner to do something for them.

It’s the currency they use transactionally to get their way. If porn reduced the relative value of their currency it’s a threat and is resented.

You can’t possibly pretend you haven’t heard women talk about how they use sex to control men.

It would be like pretending men don’t use status or wealth to attract women.

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I don’t think young men are just going to turn down sex because they watched porn. I could watch porn all day and still be down for sex anytime

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Sure, if p**sy just fell in your lap. The problem is you've already rewarded yourself. Why make the improvements and put in the effort to better yourself when you can just jerk it whenever you want to.

It's deeply instinctual to improve oneself in the effort to get laid. This holds true whether you're single or married. By watching porn you short cut the events that could / would lead to improving oneself.

There's the examples of women holding sex as a form of reward that they rarely give. This is dysfunctional and should be addressed. First, are you putting in the effort to make yourself attractive. Second, are you being a decent husband treating your wife right. If you're doing step 1 and 2 and your wife refuses to have sex regularly (weekly at a minimum imo) - seek help. But if all else fails then this marriage is doomed without faith intervention.

Lastly, but most important is faith based. If you are Christian and have a belief in God then watching porn is breaking a commandment and gravely sinning. "But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:28

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Women like sex.

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Not all women like sex.

Statistically women have far lower sex drives than men across all nations and all age ranges.
Pysch Study: dating and sex drive by cohorts

Here’s an academic study outlining how male sexual interest in their partner at 5 years remains equal to when they were married while on average wives see significant reductions in sexual interest with their partner that continue to decline every year.
Psych Today: Published Study on Sexual Desire During Marrige
Interestingly they further determine that for women the reduction in desire for their partner occurs before they indicate any decline in relationship happiness, meaning they didn’t stop because they were unhappy, they just don’t want sex as much.

They also state “Crucially, it was not due to childbirth. Becoming parents made the mismatch worse, as in steeper declines in wives’ sexual desire. (In one study, but not the other, becoming a father significantly increased the man’s sexual desire!) Nor was it due to stress or depression, though those may have contributed to part of the problem in some cases.”

The authors propose the following hypothesis as to the biology behind the discrepancy:
“female sexual desire increases during the brief phase of passionate love. Nature may have arranged that as a way of encouraging the man to make a long-term commitment. Humans evolved from other great apes, but none of the other apes take fatherhood seriously, let alone provide daily food and shelter for their children’s mother over many years. Human men are remarkably different in that regard… Men’s sexual desire may have taken on an addictive character, so that men become attached and keep hoping for sex even when the yield of pleasure dwindles, as in some drug addictions.“

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The scenario you laid out has a woman that is now rich with a family and access to all the stuff she wants and no way for the man to leave without paying her. What does she still need to frick him for?

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“Honey did you see that new bracelet Olivia has? I’d **** your brains out for one”
“If you _____ it would make me so wet…”

It’s transactional sex. Nothing I laid out is irrational or difficult to understand.

To them their sexual value is just a way to get a man to trade them goods, money or status in return for access.

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All of this is just extremely unhealthy views on sex not held by people in good relationships.

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I agree 100%.

Unfortunately manipulative people are by nature deceptive so you wouldn’t know you’re in what amounts to a contractual financial agreement with someone who is going to commit fraud by deception (sex prior to marriage then no sex later on) until you’re already in that situation and are forced to choose between breaking up a marriage involving children, using porn to cope or being celibate.