re: When You Feel Like You're Lost In Life

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How do you spend your time away from work?

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I have been trying to exercise several times a week but other than that typically just watching series/tv. I'm usually so mentally tired after work I just want to shut my brain off.

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No, they won’t. I go to counseling once a week, and none of that happened. They won’t be able to contact your family unless you give them they’re info.

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That's good to know. I know one of the first steps I need to take is some sort of counseling.

You should consider going on an epic adventure. I don’t mean a vacation. I mean anything that will remove most of your worldly possessions and require you to focus on eating, breathing, sleeping, and survival.

You could plan to hike the Pacific Crest Trail, Continental Divide Trail, Appalachian Trail, or any other long trail. Maybe find a similar option overseas.

You need a complete and total reset of your mind and it’s very difficult while trying to live a “normal” life. Don’t look at yourself as some sort of failure. Consider the possibility that you were built differently and capable of something much more than the daily grind can provide.

I’m on a soap box here but I think that society has advanced quicker than our brains can tolerate. Not all of us were meant to live on a 50x100 plot in the suburbs and go to 30A year after year. You’ve got to find what challenges you and that will be your calling in life

Trust me, I know how you feel. As some may know. I found my wife dead on the floor in our bathroom. Believe me I know and feel the loneliness at times. You have to stay busy. Get into something you are interested in. Keep your mind occupied and I know it’s cliché to say but just focus on one day at a time. Never be afraid to ask God for help. I have not given up on hope. As tough as things are right now and I know the road I am on will get even tougher, I still have hope. As long as we are still breathing we have hope.

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Monday through Friday. I feel like it'll be really difficult to get in to see a therapist and if I do it'll be months away.

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That's an excuse and you shouldn't let that stop you. Plus you said you feel you won't be able to find help after hours, so that means you haven't even tried yet. Dude you will never get better if you don't try to change things.

There are plenty of resources for after hours or virtual meetings therapy. I know if I spoke with my therapist and I needed after hours care, she would do it for me. You said you work from home. Take off an hour or two early and get yourself right. But, don't just fall back on excuses and live in pain for no reason.

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First let me say I have been where you are.
I was very close to the edge, and the thing that caused me to reconsider was the realization of what this selfish act would do to my family.

Life is a series of challenges that God puts before us.

Step up and do what you know is the right thing and God will be with you, helping you every step of the way.
Good things and good people will start to show up in your life.

God loves you.
Let him in.

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I definitely feel very close to the edge. I know people say God doesn't give you more than you can handle but a good part of me truly thinks God has given me more than I can handle. Honestly if it wasn't for what it would do to my family (specifically my mom) and my fear of pain I genuinely don't think I would be here right now. But as hopeless as I sound I'm trying not to give up.

Just do drugs and move to the west coast. No more responsibilities.

No offense man but life is what you make of it. If you don't like your life, then change it. Change jobs. Maybe take a job on a boat or something that moves like the R/R.

Or better yet.... Take a vacation over to Thailand with a few thousand dollars in cash and wrap your willie tight. Have fun. Again, it's all what you make of it.

Or if you want to go the vegan route, then go volunteer in soup kitchens or handing out stuff. Go help volunteer to help others. That's the only real advice I have. You have the ability to change your circumstances.

the best and only thing you will ever experience is existence, and its better to exist in any way than to not exist at all.

even if you are a gamer, and all your friends are virtual.
or if you don't have a life and have so many posts on TD that people should question the purpose of your existence.
its still better than not existing at all. enjoy a sunset, enjoy a beer, enjoy a long ride or a good meal.

eventually you will find someone to hang with. try moving. try a tennis club, or picking up golf, or crossfit (i don't, but they seem clubby). just give it a chance and never give up.
let time take care of you at the end.

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I am single and alone

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Get you a sex doll. Just make sure it doesn't have freaky toes.

A doll for the seks.