re: When You Feel Like You're Lost In Life

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Get a dog

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Seconded. Just know that if you don’t fix the underlying issues, they will come back to bite you in the arse with interest 10-15 years later when the dog dies

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True but I feel like they would be better off without me.

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You may think that, but have you ever asked them? Have you ever talked to any parents who've lost a child due to depression and asked them if they're better off?

Again, I hate to be so blunt, but you're wrong.

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Seconded. Just know that if you don’t fix the underlying issues, they will come back to bite you in the arse with interest 10-15 years later when the dog dies

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I'd love a dog but ironically I'm allergic to them so I sadly can't even go that route. It's incredibly frustrating.

We've all been there, brother.

I went through the same exact thing a year or so ago. It feels like your body is just on autopilot. Getting in that rut is very real.

I sifted through my life and found what was holding me back so I changed them, one of which was my job. I stopped trying to control every part of life and just let it come to me.

Then, I went harder at the gym, ate better, and transformed my body. From that, my confidence in all aspects of life went up

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You may think that, but have you ever asked them? Have you ever talked to any parents who've lost a child due to depression and asked them if they're better off?

Again, I hate to be so blunt, but you're wrong.

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I know it wouldn't take away the pain but maybe it would help them to understand. At least they wouldn't be 100% mad at me. But if all I'm living for is to prevent my family and friends from going through pain is that really enough to live?

I don't enjoy anything anymore. I'm always tired, I no longer enjoy things I used to enjoy, my sleep is awful and not restful, I have trouble connecting with people, my job is killing me and I just don't know why I wake up anymore. I didn't always feel like this way. I've always suffered from some anxiety but it's constant now. I can truly never relax anymore.

Get a hobby you are passionate about. Life should be fun, and I get it, understand where you are coming from, but it’s either get busy living, or get busy dying….. so true. I enjoy fishing and hunting, love nature( no pun-your sign in). Get outside, grab some Vit D, find a hobby that you are passionate about, cause that’s where life starts.!

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My job is tearing me apart and inflation/COL is killing me as well.

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Get a side job working at a restaurant. It will ease your financial burden, from "The Brandon years", and give you a steady flow of hostesses and waitresses to get drunk with.

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We've all been there, brother.

I went through the same exact thing a year or so ago. It feels like your body is just on autopilot. Getting in that rut is very real.

I sifted through my life and found what was holding me back so I changed them, one of which was my job. I stopped trying to control every part of life and just let it come to me.

Then, I went harder at the gym, ate better, and transformed my body. From that, my confidence in all aspects of life went up

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The job aspect is definitely something I would need to fix if I decide to try to keep living.

I agree with your analogy. My body feels like it's on autopilot, hell my whole life feels like it's on autopilot. But there is no spark in my life. My brain feels either numbed or just completely dead. And I have no answers how to get out of it.

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my sleep is awful and not restful

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Probably a large part of your problem. Go get a sleep study done baw.

In the meantime, call 988.

Also, keep in mind that you're a 38 year old white guy living free in America, and not in a Russian gulag taking hot dicks to the throat. That always makes me feel better anyway.

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get you some xanax

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This an anxiolytic and not going to help with depression. Giving someone who already doesn’t care about living something to relax/numb them even more is absurd.