re: What are the parameters for teenagers drinking

This is a tough one but an easy one. Other people’s kids are involved. We did this as kids once took the dads boat out. Got it grounded and had to be towed out by the sheriffs office. We got away with it other than we caused some serious damage to the boat. Maybe have these first experiences with your own kids. Did they try to hide the fact they had a couple beers? Did they do it front of you?

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No drinking if you’re underage. Full stop.

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What I did with my son and his friends. They said "but I can vote, join military, etc.." Told them vote and change them if you will, but until then it is this way. Besides potentially liability is astronomical, and will almost be seen as strict liability, if anything happens and you were providing alcohol to minors even if it didn't have much to do with the actual incident

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Full stop.

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This new nomenclature sucks and needs to end. Full stop

If it was just my own kid(s), I’d likely allow a drink or two if they were over 16-17 (and mature enough to handle it). And they weren’t going anywhere. Keys would be taken.

But other people’s kids? Not a chance in hell I’m letting someone else’s kids drink under my watch. That’s ripe to have your arse caught up in a lawsuit or with CHFS.

When I was in High School the rule was we could drink here if we didn't leave. That was also a time when people didn't sue the frick out of other people for farting in the wrong place and Morris Bart didn't represent 65% of the State's GDP, so I'm sure it's different now.

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We let our kids and their friends drink at our house on occasion. But it's a close friend group, and it's with all of the parent's permission. Mine are 18 and 19 but we've done this since each of them were juniors. 19 year old wasn't good at moderation, so he didn't get very many opportunities. Younger is super responsible and knows exactly how much she can drink and still be okay. What I didn't want to happen with either of them was them turning 18, going to college, and being the kid that never drank and didn't know their limits.

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kids are all grown but we'd let our daughter have a drink when she was a teenager, she was/is one of the most responsible and self disciplined people I've ever seen, the two boys however, were maniacs, if I were doing it these days, full stop

Teen drinking is very bad

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Start them early and hammer personal responsibility

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According to my kids, the worst drinkers in college were the ones who were sheltered growing up.....

In this case, I'd likely call it out because I'd be pissed about having to make another trip to the store. At home, if it was 2 beers, (and I've got teenagers too, so this has happened) I put it in my outdoor fridge that has a key lock. We also have a webcam near the home bar. Kids know its there and know that it records. That said when they UBER to a friends house. We aren't stupid. We know why and we support it.

Once my oldest got to college, we sort of figured it was up to common sense, 18 years of lectures, and God to keep my son safe. He's 4 months shy of 21 now, and we "allow" it, but I get on him if he has had too much. We had several drinking related incidents (NOT automobile related) freshman year. I bet cost us $50k out of pocket. Two involving the ER and two years of surgery and PT. Another where, through the grace of GOD, an LSU football coach saved his arse passed out in front of a Circle K before he could be murdered. Kids are stupid. He won't automatically wake up with common sense and good judgement on his 21 birthday though.