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Watching (Being Present) Your Children Being Born?
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:31 pm
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:31 pm
This obviously for the men, because women don't really have a choice in the matter, but if given your druthers, would you watch your children be born?
This is a hypothetical world where your wife won't bring up your absence every week for the next thirty years.
I really have no desire to be part of that process, just present me with the fruit of my loins all clean and swaddled in pink or blue.
Hell, my Dad was not present for any of his children's births. Each time he took my Grandfathers, his brothers and any other men that showed up to the hospital fishing until the work was over. No one had a problem with it in the 70s and 80s.
But I don't think men get that option anymore, do they?
This is a hypothetical world where your wife won't bring up your absence every week for the next thirty years.
I really have no desire to be part of that process, just present me with the fruit of my loins all clean and swaddled in pink or blue.
Hell, my Dad was not present for any of his children's births. Each time he took my Grandfathers, his brothers and any other men that showed up to the hospital fishing until the work was over. No one had a problem with it in the 70s and 80s.
But I don't think men get that option anymore, do they?
This post was edited on 6/13/15 at 5:35 pm
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Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:33 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
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This obviously for the men, because women don't really have a choice in the matter,
Yes they do. They can choose to watch with the aid of a mirror or not.
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:35 pm to ksayetiger
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Yes they do. They can choose to watch with the aid of a mirror or not
Guess I should change that to "being present".
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:35 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
I would like to be at my wife's side as she goes through one of the most painful experiences of her life.
Some assholes in this thread. If the woman I love is suffering, I want to be there for her. Sorry you all are such shitty people.
Some assholes in this thread. If the woman I love is suffering, I want to be there for her. Sorry you all are such shitty people.
This post was edited on 6/13/15 at 6:45 pm
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:35 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
No, I didn't and wouldn't watch. I am a behind the curtain near my wife's face kinda guy.
And don't even ask me to cut the cord.
And don't even ask me to cut the cord.
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:36 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
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would you watch your children be born?
my wife had a c-section but yes, I was there and I "watched"
she was mostly covered up so I couldn't see everything since I was at her head holding her vomit bucket
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:36 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
overrated and I still don't get the point(after two,) only reason I can see would be taking away some down line ammo from the old lady about not being there, I got nothing from it, I did from holding the swaddling baby however
This post was edited on 6/13/15 at 5:37 pm
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:40 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
I was there for all 4 and happy for it.
WARNING TO ALL ABOUT TO BE NEW DADS
There are sights and smells that will never leave the brain
WARNING TO ALL ABOUT TO BE NEW DADS
There are sights and smells that will never leave the brain
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:40 pm to Salmon
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my wife had a c-section but yes, I was there and I "watched"
The same with my second.
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she was mostly covered up
I saw everything. Was actually less traumatic than watching natural birth for me at least.
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I was at her head holding her vomit bucket
Thank God it wasn't anything like this for my wife.
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:42 pm to shiftworker
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Was actually less traumatic than watching natural birth for me at least.
the bucket full of blood and whatever else they were putting in there almost got to me
I'm normally not the type that gets queasy at the sight of blood, but a bucket of my wife's blood, the arrival of my first child, my wife vomiting next to me, all this happening at 2 am in the morning with no sleep
shite almost got to me
This post was edited on 6/13/15 at 5:43 pm
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:44 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
Was there for two c sections and watched both. Pretty cool. Cut both cords like a champ and the pushed the results down the hall to the nursery. Nothing frickin to it. Wife stayed behind got stitched up and got told hold the kids later. No biggy 
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:46 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
I watched both of my children being born and I cried like a baby. I wouldn't have missed it for the world. Most wonderful thing I have ever seen.
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:47 pm to Lambdatiger1989
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No biggy
Yep. That's why I could not care less about being physically present for the process. I'm superfluous and likely to just be in the way.
I have no plans to have children any time soon, but I just think it's odd how in my lifetime men being physically present went from being kind of rare and cute to "Goddamn it ! You better be there! How could you miss THE MOST IMPORTANT DAY OF YOUR LIFE!?"
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:49 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
pretty sure most of the older men I know were present for their kids births...?
I know my Dad was there for mine and my siblings
I don't think it was "rare" in the 70s
I know my Dad was there for mine and my siblings
I don't think it was "rare" in the 70s
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:49 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
For my first born, I went to all of the Dr. appointments and was present and witness to the birth. For my second, I went to some of the Dr. appointments, but this time was a C-section and I did not look over the curtain.
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:49 pm to Salmon
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I'm normally not the type that gets queasy at the sight of blood
It literally only bothers me if it is mine.
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bucket of my wife's blood
During the actual delivery there was almost no blood. I stopped watching after my daughter was out of her belly. Lost interest in the procedure and was focused on that sweet baby girl.
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my wife vomiting next to me
This would have been the worst part for me. The sight, sound and smell can get to me pretty quick when you're talking about vomit.
:yack:Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:49 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
I very much enjoyed seeing mine be born.
I know some pussy guys who were too scared to be in the room
I know some pussy guys who were too scared to be in the room
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:52 pm to Lambdatiger1989
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Was there for two c sections
the first c section was done by a friend of mine and they rolled out the red carpet for me, my job was to hold the wife's head, right next to me was a beautiful blonde German either anesthesiologist or nurse anesthesiologist and the position they had me in had my head almost laying on her huge Bavarian bewbs, so I guess I can't say I got nothing from it
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:52 pm to Salmon
Seems the 70s was the transition from men in the waiting room to men in the room.
It's About Britain Though...
quote:
"You had some quite progressive hospitals such as University College Hospital in London that started to encourage men in 1951," says King.
The real change came in the 1970s.
"It is very hard to find definitive statistics on this, but from the late 1960s to the late 70s it goes from a minority to something between 70-80%," says King.
The Peel report of 1970 stated that every woman should have access to hospital care when giving birth and the number of home births began to radically decline.
Away from the familiar surroundings of the home, women looked to a birthing partner for more moral support and men started to play an increasing role.
In 1970s sitcom Some Mother's Do 'Ave 'Em, when Frank Spencer's daughter Jessica is born, the hapless father has to ask the doctor's permission to attend the birth.
It's About Britain Though...
Posted on 6/13/15 at 5:53 pm to PurpleandGold Motown
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Yep. That's why I could not care less about being physically present for the process. I'm superfluous and likely to just be in the way.
You sound like you are 12. Probably best if you aren't present for the conception either.
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I have no plans to have children any time ever
Good idea.
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