re: Trad wife- does anyone have one?

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Trad wife- does anyone have one?

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No because the state of the economy is such that two incomes are required.

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do y'all have the same income amount? Genuinely curious.

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It's within 20k with me just recently being the bread winner. She was the this first 10 years we were married.

I should add, without getting too in the weeds, we do help each other out when needed as we do function as a team.

The main reason for this is she came from a home that had a major blow up when her parents divorced and I knew friends if my parents that f'd the other with shared accounts.

We both agreed should anything ever happen where we split, what's her is hers and what's mine is mine.

We even have a prenuptial too and did so as broke young adults.

Marriage without kids is nothing more than a business relationship so I can’t say I blame you for your setup.

I just personally wouldn’t go into a relationship with the level of inherent distrust that you and your wife did. But if it works for you then

We each have our own account and have a joint account. Money passes through our own account to the joint account where bills are paid out of. I spend money out of my account and she spends money out of her account.

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And if she's cracking heads in the office, how does she magically behave soft, feminine and loving at home.

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The same way a man can be a no-nonsense hardass at work and come home to be a loving husband and father.

Also, just because a woman works doesn't mean she's "cracking heads in the office."

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We each have our own account and have a joint account. Money passes through our own account to the joint account where bills are paid out of. I spend money out of my account and she spends money out of her account.

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interesting - my brother makes a lot of money, when he was married he paid all the bills, his wife (now ex) kept her money and he also have her an allowance

They were the only people I know that had separate accounts - so that’s what I think of. But most ppl I know are stay at home moms

Thank God, no. I'd have to work a lot harder and would have probably had my first heart attack by now.

Never had separate accounts...
I don't GAS about money and I figured if wr were married what was the point?

Some have 'em, most don't.

I have for the last 20 years.

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Couples who do this when the kids are in the home have a cheat code to happiness and solid child development. After or before the children, it doesn't really matter to me.

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Bingo. This guy gets it.

Been happily married 30 years and have raised 2 great kids. We both worked when we were first married. Two years into marriage we had our first child, daughter. My wife quit work to stay home and raise her. I took on a part time job to help make ends meet. We chose to give up a certain level of material things but felt it was more important for us the raise our child rather than strangers at day care. Two years later we had our second child, son. By this point I was established enough in my primary job that I was able to drop the side job. We still lived fairly frugal but still thought it was worth it. My wife continued to stay home until our youngest had started elementary school. At that time my wife went back to work part time. It definitely helped with the finances but the reason was primarily because she just wanted to get out of the house and be able to be around other adults occasionally. Once the kids were much older she went to work full time but was off around the same time the kids would get home from school. They both were always heavily involved in sports clear thru them r senior years of high school so it want like that were getting home at 3 everyday.

Both of my kids have done well and are both in very stable marriages and careers, and have small children of their own now. My daughter, 27, still gives me a hug and kiss on the cheek every time I see her.
My son tells me still calls for advice when unsure if things or just wants to bounce an idea off of someone and ends every call with a Love you dad. They both ended up with spouses treat them well.

Not saying there have never been problems. But the foundation was always strong enough to withstand them. It’s a shame that today economics make it almost impossible for that to still be the norm for most middle class Americans.