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Today was the funeral for my youngest son

Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:34 pm
Posted by Purplehaze
spring, tx
Member since Dec 2003
1774 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:34 pm
He was born in 1981 and was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis in 1982. His average life expectancy at this time was 16 to 18 years. God gave us and him a tremendous cross to bear. He made it to the age of 42. On January 12, we found his body in his bedroom. When you have an unexplained death, it is treated as a potential homicide. They left his body on the floor for 3 hours while they did the required investigation. He was then taken away for autopsy. The remains were released to us on January 21. We will not know the cause of death for at least 6 weeks. At his friend’s request, we held a memorial service at the funeral home and then took his ashes with us to a bar he favored. His ashes were on a table next to me and my wife. We held a different type of wake. We had around 100 relatives and friends of Jeff there. There were several drinks for Jeff on the table next to his urn.

The sorrow for this makes my wife and I feel totally numb. The sobs and tears come in waves. A memory of him as a child, seeing some item in the grocery store that he liked, or just watching his dog look for him, and the emotions come to bear. They are flowing now as I write this. I had started a project scanning all of the family photos from albums into a digital picture frame. I know the memories will flow over me and it will be like several tidal waves of emotion. But if I do not do this then I run the risk of forgetting some of the precious time we had with him on this earth. I try to look on this as if God has decided to give us another cross to bear. I keep on asking God, I had my life, I am 74, why did you not take me? But that is not how this works. I have no choice but to honor his memory and lead the best life I can with the time I have left in this world and to not forget him. May God keep all of your children safe and may you never have the heartbreak of arranging your child’s funeral.
Posted by Kafka
I am the moral conscience of TD
Member since Jul 2007
141384 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:36 pm to
Deepest condolences

Prayers sent
Posted by Thedillyplate
Galion by the St. John
Member since Dec 2016
153 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:38 pm to
So sorry May light perpetual shine on Jeff
Posted by Lithium
Member since Dec 2004
61765 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:38 pm to
Haze I am so very sorry.
Posted by GeauxZone90
Baton Rouge
Member since Jul 2010
2916 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:38 pm to
May your son rest in peace. I hope you and your family find closure.
Posted by LSUFanHouston
NOLA
Member since Jul 2009
36860 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:38 pm to
I am sorry.

Living to 42 with that diagnosis is the ultimate sign of kicking arse. Sounds like a good man.
Posted by fallguy_1978
Best States #50
Member since Feb 2018
48215 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:38 pm to
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a dear friend from high school with Cystic Fibrosis.
Posted by TJG210
New Orleans
Member since Aug 2006
28330 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:39 pm to
Sorry to hear, I don’t even have words. I hope you and your wife find peace.
Posted by adamau
Member since Oct 2020
3472 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:39 pm to
I'm so sorry you had to bear a pain that deep. I can't even begin to imagine. I hope God can provide you with peace and comfort in time. I'll pray for that for you and your wife who remain here in this world while your amazing boy has moved on to the most perfect glory of Heaven.
Posted by GumboPot
Member since Mar 2009
118470 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:39 pm to
Condolences. May God bless you and your family.
Posted by Sao
East Texas Piney Woods
Member since Jun 2009
65555 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:40 pm to
Sounds like a great send-off for a well loved son and friend by all. Sorry you're hurting, PH. Best of wishes to your wife and other children

To Jeff
Posted by marigny
land of dreamy dreams
Member since May 2023
91 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:41 pm to
So deeply sorry to read this. So much love in your family; that, no doubt, will only grow.
Posted by TulaneUVA
Member since Jun 2005
25880 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:41 pm to
Tough to read. Nothing I can say will make it better. Life doesn’t make sense and my hope and prayer is that you will be reunited with him one day, God willing. Keep you eyes fixed on that image.
Posted by imjustafatkid
Alabama
Member since Dec 2011
50167 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:42 pm to
So very sorry for your loss, but it's awesome that he lived on for so long. Sounds like he truly blew past all expectations.

You'll be in my prayers.
Posted by GruntbyAssociation
Member since Jul 2013
3501 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:43 pm to
Sorry for your loss.
Posted by LSUWoodworker
St George "God's Country "
Member since Dec 2007
18552 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:43 pm to
I'll pray for you all and your son. He is now with God and whole again. ??
Posted by Meauxjeaux
98836 posts including my alters
Member since Jun 2005
39788 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:43 pm to
Prayers for you and your wife and family, friend.
Posted by dukke v
PLUTO
Member since Jul 2006
202410 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:43 pm to
Prayers on the way… I feel for you.. so sorry.
Posted by RidiculousHype
St. George, LA
Member since Sep 2007
10173 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:44 pm to
A lot of men read this board and will be better fathers after reading this. So your son is still making the world a better place.

You and your family are in my prayers.
Posted by Garfield
Kew Gardens
Member since Dec 2011
7785 posts
Posted on 1/28/24 at 9:44 pm to
It sounds like Jeff lived a great life and had a wonderful father.

My sincerest condolences.
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