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re: To have kids or not?
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:23 am to Tyga Woods
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:23 am to Tyga Woods
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It’s true that you don’t understand what love is until you have a child.
I'm sorry...but parents that use this line on a regular basis are annoying as frick.
It's just very condescending to others.
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Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:26 am to Grassy1
If you are a conservative...yes.
If you are a liberal...no. Why would you want to bring another person into this overcrowded, polluted, soon to be boiling, miserable, racist, unfair existence?
If you are a liberal...no. Why would you want to bring another person into this overcrowded, polluted, soon to be boiling, miserable, racist, unfair existence?
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:26 am to Grassy1
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a child will be the best thing you ever bring into your life
Having a child is the most fulfilling thing I have ever felt. It makes everything else seem trivial.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:27 am to lsunurse
quote:It's different. Facts aren't condescending, you just take them as such.
I'm sorry...but parents that use this line on a regular basis are annoying as frick.
It's just very condescending to others.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:31 am to Hawgnsincebirth55
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You also say that as a man who was stable in his career finances and marriage it sounds like. I believe if you have all your ducks in a row marriage and kids can be great but because so many people push how great kids are people end up having them before they’re ready financially and maturity wise with over half the time the wrong partner. I’m not saying to not have kids but I don’t think as a society we should be so pushy about having them and how great they are. It’s also a disservice to the child if you have them before your ready. My parents had me and my sister when they were both married in their late 20s and early 30s both had good jobs. We don’t need to encourage people who were still living with their own parents 5 years ago to pop out little ones imo they need more life experience
Not necessarily, most people will never “ have enough money” or “ have strong enough marriage”. Having kids is part of the process of working through things as a married couple to make the marriage stronger. Obviously, not right for someone still living with parents. Society needs families who stick it out when things are tough and don’t throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble. Love is a commitment not a feeling.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:32 am to Jake88
No...saying stuff like that implies that people that don't have kids (by choice, not by choice) will never really understand what love is because they are not a parent.
That's why it is condescending.
That's why it is condescending.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:33 am to Grassy1
Depends on if you want to vacation at Disney or Bora Bora.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:35 am to lsunurse
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I'm sorry...but parents that use this line on a regular basis are annoying as frick.
I agree. Some people can't have children, others aren't fit to have children. They still understand what "love" is.
For the narcissist, it may be for themselves, but they still get it.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:37 am to Grassy1
I’ll have kids after I knock out half my bucket list and save some money. We enjoy going wherever we want whenever without having to worry about a kid
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:38 am to RogerTheShrubber
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I agree. Some people can't have children, others aren't fit to have children. They still understand what "love" is.
Exactly. Now yes, I understand being a parent has a completely different level of love...that I can agree with.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:38 am to lsunurse
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No...saying stuff like that implies that people that don't have kids (by choice, not by choice) will never really understand what love is because they are not a parent.
I agree with you. People who don't have children can 100% still know what love is.
It's a different love with a child, I think that's a better way to describe it.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:45 am to Grassy1
at this thread 
Posted on 6/16/19 at 9:56 am to lsunurse
quote:
I'm sorry...but parents that use this line on a regular basis are annoying as frick.
It's just very condescending to others.
There was a time in my life that I didn’t have a child. I now have children. “Love” isn’t the same as it was before I had kids. Sorry you can’t understand that.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 10:09 am to Grassy1
Never wanted kids, I enjoy life too much for them to complicate things
Posted on 6/16/19 at 10:13 am to Tyga Woods
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There was a time in my life that I didn’t have a child. I now have children. “Love” isn’t the same as it was before I had kids. Sorry you can’t understand that.
Good for you. But this doesn’t apply to everyone.
Sorry you didn’t know that kind of love before.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 10:19 am to Ripley
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Sorry you didn’t know that kind of love before.
How can you know what the love for your children will feel like before you have kids??
Posted on 6/16/19 at 10:20 am to GaDawg9977
Look man all I’m saying is you can compare the two sons my grandfather had and compare. His oldest, my uncle, married a woman when he was 21 who already had a kid by another man who was never around my uncle actually raised the child from birth and she knows no one else as her father (he really is a good man) but then they had two more children soon afterwards. Now over 30 years later neither of them were ever able to become truly financially stable they loved there kids but didn’t really know what they were doing parenting wise and of course leaned heavily on my grandparents at times. Then out of those 3 children they had 2 of them had children out of wedlock when they were teenagers with men neither are with today and whole one was lucky to be really attractive and so she married good the other works as a basic nurse relying heavily on her own grandparents and great grandparents to look after her 3 kids. None of them ever had a lot growing up and we’re raised in a trailer house. My father waited until he was 27 to get married and another year until they had me. Both of my parents were prepared for children and made decent money at the time. The first few years were lean at times but we always had one large and one small summer vacation I always had games that I wanted and at least one new baseball bat and if I needed a new glove I always got whataver one I wanted regardless of price. I was raised well and now at the age of 23 I have a better careeer than all 3 of my cousins from my uncle.
Posted on 6/16/19 at 11:07 am to Tyga Woods
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How can you know what the love for your children will feel like before you have kids??
But that wasn’t your original post. This was...
quote:
It’s true that you don’t understand what love is until you have a child.
Maybe you shouldn’t have better phrased your original post to something like “the love you have for a child is unlike any other love you can feel”. Instead of saying the only way one can understand what love is if they have a child.
Quit crawfishing
Posted on 6/16/19 at 11:12 am to Grassy1
If they came already crate-trained I’d be a maybe
ETA: sorry this thread was getting too heavy
ETA: sorry this thread was getting too heavy
This post was edited on 6/16/19 at 11:13 am
Posted on 6/16/19 at 11:13 am to Grassy1
Agreed
My little girl is on an airplane by herself flying to Montana today. She's connecting in Atlanta about now. I'm a nervous wreck about it too
My little girl is on an airplane by herself flying to Montana today. She's connecting in Atlanta about now. I'm a nervous wreck about it too
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