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re: Tired of life going by and missing out (Update on pg 7: new job)
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:39 pm to TexasTiger08
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:39 pm to TexasTiger08
Good luck.
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Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:39 pm to TexasTiger08
I feel ya', my brother. It's alarming that you feel this way even without children, as I didn't sense these things until after having my two daughters.
I miss out on a lot to accommodate my family, but it's worth it in the long run. I can count on one hand how many fun things I've spent money on in the last dozen years. Buying a new pair of sneakers is a huge life event, these days. I read the score of the LSU-Alabama game online after putting my kids to bed, Saturday night. I've only seen highlights of games folks are raving about the next day.
I don't see any grown-up movies, my diet and sleep habits are not good, and I have to listen to Taylor Swift or Disney soundtracks in the car, most days.
I love my children and they've brought a great deal of fulfillment into my life, but if you're gonna be a parent and do it right, be prepared to let a lot of your old ways go.
I miss out on a lot to accommodate my family, but it's worth it in the long run. I can count on one hand how many fun things I've spent money on in the last dozen years. Buying a new pair of sneakers is a huge life event, these days. I read the score of the LSU-Alabama game online after putting my kids to bed, Saturday night. I've only seen highlights of games folks are raving about the next day.
I don't see any grown-up movies, my diet and sleep habits are not good, and I have to listen to Taylor Swift or Disney soundtracks in the car, most days.
I love my children and they've brought a great deal of fulfillment into my life, but if you're gonna be a parent and do it right, be prepared to let a lot of your old ways go.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:39 pm to TexasTiger08
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I know people say you may never be ready for a child, but I think for me to make it work, my wife or I need a career change, or a school change at the least.
Sounds like my wife and me years ago. It’s not sustainable.
At the least, quit coaching. If you’re tenured, you have zero obligation to do extracurriculars.
But honestly, you need more money. That’s my biggest regret. I should have gone back to school for nursing or become an insurance salesman or something that pays more than $62k/year. I enjoy the time off and money isn’t bad, but I’m definitely envious of my friends who are making six figures.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:41 pm to BigB0882
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It sounds like what is taking up all your time is the coaching and extras for the measly stipends.
The problem is with coaching gigs, I can and have opted out. I’m a music teacher, so I have marching band responsibilities. Those I cannot opt out of. I’d have to change to middle school or get a cert in another subject.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:42 pm to BigB0882
Yes, When my school interviews for a SS position they ask what sports they can coach.
Most of the time the SS teachers get hired as coaches first for example: We need a defensive backs coach and a JV baseball coach. Can you do this??? What is your experience???
As I said, I work for a good school and the pay is good. I bet we have 15 SS applications for every job. If you don’t want to coach then teach Math, or Science.
Middle school teachers don’t usually have to coach.
Most of the time the SS teachers get hired as coaches first for example: We need a defensive backs coach and a JV baseball coach. Can you do this??? What is your experience???
As I said, I work for a good school and the pay is good. I bet we have 15 SS applications for every job. If you don’t want to coach then teach Math, or Science.
Middle school teachers don’t usually have to coach.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:49 pm to TexasTiger08
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I genuinely think it all boils down to my job. I’m tired of the 65-70 hour weeks in the fall. I’m tired of working 2-3 Saturdays a month in the fall.
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We are both teachers
WTF? Dude... You're going through life on hard mode for no reason.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:49 pm to TexasTiger08
Quit your job
Today
Dead srs
Today
Dead srs
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:52 pm to TexasTiger08
Teachers complaining about working too hard. Big surprise.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:55 pm to StringedInstruments
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I enjoy the time off and money isn’t bad, but I’m definitely envious of my friends who are making six figures.
That’s a whole other discussion. But I chose this career, so I can’t complain too much about the money.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:56 pm to TexasTiger08
Lately I feel like my job is taking over my life, and it’s making me miserable. I’m starting to dislike people at work I’ve gotten along with for years.
I’m close enough now to the executives to know that no amount of money is enough to have your job be your life, unless it’s something truly wonderful. Not just some highly paid slave to the office.
Right now watching the sun go down from my office is real depressing.
I’m close enough now to the executives to know that no amount of money is enough to have your job be your life, unless it’s something truly wonderful. Not just some highly paid slave to the office.
Right now watching the sun go down from my office is real depressing.
This post was edited on 11/7/22 at 4:57 pm
Posted on 11/7/22 at 4:57 pm to Murray
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Kids changed everything for the better for me. I recommend having one soon and experiencing the clarity it brings.
Agreed. Just start going raw and let God decide what happens.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:00 pm to OysterPoBoy
In a weird way, I think it would help provide me some serious perspective. I think part of that perspective is me already realizing that I don’t want to be a slave to my job. The irony of teaching what I teach is that I would spend more time during the week with other children than my own.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:01 pm to OysterPoBoy
I realize why now, more than ever, transitioning teachers are being more common.
I was on a similar career path with those problems. I transitioned out. No regrets.
I have the same regrets still about all the time I wasted in my past.
I was on a similar career path with those problems. I transitioned out. No regrets.
I have the same regrets still about all the time I wasted in my past.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:02 pm to TexasTiger08
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But I chose this career, so I can’t complain too much about the money.
The point is that you can choose a new career. At any time. Especially if you’re still pre-kids and young.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:03 pm to TexasTiger08
Work offshore?
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:04 pm to TexasTiger08
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I’ll lose $1500 a year,
I obviously don't know your finances, BUT if that's all you'll lose, run to MS now. That's little more than $100 a month ... a manicure, a dinner out, drinks with friends ... she can do her nails, you two can cook and have friends over for drinks. I'd say totally worth it.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:07 pm to tiger91
The $1500 isn’t anything at this point. I will have zero regrets. I just need to find an opening in a nearby district and apply.
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:07 pm to TexasTiger08
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:09 pm to TexasTiger08
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. I just need to find an opening in a nearby district and apply.
I wish you the best!
Posted on 11/7/22 at 5:12 pm to MikeBRLA
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If you are working more than 40 hours a week you are doing it wrong.
He’s a HS football coach. Depending on the size of the school and the emphasis on football, 40 hours could cover JUST the football part, not the additional 40 as a teacher.
No one actually understands the demand. However, coaches CAN make the difficult decision to stop coaching.
TxTiger, I feel your frustrations. I’m in a similar situation myself. Football is part of my identity and I haven’t gone a fall not playing or coaching it since I was 7 years old. I made a decision to step down from a demanding position, partly to be there more for my family. I felt relief at first, but there’s also some emptiness that comes with it. With that being said, it’s going to allow me to be a better husband and dad.
If you’re a head coach and this is how you’re feeling, I suggest stepping away from that and being an assistant for awhile. If you’re a two sport coach, just coach one. If you’re feeling burnout from the one sport, stick with teaching for awhile and enjoy having your fall back.
You’re not the only one going through this. The hours are getting longer and longer for HS coaches. From someone who has experienced both, it has become like coaching college, but with a full time job teaching as well.
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