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re: TIL when you work, you don't have a "mental load" or "everything else" to worry about
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:25 am to Odysseus32
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:25 am to Odysseus32
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I could be a stay at home dad tomorrow.
Have you ever done it? While rewarding at times, it can get old really fast. Especially if you have multiple little ones. I’m not saying it’s more difficult than managing a career, but it’s no cake walk if done properly.
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:25 am to Joshjrn
I saw a reel one time where a woman was complaining that her husband told her to take a weekend away to relax and that he’d take care of the kids/house because “now I have the mental load of planning a weekend somewhere! Even my rest is exhausting.”
I’ve never felt a single ounce of pressure or mental load planning something that I WANT to do. It’s like these people that whine when asked what restaurant they’d like to go to. Is thinking of food really that exhausting?
I’ve never felt a single ounce of pressure or mental load planning something that I WANT to do. It’s like these people that whine when asked what restaurant they’d like to go to. Is thinking of food really that exhausting?
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:26 am to Cosmo
It’s a shame that we killed off all the Indians
Sacajawea walked across the North American continent with a baby on her back and cooked and cleaned and never once bitched
If every white boy could get him a good squaw wife we could all live in peace and probably get a little government cheese too
Sacajawea walked across the North American continent with a baby on her back and cooked and cleaned and never once bitched
If every white boy could get him a good squaw wife we could all live in peace and probably get a little government cheese too
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:29 am to JiminyCricket
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I saw a reel one time where a woman was complaining that her husband told her to take a weekend away to relax and that he’d take care of the kids/house because “now I have the mental load of planning a weekend somewhere! Even my rest is exhausting.” I’ve never felt a single ounce of pressure or mental load planning something that I WANT to do. It’s like these people that whine when asked what restaurant they’d like to go to. Is thinking of food really that exhausting?
People like that are “perfectionists”, in that they subconsciously believe it is important to make the perfect decision every time. To them, if they pick a restaurant, or even a dish, and it wasn’t all they hoped and dreamed it would be, it depresses them. Avoiding that “mistake” causes them a tremendous amount of anxiety. It’s like they aren’t capable of discerning between important decisions and decisions that simply don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:29 am to el Gaucho
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If every white boy could get him a good squaw wife we could all live in peace
Tell that to Kasey Dutton
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:29 am to Tyga Woods
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Have you ever done it? While rewarding at times, it can get old really fast. Especially if you have multiple little ones. I’m not saying it’s more difficult than managing a career, but it’s no cake walk if done properly.
It's not about difficulty for me. I get no sense of purpose or meaning from work. I think what I do is pointless, and I've thought that about literally every job I've ever had. It confuses me how others "enjoy" their work.
I get purpose from being around my family and doing things I like to do. I'm excited to have a daughter. I'm excited to raise someone. I'm very excited to provide for her in any way possible. Right now that means bringing home money so that my wife can stay home and we can have what we need. But if that flipped, and my wife was somehow making more than me and wanted to work, I'd be shaking with excitement at the possibility of taking care of our daughter, teaching her things, taking her places, making her food, hanging out, etc. Even with all the bad that comes with it.
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:30 am to Joshjrn
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People like that are “perfectionists”, in that they subconsciously believe it is important to make the perfect decision every time. To them, if they pick a restaurant, or even a dish, and it wasn’t all they hoped and dreamed it would be, it depresses them. Avoiding that “mistake” causes them a tremendous amount of anxiety. It’s like they aren’t capable of discerning between important decisions and decisions that simply don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Exactly. They’re crazy people.
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:32 am to Odysseus32
Then why not let your wife work and be a SAHD?
I love my work, I love my coworkers, I love being at work. If you’re not getting fulfillment from it, maybe you should do something different.
I love my work, I love my coworkers, I love being at work. If you’re not getting fulfillment from it, maybe you should do something different.
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:32 am to Joshjrn
My sister suffers from this especially in a monetary ROI way. Every decision does not have to be the best use of the funds. Sometimes it is ok to blow the budget on fun things/overpriced restaurants or not do every activity included in a ticket price just to enjoy things more.
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:34 am to Tyga Woods
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Tell that to Kasey Dutton
That lady was a pretendian
She’s actually Chinese
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:34 am to BWHLSU
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Because there's no reason to CONSTANTLY depict white people, especially males, as some sort of pariah
Again, why are you trying to make this weird?
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Get out of your feelings
You need to take your own advice
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:45 am to dyslexiateechur
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Then why not let your wife work and be a SAHD?
Because I can make more money for us. I have an accounting degree and will be over 6 figures by June.
My wife has a psych degree that she got basically because she wanted to finish what she started, but to do anything with it she'd need to get a Masters. And she has said she doesn't want to go back to school. Other jobs in her life that she has had have been admin type jobs where she makes 20-25 an hour. It doesn't make financial sense for me to stay home and her go get a job, just so we can throw half of her pay on daycare when she isn't itching to work.
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If you’re not getting fulfillment from it, maybe you should do something different.
This is something that I've had conversations with that many people don't really get and I've come to terms with it. There is no job that I would like and enjoy my coworkers. Ever. I enjoy being alone. When i think back to my happiest times, I'm alone or with one other person. Work is naturally the opposite of that in the majority of cases. You have to coordinate with other people, you need to work in a team setting, you need to be away from your family. I hate those things. I especially hate those things when it has to occur with people I'm not actively choosing to be around.
It's okay. I have to work to make money and we have a plan for me to eventually be able to not to. Speaking objectively, our plan's success rate is low, and will take a very long time to come to fruition. I've made peace with it, though.
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:46 am to el Gaucho
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Those ropes come in handy when the women have post partum depression
I need you to bottle this up and post it on Tik Tok.
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:48 am to SlowFlowPro
I had nothing but anxiety when I worked I’m retired and wife works part time. Still have 2 kids at the house but much happier. I retired fire service, not great money management or anything like that
I’m retired and wife works part time. Still have 2 kids at the house but much happier. I retired fire service, not great money management or anything like that Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:49 am to UltimaParadox
quote:lots of people. And more every year.
Who can afford to stay at home these days
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:51 am to Odysseus32
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I've made peace with it, though.
As long as you have!
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:54 am to Odysseus32
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My wife has a psych degree
Oh lord
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that she got basically because she wanted to finish what she started, but to do anything with it she'd need to get a Masters.
Whatever you do don’t let her get the masters
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:56 am to madamsquirrel
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My sister suffers from this especially in a monetary ROI way. Every decision does not have to be the best use of the funds. Sometimes it is ok to blow the budget on fun things/overpriced restaurants or not do every activity included in a ticket price just to enjoy things more.
And the irony is that a lot of people like this go paralysis by analysis and end up making no decision, which is generally less optimal than an imperfect decision. But then it’s “not their fault”, so it’s somehow better
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:58 am to Odysseus32
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There is no job that I would like and enjoy my coworkers. Ever. I enjoy being alone. When i think back to my happiest times, I'm alone or with one other person. Work is naturally the opposite of that in the majority of cases. You have to coordinate with other people, you need to work in a team setting, you need to be away from your family. I hate those things. I especially hate those things when it has to occur with people I'm not actively choosing to be around.
This! So much this!
Josh- 100%. My brain cant comprehend no vacation or no new car or dishwasher because I can't decide. Just pick one, it is normally an upgrade from the old.
This post was edited on 10/24/26 at 9:01 am
Posted on 10/24/26 at 8:58 am to el Gaucho
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Whatever you do don’t let her get the masters
She can do what she wants.
Right now she doesn't want to. If she decides she wants to she will have my full support.
That woman worked while I went to school for 3 years which allowed me to be able to just do doordash on the side to supplement our income. Also, independent of that, I want her to do what makes her happy. I have no right to ask her to not try to do something.
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