re: Thoughts On Family Discussions/Arguments

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I love my family. I would do anything for them.

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spend time with them and keep my mouth closed

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Wait is this like dad, mom, brother? or Wife FIL MIL? type family, if its that latter, tell them to STFU

Tread carefully many of families have been ruined over politics.

I always try to keep it positive and fair if it comes up. Wife’s grandmother and uncle won’t leave us alone about the damn vaccine and how this new variant could pick me off. I can’t wait to break it to them that I survived Covid without it. Will do it in person just to see the looks on their faces.

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During election time, I’d agree. Everyone is talking politics. Outside of that

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no, everyone is not talking about it during election time.

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and he's left talking with my Mother for hours on end.

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What kind of monster are you!!!

any member of my family who has anything going on is sick to death of politics and avoids talking about it. the ones who insist on talking about it constantly have nothing else of interest going on in their life. i usually try to change the subject.

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no, everyone is not talking about it during election time.

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I was exaggerating obviously. But it is harder to completely avoid hearing about the election and politics during that time.

Yep, my gay padnuhs are conservative as can be.

It confuses and infuriates my lib sister. Which pleases me to no end.

I leave the room. My husbands parents are “Biden people” and she’s more outwardly opinionated than he is — problem is she spews cnn “info” or just stuff that she doesn’t know what she’s saying.

It starts and up and in another room. Easiest solution I’ve found.

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I'd rather spend zero time talking about politics and more talking about our lives.

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I have the same problem, and I have asked if we can just talk about something / anything different. Our life experiences have given us different perspectives and no amount of oral debate will change our experiences.

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I haven't talked 1 word of politics with anyone in real life in years. Have people made references while talking to me? Sure. I just don't answer, and that's that. If they keep going, I exit the conversation.

It's extremely simple. You're doing it wrong if you feel you can't avoid it. You either want every topic to be about politics or you're hanging out with the wrong people.

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I don't think it's quite that simple any more. Your strategy has been mine all my life. Unfortunately, not discussing some of these things with family can come to a head, because ignoring the discussion can sometimes have real life consequences that impact the ones you love.