re: This police file shows why you should keep up with what your kids do online.

I never, ever understand the folks who get on here and bash others for wanting to establish boundaries and rules for their children.

There are too many messed up folks out there, and too many lessons that are best not learned the hard way.

Purple: the real moron is the person who asks for advices from a bunch of sausage wallets on a Internet forum

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I mean where does it stop? Everyone wants their kid to be in a bubble but you have to let them live to extent or they won't experience life.

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the fact that you equate being online on the computer as 'experiencing life' tells us all we need to know.

"I cant snap chat, I will never see the ancient ruins or go hang out with my grandmother"

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they will be fricked in the real world

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However, I am a Youth Pastor

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Not for long

You set a 9 o'clock bedtime for your high school aged kid?

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During school, his bedtime is 9 ish

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Good fricking luck to that kid when he gets to college. The over sheltered underliberated kids always explode when they get there.

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you should keep up with what your kids do online.

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Absolutely. You should also "keep up" with what they do offline.

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I can't believe some of the comments made on another thread about a parent wanting to keep tabs on what his 14 year old daughter does with a computer.

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The other thread was more about eliminating unsupervised access to the computer than "keeping tabs" on what she does with it.

The rest of your post is a string of insults with a worst case example tied in to create fear. Not sure how much support you planned on gaining with that approach.

As a parent you should, first and foremost, know your child. Be interested in everything they do. Second, have the tough conversations about the dangers they could run in to when they are online or off. Third, establish clear behavioral boundaries with consequences for crossing those boundaries. Then comes the hard part, stand back and give them the space to either behave like the child you raised or screw up and lose your trust.

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You clowns wouldn't let a 13 or 14 year old shoot a gun or drive a car

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Ummm, yes we would.

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just give her uncontrolled and unmonitored access to a computer and trust her to do the right thing.

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Every parent will eventually reach the day where their kid will have "uncontrolled and unmonitored access" to everything in the world. How your kid reacts to that level of freedom is based, in no small part, on how used to making the right decisions you've managed to make your kid.

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what his 14 year old daughter does with a computer

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What computer? It sounds like they were doing everything on cell phones.

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Some of you are friggin clueless and are a bunch of limp wristed limp dicks

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Where in the hell did this come from? Why are YOU so pissed off at nobody in particular?

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You clowns wouldn't let a 13 or 14 year old shoot a gun

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I think most gun owners would allow their 13-14 year old to shoot a gun. All of my siblings and I were shooting guns much younger than that.

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or drive a car

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Normally, no, but that's because you need a license and you can't get one that young. I do know that parents sometimes let a 13-14 year old operate a vehicle in off-road situations.

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give her uncontrolled and unmonitored access to a computer

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You mean a cell phone? Yes, most 13-14 year old kids have cell phones. The chance of their being seduced by someone through text messages is outweighed by the security of knowing they can call for help whenever they need it. I think giving cell phones to teens is a good idea, even though I know they sometimes use them for purposes I would not want them to.

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trust her to do the right thing.

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Eventually, every parent will end up having to do this. It's just a question of when.

From your inexplicably angry tone, I can only assume that you are somehow personally involved in this. Was this your daughter?

I should have became a cop so I could view child porn like this cop got to.

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Hardly true in my experience. It was the party animal high school kids that seemed to be the ones who exploded in college.

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Agreed. This 'kid is gonna go apeshit in college' is one of those cultural myths that everyone seems to believe, but is actually not the norm, at least in the case of everyone i know.